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Post by drhcnip on Dec 25, 2023 1:34:55 GMT
*raises a glass*
Been very fragile and emotional the last week or so, just hoping I can hold it together at the right times over the next few days…😂 take care of yourselves, folks x
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Post by Danno on Dec 25, 2023 1:52:16 GMT
To one and all: feel free to PM me if you need to vent. Can also jump onto PSN/Switch for a game of something, chat on Disc, whatever.
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Post by Nanocrystal on Dec 25, 2023 3:05:24 GMT
Hope everyone is doing ok. Mrs Nano has struggled a lot with depression this year but has turned a corner in the past few weeks. A combination of meds, exercise and lots and lots of therapy has really helped her. We are looking forward to giving the shitty year that has been 2023 the finger next week and moving on to hopefully better times.
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Post by drhcnip on Dec 25, 2023 3:58:19 GMT
Good luck to her! Been giving shitty years the finger since 2020 and hoping 2024 will finally turn a corner for me
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Post by damagedinc on Dec 25, 2023 12:34:47 GMT
Hope everyone is doing ok. Mrs Nano has struggled a lot with depression this year but has turned a corner in the past few weeks. A combination of meds, exercise and lots and lots of therapy has really helped her. We are looking forward to giving the shitty year that has been 2023 the finger next week and moving on to hopefully better times. Often thought about therapy but always put it off. Mainly the cost. Those that do have it always seem to have positives |
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Post by Jambowayoh on Dec 25, 2023 12:44:14 GMT
Hope everyone is doing ok. Mrs Nano has struggled a lot with depression this year but has turned a corner in the past few weeks. A combination of meds, exercise and lots and lots of therapy has really helped her. We are looking forward to giving the shitty year that has been 2023 the finger next week and moving on to hopefully better times. Often thought about therapy but always put it off. Mainly the cost. Those that do have it always seem to have positives Speaking for myself it was the best thing I ever did. I only initially went for after cancer treatment but there was much under the surface bubbling away that I had never wanted to face, stuff going as far as back as my childhood. I really should go back as it works better the more you go. You go to a doctor for a broken arm why not your mind? |
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Post by robthehermit on Dec 25, 2023 12:55:29 GMT
Merry Christmas. I hope everyone has the best day they can under their circumstances.
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Post by geefe on Dec 25, 2023 12:56:24 GMT
Yeah counselling 100%. If I hadn't had it, wouldn't be dealing with mum the way I am today. Yes, it costs but honestly even a few sessions at £40 a go can change your life
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Post by quadfather on Dec 25, 2023 15:54:58 GMT
Yup, absolutely. 45 quid for my sessions. Considering what it achieved, I'd pay 450 quid a session. Also, merry Christmas, and here's a lovely picture of my elaborate Christmas tree for you all to behold photos.app.goo.gl/DkXLAStQiRhPHH6m8 |
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Post by Jambowayoh on Dec 25, 2023 15:55:48 GMT
I like it.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 25, 2023 15:57:20 GMT
Thanks, took hours
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Post by drhcnip on Dec 25, 2023 16:35:51 GMT
If I hadn’t had the intensive trauma therapy I had this year I’d still be in bits on the ground as previous rounds had little impact….that was on the nhs, mind, though I’d pay for it if I needed it and could afford it…
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Post by geefe on Dec 25, 2023 17:42:47 GMT
I've done the grown up thing, laid down boundaries and come home a day early. She's upset but it means that I don't say or do anything that causes further damage. She was that drunk she barely remembers any of it.
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Post by mikeck on Dec 25, 2023 17:46:11 GMT
Another plus one for therapy, absolutely what I needed a few years ago after panic attacks and depression.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 25, 2023 17:46:35 GMT
Geefe, just keep going man. She's doing her version of what you're going through. It will all work out.
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Post by mikeck on Dec 25, 2023 17:47:12 GMT
Sounds like a hard decision Geefe, but the right one for you. Sorry you've been through it even more these past few days, sounds horrid.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 25, 2023 19:22:47 GMT
I like it too. But it's bittersweet so I have to take the rough with the smooth. But I do like making new Christmases and new years now, as it helps me move forward with new memories. Unfortunately, this year is going to be exceptionally quiet. Not meeting up with sisters till January, my mates in the village here are going away and the only pub here is closed on the day, so I will be coming up with various things to do. Still, never know, might really enjoy the solace. Fire, food, music and cosy etc. But yes, the build up is frothing consumerism at its finest. Turns out it's bloody great  I've been super chilled today, fire is going a treat, I'm pissed and stoned playing the bass guitar to some random music and I fancy those beef ribs later! Marvellous! |
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Post by pierrepressure on Dec 31, 2023 9:50:00 GMT
Hi folks, a bit of advice needed, I've mentioned in the parenting thread several times regarding our troublesome 16 year old.
He's been a bit of a nightmare and got progressively worse over the last 5 years to the point that he's now on edibles and we believe he's vaping THC.
This has put me under considerable strain, my job is quite stressful and to then have to come home and deal with this is taking its toll.
I don't know what depression sounds like or looks like but I just feel like I have this massive weight on me and it all feels like too much at times.
I've tried suggesting some family therapy but the teenager does not want to do it and I can't make him, I can't really make him do anything anymore.
Would it be beneficial if I saw someone on my own?
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Post by Danno on Dec 31, 2023 11:42:20 GMT
An unequivocal yes from me.
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Post by drhcnip on Dec 31, 2023 11:47:40 GMT
Aye, I’d agree too - take care of yourself, pal
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Post by LegendaryApe on Dec 31, 2023 11:55:30 GMT
Absolutely yes
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Post by Jambowayoh on Dec 31, 2023 12:20:25 GMT
Another yes to add to the pile.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 31, 2023 13:25:13 GMT
Yeah definitely, do it
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Post by retro74 on Dec 31, 2023 17:08:18 GMT
pierrepressure agree with the comments above. Also although it’s clearly an issue I wouldn’t worry too much about the recreational drug taking I know loads of people that were smoking weed every single day from 15 and they turned out fine. Nearly everyone grows out of it and it’s less harmful than alcohol Clearly some people move onto other substances but in my experience that is rare
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Post by pierrepressure on Dec 31, 2023 17:15:30 GMT
pierrepressure agree with the comments above. Also although it’s clearly an issue I wouldn’t worry too much about the recreational drug taking I know loads of people that were smoking weed every single day from 15 and they turned out fine. Nearly everyone grows out of it and it’s less harmful than alcohol Clearly some people move onto other substances but in my experience that is rare Thank you for the words of support it's really appreciated. I've gone back and forth on the weed thing, I was young myself many moons ago! A large part of it is the company he keeps and the worry about it becoming a gateway to other stuff, we've already clocked on his Instagram discussion around wockhardt lean which Google tells me is codeine and promethazine! So he's well on his way there. Feels like there's not any support out there for us as a family right now other than upping sticks and moving somewhere a million miles from here which we are seriously considering! |
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Post by damagedinc on Feb 7, 2024 9:41:41 GMT
Still going round and round in circles with my stress/anxiety depression.
I had some massive on set headache in October which I had scans for etc and got the all clear. I now have permanent tinitus. Bounced around trying different meds but back on sertraline 200mg.
Doc is very reluctant to give me any medication for stress. Doesn't think it will help long term. Just feel like I need something to help when it's at its worse. Which is now 2 to 3 times a week.
I've got back in the gym which is helping and cut my alcohol and caffeine.
Just wondering if anyone else got any specific meds for stress/anxiety in combo with a anti depressant.
They wanted to sign me off work but I am very reluctant to do that. Especially as work is ok and a good distraction sometimes. They spin it as it being one less thing to focus on.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 7, 2024 9:56:42 GMT
damagedincI was prescribed beta blockers for anxiety when I was in my 20s. I have no idea how they might interact with other things but there were pros and cons. Pros - absolutely plateau’d me meaning that whilst I did on occasion still have to spot/control panics that it was much easier to do so Cons - lethargy (may not interact well with your exercise regime) - affects circulation - I essentially developed temporary Reynauds Syndrome in my index fingers (bone white and cold to the touch!) - They slowed my heart rate down so much that I wanted to panic about dying (which I couldn’t do easily because of the drugs lol) - Further to above, there are dangers regarding the heart in side effects and in particular for those reasons you have to wean off them (stupidly I did this without medical advice or supervision). None of that probably makes sense. I had a very particular thing where I fainted in first aid training on a bit about heart attacks (cringe) and then kept getting panic attacks/build ups to them under any kind of stress, but in particular enclosed spaces with lots of people. Team meetings were not fun. My pet theory is that they reminded the lizard brain of the first aid class setup. The experience of those pills was mixed, but it did ultimately do me a solid. It didn’t completely stop the panic stuff but it took the edge off enough so that I could think straight and do the breathing exercises/CBT think my way out of them and then those skills stayed when I came off them. They also did reduce the frequency despite some of my above comments. They have strong physiological effects though so you’d have to speak to the quack. Edit - I also want to say that over time I came to accept that this was a thing I would live with and manage, much like people with chronic physical stuff do. Not a fun thought, but that acceptance actually helps a lot in being kind to myself and realising when I need to step away from something.
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Post by Dougs on Feb 7, 2024 10:15:24 GMT
I take beta blockers for a heart issue. I came off them a few years back and my energy levels definitely improved and for a while I was fine. Over the summer though I was getting more heart issues and more anxiety as a result (which feeds an increased HR), so went back on them. Much much happier. If a little more tired!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 7, 2024 12:39:59 GMT
I take beta blockers for a heart issue. I came off them a few years back and my energy levels definitely improved and for a while I was fine. Over the summer though I was getting more heart issues and more anxiety as a result (which feeds an increased HR), so went back on them. Much much happier. If a little more tired! Old man is on statins and my auntie has very similar health problems. My folks have a tradition where there’s a meal at theirs where my lot, my sister and brother in law, my gran and auntie attend. It’s usually beef wellington. Anyway my dad out of nowhere just blurts out, max volume to my aunts ‘ARE YOU ON STATINS YET MARGARET’* and much hilarity ensued. My brother-in-law named him Joseph Statin, first of his name and this is what I have my dad’s phone contact as now. He doesn’t know. Sorry maybe inappropriate for the thread but reading about these kind of meds just brought that back, maybe it may raise a smile. *not her real name |
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Post by damagedinc on Feb 7, 2024 14:32:27 GMT
Cheers guys.. think it's been mentioned before but therapy probably the next step.
From above sounds like meds can be equally as problematic which is why they're maybe reluctant. I just want to calm down!which is why alcohol is an issue. Managed to significantly step that back aswell at same time as starting the gym. So body probably in shock.
Just all so exhausting
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I've been super chilled today, fire is going a treat, I'm pissed and stoned playing the bass guitar to some random music and I fancy those beef ribs later! Marvellous!
