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Post by quadfather on Aug 20, 2024 6:05:57 GMT
Good luck nano, hope it goes as best as it can
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Post by jeepers on Aug 20, 2024 6:14:24 GMT
Sending all best wishes to you and your wife Nano. Take care of yourselves as best you can.
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Post by JonFE on Aug 20, 2024 7:14:57 GMT
Not much to add here Nanocrystal, keep strong, hope for the best and FCUTA!
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Post by drhcnip on Aug 20, 2024 7:19:30 GMT
Aye, the experience whips you out of the real world completely, everything feels like it’s happening in a bubble. Those lymph nodes are a pain in the arse.
Thinking of both of you & hope the treatment goes well. Xx
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Post by Ulythium on Aug 20, 2024 7:27:49 GMT
Nothing new or insightful to add, Nano - as others have already said, best of luck to you both, and we're here if you need us.
All the best.
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Post by rhaegyr on Aug 20, 2024 7:31:16 GMT
Best of luck nano, can't imagine what you're going through but we're all rooting for you both.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Aug 20, 2024 7:44:20 GMT
I think we're all united in saying FCUTA. Thinking of you and your wife mate.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Aug 20, 2024 7:54:47 GMT
Good luck Nano.
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Post by FlexibleFeline on Aug 20, 2024 8:01:10 GMT
Wishing your wife and your good self all the best, Nano.
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Post by wunty on Aug 20, 2024 8:29:49 GMT
Update on Mrs Nano. After testing the bit they removed during her first surgery, they want to go back in and take a little bit more just so that the margins are safe. So she's going back for a second operation next week. They also found that the cancer had spread to one of her lymph nodes so they're gonna take a bunch more of those out, and given her relatively young age and the aggressive nature of the cancer, she's gonna have both chemo and radiotherapy. So we're in for a fun time for the next few months. She's also having full body and bone CT scans this week so fingers crossed that those are clear. She's in amazingly good spirits though, and has already decided to donate her hair to a charity that makes wigs for kids. It still all feels completely surreal to both of us, like we've fallen into a fast-flowing river and are being swept along. Best wishes for your wife and thinking of you as well man. Looks like she is getting the best possible care.
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Post by wunty on Aug 20, 2024 8:33:13 GMT
I'm visiting my friend for a bit of moral support and company as a few months ago he was diagnosed with advanced bowel cancer. He had surgery last week and was released on Wednesdays so is obviously very weak. Bed to the couch/bathroom is about the extent of movement and that's quite taxing. Had a bit of a scary moment last night with a bad reaction to the morphine but got through that and going to switch to codeine now. On the plus side mental health is good and he is able to eat solids (now has a stoma bag) so hopefully eating will help with energy. I'm going to do the lawns and clean up a bit before I drive back to London but it's a 5 - 6 hour drive so if something happens I'm not clos. Although he has some friends closer he lives by himself, so it's scary times. We are both in our 40's and I'm guilty of taking my health for granted so I guess all I'd say is, get a prostate check ASAP and try not to take your mobility, health and freedom for granted as it can all be taken from you in a short space of time. I would echo this. Get checked out and if there's anything you don't feel right about yourself, however small, make an appointment. Some of us don't want to make a fuss, or we don't want anyone to think we're overplaying it. It's not hypochondria, it's taking care of yourself.
Hope your friend is doing okay and he makes a good recovery.
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Post by zisssou on Aug 20, 2024 9:04:52 GMT
All the best Nano!
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Post by mcmonkeyplc on Aug 20, 2024 9:30:46 GMT
Good luck Mr and Mrs Nano and Nano family!
Fuck that cancer up good and proper.
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Post by JuniorFE on Aug 20, 2024 10:28:16 GMT
Echoing the FCUTA calls for the Nano family! Here's hoping that after the next couple of months it's nothing but a memory for you all to look back on together.
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Post by rftp on Aug 20, 2024 10:28:56 GMT
All the best, Nanos. Everything cross for you all.
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Post by Dougs on Aug 20, 2024 10:43:39 GMT
Yup, all the very best. The bravery in this thread is astonishing.
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Post by drakesmoke on Aug 20, 2024 12:51:28 GMT
You got this Mrs Nano, and I’m sorry you’re all having to go through this.
It’s a terrible thread to have to have but it’s great to see everybody support one another.
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Post by jeepers on Aug 20, 2024 16:30:41 GMT
It’s a day for updates.
We got the results from my wife’s MRI which was as good (?) as we could have reasonably expected. The tumour is larger than they had thought at 35mm and there are two adjacent “suspicious” lumps of c. 10mm each.
But the lymph nodes are unaffected on both sides and her other breast is clear.
So confirmed as Stage 2 - we’d both been catastrophising that the scan would reveal a much worse prognosis so this is good.
It does mean that the surgery will be delayed by a new biopsy for the smaller lumps but the medical team are comfortable that this lag won’t impact the cancer’s growth in any meaningful way.
It’s taking me longer to process this than I expected but I think this is a “good version of bad news” situation.
My wife continues to be braver than I am.
Sending my best to you, Nano, in the hope that you get some good news also.
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Post by Ulythium on Aug 20, 2024 16:37:08 GMT
Thinking of Team Jeepers as well, mate - glad to hear your news is on the good side of the scale, and hopefully the smaller lumps will prove to be benign.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Aug 20, 2024 16:54:32 GMT
Good luck to you and Mrs Jeepers.
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Post by Dougs on Aug 20, 2024 17:01:50 GMT
I don't want to like that Jeeps, obviously but sounds like the best you could have hoped for. Fingers crossed for the next step. Look after yourselves.
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Post by quadfather on Aug 20, 2024 17:02:59 GMT
Good luck Jeepers, hope you both smash the bastard
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Post by hicksy on Aug 20, 2024 19:08:01 GMT
Good luck Jeepers and Nano love to families!
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Post by JuniorFE on Aug 20, 2024 20:09:08 GMT
Fingers, toes etc crossed for the Jeepers as well! May you all make it out of your respective troubles as painlessly and quickly as possible!
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Post by simple on Aug 20, 2024 21:26:25 GMT
Best wishes and all power to the Nano and Jeepers families.
And thirding the idea of getting anything concerning checked out. My digestive issues turned out to be something perfectly manageable that I’m medicated for now but it could easily be the sort of thing that a lot of men our age choose to just live with or ignore out of embarrassment. Which is mad when there’s an outside chance it could’ve been more.
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Post by Nanocrystal on Aug 20, 2024 21:29:45 GMT
That definitely sounds positive jeepers, great to hear!
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Post by drhcnip on Aug 20, 2024 22:41:27 GMT
It’s a day for updates. We got the results from my wife’s MRI which was as good (?) as we could have reasonably expected. The tumour is larger than they had thought at 35mm and there are two adjacent “suspicious” lumps of c. 10mm each. But the lymph nodes are unaffected on both sides and her other breast is clear. So confirmed as Stage 2 - we’d both been catastrophising that the scan would reveal a much worse prognosis so this is good. It does mean that the surgery will be delayed by a new biopsy for the smaller lumps but the medical team are comfortable that this lag won’t impact the cancer’s growth in any meaningful way. It’s taking me longer to process this than I expected but I think this is a “good version of bad news” situation. My wife continues to be braver than I am. Sending my best to you, Nano, in the hope that you get some good news also. Having been there, in some ways being the spouse in the situation is harder. Sometimes the person with the cancer can deal with it rationally and clearly once they have the facts to deal with. Never failed to surprise me how my wife managed that. It’s hard having to be that person’s rock in the hardest times, often trying to contain your own catastrophising, worry and fears. It does take time to process, especially as the whole thing is a ‘hope for the best, prepare for the worst’ scenario, but overall that’s positive news, mate, especially with the lymph nodes being unaffected. Stage 2 is a relatively comfortable place to be, given the circumstances, and two lumps are manageable. Hope things continue to be well-managed and that she gets the care and treatment she needs. Thinking of you both.
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Post by JonFE on Aug 20, 2024 23:03:47 GMT
Nothing more to add jeepers, try to stay strong, positive and FCUTA as always!
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Post by wunty on Aug 21, 2024 9:08:42 GMT
All the best to you both as well jeepers. Undoubtedly a terrifying thing to face and try to rationalise but it seems the prognosis is a positive one at this stage in terms of what needs to be done next. Thoughts with you both.
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Post by mikeck on Sept 11, 2024 11:05:24 GMT
It's starting to become apparant that my dad is really struggling at the moment and despite trying to remain positive it all feels so inevitable. The chemo wasn't working, he went on radium treatment for four months but this is now not having any impact and he's in a lot of pain. It's now waiting for more tests, and potential options, but I fear there isn't anything else to try that'll work. He's in a lot of pain at the moment, and is a shell of himself. It's so hard to watch, and selfishly at the moment I very much don't want to watch it happen. But I need to be there for him (and want to be), but it's so fucking difficult.
I just needed to write this somewhere, as I'm trying not to discuss it too much with the family (not ducking head completely under the sand, but one of my sisters is moving to London to start a new job in a couple of weeks and my other is about to move into her first new house, so avoiding brining the mood down when they have other good life events going on). Think I've realised that all of this is why I'm struggling to crack on with work this week, just processing things in the background and it's making me very unattached to doing work shit right now.
I honestly wonder if this is our last Christmas with him, and the impact it'll not only have on me and the family, but also my 7 year old daughter is going to realy struggle (her only family death so far was my wife's very sick mother who died five years ago, so it impacted her very differently then it will now). As usual fuck cancer right up the fucking ass.
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