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Post by Ulythium on Sept 11, 2024 11:14:18 GMT
Goddamn, Mike. I'm so sorry.
I don't have the words - just a big (albeit figurative) hug.
Fuck cancer.
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Post by rhaegyr on Sept 11, 2024 11:17:53 GMT
That's awful Mike, really sorry to hear that.
Hope you're coping as well as can be and crossing my fingers for your dad.
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Post by rftp on Sept 11, 2024 11:24:38 GMT
Really sorry to hear that, Mike. That sounds very difficult. Sending all the love and hugs.
We're always here for you to talk to.
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Post by Fake_Blood on Sept 11, 2024 11:25:25 GMT
Talk to your siblings Mike, even if they have other stuff going on it shouldn’t be all on you.
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Post by mikeck on Sept 11, 2024 11:30:34 GMT
Thanks all - I obviously needed some forum love, appreciate the messages and support.
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Post by mikeck on Sept 11, 2024 11:31:42 GMT
Talk to your siblings Mike, even if they have other stuff going on it shouldn’t be all on you. Yeah I will, they're obviously feeling stuff too, just feel as the oldest I should shield them a little if I can, want them to carry on planning for their lives without feeling guilty. Probably best to actually tell them this though and not assume they know it.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Sept 11, 2024 11:33:42 GMT
That's shit Mike sorry.
If it's any consolation kids turn out to be pretty resilient IME with regards to this kind of shit.
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Post by Fake_Blood on Sept 11, 2024 11:37:14 GMT
Talk to your siblings Mike, even if they have other stuff going on it shouldn’t be all on you. Yeah I will, they're obviously feeling stuff too, just feel as the oldest I should shield them a little if I can, want them to carry on planning for their lives without feeling guilty. Probably best to actually tell them this though and not assume they know it. I think that would be best. You don't know how long this is going to go on, so you need to pace yourself. I did alternating visits with my brother when my dad was sick, and we called eachother after to say what's up.
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Post by quadfather on Sept 11, 2024 11:42:21 GMT
So sorry to hear that Mike. Fucking awful.
Fuck work for the time being, and ensure that you're getting breaks yourself from it all, as hard as it is.
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Post by JonFE on Sept 11, 2024 11:44:03 GMT
mikeck I'm afraid I have no words of comfort to offer here other than to cherish every moment you can with him (all your loved ones, actually), support him any way you can and hope for the best outcome under these clearly difficult circumstances... ...and, as always, FCUTA.
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Post by jellyhead on Sept 11, 2024 11:46:06 GMT
Sorry to hear that, Mike and the other FontGeeks going through bad times.
We may not always be able to help or give advice but we're always here to listen if you need to just tell someone, or scream at the void for a while and unload the weight on your minds.
Take care, peeps
... Fuck Cancer
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Post by wunty on Sept 11, 2024 12:24:49 GMT
It's starting to become apparant that my dad is really struggling at the moment and despite trying to remain positive it all feels so inevitable. The chemo wasn't working, he went on radium treatment for four months but this is now not having any impact and he's in a lot of pain. It's now waiting for more tests, and potential options, but I fear there isn't anything else to try that'll work. He's in a lot of pain at the moment, and is a shell of himself. It's so hard to watch, and selfishly at the moment I very much don't want to watch it happen. But I need to be there for him (and want to be), but it's so fucking difficult. I just needed to write this somewhere, as I'm trying not to discuss it too much with the family (not ducking head completely under the sand, but one of my sisters is moving to London to start a new job in a couple of weeks and my other is about to move into her first new house, so avoiding brining the mood down when they have other good life events going on). Think I've realised that all of this is why I'm struggling to crack on with work this week, just processing things in the background and it's making me very unattached to doing work shit right now. I honestly wonder if this is our last Christmas with him, and the impact it'll not only have on me and the family, but also my 7 year old daughter is going to realy struggle (her only family death so far was my wife's very sick mother who died five years ago, so it impacted her very differently then it will now). As usual fuck cancer right up the fucking ass. Ah, Mike I'm so sorry. I remember both my wife's parents deterioating and what it did to her to be with them towards the end. You're not selfish at all for thinking the way you do. I can completely empathise with why you don't want to see him like that. Fuck cancer.
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Post by rhaegyr on Sept 23, 2024 8:49:51 GMT
Uncle finally went last night. Glad he's not suffering any more.
Fuck cancer.
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Post by quadfather on Sept 23, 2024 8:55:44 GMT
Sorry to hear that awful news. At least he isn't suffering any more.
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Post by eleven63 on Sept 23, 2024 9:00:57 GMT
So sorry. God this is a shitty but necessary topic. Thoughts to all having to deal with this x
Fuck cancer.
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Post by Fake_Blood on Sept 23, 2024 9:03:41 GMT
My condolences rhaegyr. Fuck cancer.
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Post by zisssou on Sept 23, 2024 9:07:16 GMT
Sorry to hear that. Like everyone else.. fuck cancer.
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Post by Ulythium on Sept 23, 2024 9:17:46 GMT
Really sorry to hear that, mate.
Hope you're all bearing up as well as can be expected.
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Post by wunty on Sept 23, 2024 9:20:28 GMT
rhaegyr So sorry man. My sincere condolences.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Sept 23, 2024 9:32:30 GMT
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Post by rhaegyr on Sept 23, 2024 9:40:55 GMT
Thanks all.
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Post by mikeck on Sept 23, 2024 9:41:21 GMT
Ah shit, sorry rhaegyr Hope you're doing as well as can be. FCUTA
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Post by JonFE on Sept 23, 2024 10:21:20 GMT
Sorry for your loss rhaegyr. As you say, his suffering has now ended. FCUTA
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Post by Nanocrystal on Sept 24, 2024 23:22:40 GMT
Bit of an update on Mrs Nano. She's now been through three surgeries, the latest a mastectomy which was needed as they found more cancer clusters in her left breast. The surgeon told us this and the procedure was done the following morning, just like that. Also, as if that wasn't enough it turns out she likely has kidney cancer too, seemingly an entirely separate primary cancer. The doctor described her as "an interesting and unusual case". They don't sound too worried about the kidney and have said it's fine to wait until the breast cancer is fully dealt with. So she starts a 6 month round of chemo in a couple of weeks, the full nuclear option. Fun times ahead! Poor thing is really being put through the full gamut. She's still staying remarkably positive somehow, making jokes about having one boob, etc. Funnily enough after the mastectomy people started commiserating me. Surreal stuff. It's all still moving so fast that neither of us have much time to process. Probably a good thing to be honest, we're just doing what we've got to do. jeepers Hope your misses is travelling well and that you are coping ok.
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Post by Ulythium on Sept 24, 2024 23:30:01 GMT
Mrs. Nano sounds like a helluva trouper.
Thinking of you both.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Sept 25, 2024 0:17:20 GMT
Keep going Nano & Mrs Nano, well done ,sounds like you're both giving it your best.
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Post by jeepers on Sept 25, 2024 6:10:16 GMT
Thanks for your best wishes Nanocrystal I’m sorry to hear about your news and wishing you and your wife all the best. Like you, I’ve been amazed at how my wife is coping - it does seem that we both have partners who are the braver, not just the better halves. My wife had her surgery on Monday so is recovering from that. The medical staff were great, especially the anaesthetist who showed great kindness. We’re back in the waiting game after they biopsied the lymph nodes - we hope a precautionary measure. I hope you’re managing to take care of yourself as well as you are your wife and that you both have support from friends and family. Take the best care and sending you bothh best wishes.
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Post by Dougs on Sept 25, 2024 6:57:51 GMT
Best wishes to both families Jeeps and Nano. There's plenty of bravery on show here too. Thinking of you all.
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Post by rhaegyr on Sept 25, 2024 7:10:13 GMT
Thinking of you Nano and jeepers - your wives sound like incredible people, rooting for you all.
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Post by JonFE on Sept 25, 2024 7:29:41 GMT
Nanocrystal jeepers I really hope both your spouses come out of this horrific challenge as unscathed as possible. They both sound very brave and deserve to beat this cunt of a disease. Keep strong and positive and take care of yourselves and your loved ones.
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