hicksy
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Post by hicksy on Jul 31, 2024 11:25:12 GMT
Sorry to hear what your wife and family are going through jeepers. Wishing for a good outcome for you all.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 31, 2024 11:28:58 GMT
Oh man. I'm so sorry Jeeps. You've both got this though - hang on in there and we're all here for you.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Jul 31, 2024 11:35:46 GMT
Oof that's awful jeepers sorry man. As a side note I kind of agree that a candid approach with kids is better.
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Post by Fake_Blood on Jul 31, 2024 11:48:29 GMT
So sorry to hear this jeepers. I was 6 when I was told, all I needed to know was it’s serious, but that’s why she’s getting an operation and treatment after. So you’re probably best to wait till you know what they plan to do exactly.
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Post by jeepers on Jul 31, 2024 11:50:28 GMT
Thanks all. The cancer is early stage and hasn’t as best they know spread to the lymph nodes so there is some good news amongst all the shit.
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Post by Nanocrystal on Jul 31, 2024 11:52:35 GMT
I’d hoped not to join this thread but my wife has just been diagnosed with Stage 2, Grade 2 breast cancer. As best we know it hasn’t spread to the lymph nodes. Upcoming MRI should confirm I hope. She’s about a million times braver than me about it and the prognosis is good but I’m shitting myself and trying to figure how to let the kids know what’s going on without terrifying them. Surgeon we saw this morning advised being candid as some children may feel it’s their fault without reassurance. That was the bit that had me in tears. OK, time for me to share too if only to show you you're not alone jeepers. I typed out a big post for this thread last week but then deleted it, not sure why. Trying to be stoic I guess. My wife (43) was recently diagnosed with breast cancer after going for a check up a few months ago. She had no symptoms, just thought she should get checked out as her grandmother died of it. Turns out it was lucky she did. Yesterday she had surgery to remove a 6.5 cm tumour and today I bought her back home and am taking care of her. She'll definitely need radiotherapy and maybe chemo depending on how the tests come back (they took a couple of lymph nodes too). All of the doctors, nurses and surgeons we've met have been wonderful and we're using the public healthcare system here in Australia which has been super impressive (short wait times, she had her own room after the surgery, and so far we haven't had to pay a cent). I'm also lucky enough in my work situation to be able to take plenty of days off to be with her. We are both staying positive as best we can, but it has been tiring and very stressful. I have had a couple of moments where I've had intrusive thoughts about losing her and it seems too awful to even contemplate. And we don't even have kids so I can only imagine how that complicates your feelings and compounds your worries. It certainly came out of nowhere for us and I never imagined we'd go through something like this, especially in our early forties. Hang in there mate and best of luck.
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Post by jeepers on Jul 31, 2024 12:00:07 GMT
Sending you all my best Nanocrystal. I’m very glad your wife is getting such good treatment. Totally recognise the dark thoughts - I’m trying to push them out of mind (they don’t help anyone, let alone my wife) but it’s very hard, esp at night time.
Take care of yourselves.
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Post by JuniorFE on Jul 31, 2024 12:02:07 GMT
Nanocrystal jeepers very sorry to hear about both your troubles. All the best to you and your families. The sooner this rat bastard of a disease is no longer of this world, the better...
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Post by wunty on Jul 31, 2024 12:48:22 GMT
Nanocrystal Oh god man. Sending you and yours my very best as well. Sounds like your wife is receiving excellent attention at least, and I wish all the best for you both. Remember that this is a place for sharing, with no need for stoicisim.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 31, 2024 12:51:30 GMT
+1, all the best Nano.
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Post by Ulythium on Jul 31, 2024 14:18:12 GMT
Nanocrystal Big hugs to you and your wife as well, mate.
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Post by Zomoniac on Jul 31, 2024 14:19:11 GMT
Massive loves, jeepers and Nano. Big hugs to both of you and your partners.
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Post by mikeck on Jul 31, 2024 14:27:23 GMT
Much love Jeepers and Nano, to you and your partners and families. Really hoping for the very best for you all x
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Post by rhaegyr on Jul 31, 2024 14:29:18 GMT
Best of luck to you and your wife too NanocrystalAll here rooting for you x
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Post by dfunked on Jul 31, 2024 14:31:08 GMT
Fingers crossed for you both jeepers and nano.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Jul 31, 2024 15:11:08 GMT
Much love too, Nano.
As always and forever, FCUTA.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Jul 31, 2024 19:09:02 GMT
Good luck Nano, that's rough.
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Post by JonFE on Jul 31, 2024 19:25:49 GMT
As always, I'm at loss of words when I see this thread bumped...
All the best to both you and your partners, Jeepers and Nanocrystal, fingers crossed for their full and safe recovery 🙏
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Post by Tomo on Jul 31, 2024 19:30:46 GMT
Hugs and thoughts all round team. Best of luck to your families xxx
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Post by rftp on Jul 31, 2024 19:41:40 GMT
Very sorry to read all this. Sending love and positivity to everyone.
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hicksy
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Post by hicksy on Jul 31, 2024 20:34:37 GMT
Sorry to hear of your wife’s and families battle Nanocrystal. Best wishes to you all for her recovery and future health.
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Post by quadfather on Aug 1, 2024 7:35:32 GMT
Sorry to hear this jeepers and nano.
My sister had the same and it's been around 2 years now since the treatment and so far, all good.
Let's hope you both have the same result
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Post by zisssou on Aug 1, 2024 8:23:56 GMT
Sorry to hear both. I try to avoid this thread at all costs. It's fucking hard.
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Post by simple on Aug 2, 2024 0:10:23 GMT
Much love to you both Jeepers and Nano - and your families too of course. So sorry to read what you’re going through.
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Post by drhcnip on Aug 2, 2024 0:34:35 GMT
Shit, jeepers & nanocrystal, sorry to hear what you’re going through. So much of your posts I can empathise with. The thoughts of loss and helping the children cope really strike home.
Much love to you, your wives & your families and here for you if you need to bend the ear of someone who’s been through it from the spouse’s point of view. I may not post much any more but I do lurk. Best of luck to your respective wives with their treatment and care.
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Post by GigaChad Sigma. on Aug 4, 2024 8:58:58 GMT
I'm visiting my friend for a bit of moral support and company as a few months ago he was diagnosed with advanced bowel cancer. He had surgery last week and was released on Wednesdays so is obviously very weak. Bed to the couch/bathroom is about the extent of movement and that's quite taxing.
Had a bit of a scary moment last night with a bad reaction to the morphine but got through that and going to switch to codeine now.
On the plus side mental health is good and he is able to eat solids (now has a stoma bag) so hopefully eating will help with energy.
I'm going to do the lawns and clean up a bit before I drive back to London but it's a 5 - 6 hour drive so if something happens I'm not clos. Although he has some friends closer he lives by himself, so it's scary times.
We are both in our 40's and I'm guilty of taking my health for granted so I guess all I'd say is, get a prostate check ASAP and try not to take your mobility, health and freedom for granted as it can all be taken from you in a short space of time.
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Post by Nanocrystal on Aug 20, 2024 3:15:34 GMT
Update on Mrs Nano. After testing the bit they removed during her first surgery, they want to go back in and take a little bit more just so that the margins are safe. So she's going back for a second operation next week. They also found that the cancer had spread to one of her lymph nodes so they're gonna take a bunch more of those out, and given her relatively young age and the aggressive nature of the cancer, she's gonna have both chemo and radiotherapy. So we're in for a fun time for the next few months. She's also having full body and bone CT scans this week so fingers crossed that those are clear. She's in amazingly good spirits though, and has already decided to donate her hair to a charity that makes wigs for kids. It still all feels completely surreal to both of us, like we've fallen into a fast-flowing river and are being swept along.
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Post by Fake_Blood on Aug 20, 2024 4:49:08 GMT
Sounds like they are going to hit it with everything they’ve got Nano. There’s no two ways about it, the next couple of months are going to suck, but it’s better to be sure with these things. Good to hear that she’s in good spirits, that does a lot. It is indeed a like a fast flowing river, as there isn’t a whole lot you personally can do. Here’s hoping for the best, for both of you. Keep posting here whenever you feel like it, it helps.
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Post by Nanocrystal on Aug 20, 2024 4:55:55 GMT
Exactly, the "nuke it from orbit" strategy!
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Post by Frog on Aug 20, 2024 5:56:24 GMT
Best of luck Nano, if you need somewhere to vent at any point we are all here for you.
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