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Post by damagedinc on Aug 16, 2021 13:48:55 GMT
Another thread from the OG site that helped alot of people.
The good the bad and the ugly. Anyone taking advice in here, the obvious is that if you're really struggling reach out to those that love you, Dr or someone you trust.
However...there is a lot of people that have had issues in the past on these forums, so alot to gain from opening up and maybe this is the only place you can do it......
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 15, 2021 6:58:51 GMT
another cheery thread for me to post in...had a massive mental collapse last week, which i think has been coming for a while....basically threw myself back into work after my wife's death to the expense of everything else, including myself... ended up with my sister over at the weekend, taking one look at me and calling 111 for advice who made an immediate mental health care referral so i've been armed with the crisis number for the past few days after speaking to them on sunday, had a conversation with the doc on monday, the counselling team yesterday and about to go to the mental health assessment centre for a detailed review... lord knows where all this will end up but i suppose life can't really get any more shit for me now...  |
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Post by Dougs on Sept 15, 2021 7:10:09 GMT
Sorry to hear that. But you've done the right thing by asking for help. Good luck dude.
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 15, 2021 7:11:41 GMT
cheers, matey - i'd already lined up some iapts support and sent feelers out for more bereavement counselling but it's all accelerated in the last few days
i'm all too quick to try and help other people in life, never myself...lesson learnt, i suppose....XD
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Post by chug666 on Sept 15, 2021 7:19:33 GMT
Really hope you get the help you need mate, it sounds like you're taking positive steps.
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 15, 2021 7:29:52 GMT
thanks, pal - didn't get much of a choice once my sister got involved.... |
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Post by retro74 on Sept 15, 2021 7:34:36 GMT
It’s great that you have someone around you that cares and has taken decisive action to help. Props to your sister!
Hope you’re feeling better soon man 👍
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2021 7:57:58 GMT
Good luck dude, just keep talking, to your sister, on here, write it down, anything to express your feelings can help. Anyway, forum full of bellends happy to listen right here, well done for posting  |
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Post by mrharvest on Sept 15, 2021 8:05:35 GMT
another cheery thread for me to post in...had a massive mental collapse last week, which i think has been coming for a while....basically threw myself back into work after my wife's death to the expense of everything else, including myself... ended up with my sister over at the weekend, taking one look at me and calling 111 for advice who made an immediate mental health care referral so i've been armed with the crisis number for the past few days after speaking to them on sunday, had a conversation with the doc on monday, the counselling team yesterday and about to go to the mental health assessment centre for a detailed review... lord knows where all this will end up but i suppose life can't really get any more shit for me now... Sheesh, that's rough mate. Keep on hanging in there. It's a long way but you're heading the right way. |
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Post by Techno Hippy on Sept 15, 2021 9:49:14 GMT
another cheery thread for me to post in...had a massive mental collapse last week, which i think has been coming for a while....basically threw myself back into work after my wife's death to the expense of everything else, including myself... ended up with my sister over at the weekend, taking one look at me and calling 111 for advice who made an immediate mental health care referral so i've been armed with the crisis number for the past few days after speaking to them on sunday, had a conversation with the doc on monday, the counselling team yesterday and about to go to the mental health assessment centre for a detailed review... lord knows where all this will end up but i suppose life can't really get any more shit for me now... As someone who has been through similar episodes (including waking up in hospital), and have recently started seeing a more positive side to life - you've made the important first step. It's not easy, but even if you falter, that doesn't mean you've failed - all the best. |
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Post by damagedinc on Sept 15, 2021 10:24:20 GMT
This is the problem you never know when it's going to hit you like a ten ton of bricks. Looks like you've made all the right steps.
Feel free to keep us posted with how your doing (if you want to)
Have you got stuff to keep you busy outside of work?
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 15, 2021 16:37:10 GMT
aye, but at the moment the depression is so severe i have no interest in anything at all, i'm completely shot thanks for the support, chaps - the assessment was, indeed, intense and traumatic but at least plans are being put in place for me - an immediate medication review with the MH consultant and high-impact therapeutic/psychiatric support it all means, though, that i'm likely now to be staring down the barrel of early retirement on illhealth grounds, as i've essentially been facing psychological trauma on a number of counts for years, so it's going to be a very rocky and difficult time ahead, just got to keep my eyes on the 'prize'... |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2021 17:12:03 GMT
aye, but at the moment the depression is so severe i have no interest in anything at all, i'm completely shot thanks for the support, chaps - the assessment was, indeed, intense and traumatic but at least plans are being put in place for me - an immediate medication review with the MH consultant and high-impact therapeutic/psychiatric support it all means, though, that i'm likely now to be staring down the barrel of early retirement on illhealth grounds, as i've essentially been facing psychological trauma on a number of counts for years, so it's going to be a very rocky and difficult time ahead, just got to keep my eyes on the 'prize'... I can't imagine what you must be going through. I have been bad with depression years ago and eventually came round. You have had a major traumatic event and will take you some time to heal from it, or at least get to a state where you can live with it and carry on with your life. I have dropped you a tag on discord. If you need a chat anytime just drop me a message on there or here, and if I can help in any small way, I will. |
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 15, 2021 17:19:19 GMT
cheers, mate- i keep forgetting about discord..
basically, once i listed everything from the past few years in one go - my wife's cancer diagnosis, the return of the cancer & my daughter's suicide attempt in the same week a year later and her ongoing mental health issues, my type 2 diagnosis, my liver cirrhosis diagnosis, rickets-level vit d diagnosis, my father's onset of dementia and eventual move to residential care, his colon cancer diagnosis, sorting legal affairs for my father & aunt, my wife's death and everything that came from that - it was clear why my brain wasn't coping any more...i've basically put my life on the side burner for years to care for, and support, others and completely ignored and forgotten myself...XD
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Post by Matt A on Sept 15, 2021 20:56:28 GMT
Good luck.
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Post by malygos on Sept 15, 2021 22:16:22 GMT
cheers, mate- i keep forgetting about discord.. basically, once i listed everything from the past few years in one go - my wife's cancer diagnosis, the return of the cancer & my daughter's suicide attempt in the same week a year later and her ongoing mental health issues, my type 2 diagnosis, my liver cirrhosis diagnosis, rickets-level vit d diagnosis, my father's onset of dementia and eventual move to residential care, his colon cancer diagnosis, sorting legal affairs for my father & aunt, my wife's death and everything that came from that - it was clear why my brain wasn't coping any more...i've basically put my life on the side burner for years to care for, and support, others and completely ignored and forgotten myself...XD I really really wish you the best, man, idk what to say it is so overwhelming... |
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 16, 2021 11:59:44 GMT
thanks, folks, all this positivity is appreciated - just had a phone call from the hospital and there's been a cancellation so got the consultant tomorrow morning
think when pay day finally rolls around, it might be time for some light retail therapy after all this, i need cheering up a bit....XD
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Post by Matt A on Sept 16, 2021 12:39:40 GMT
He might say it's ptsd with all you have been through.
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 16, 2021 13:23:13 GMT
aye, the thought did occur to me...reminds me of a doctor a few years back when i went back on meds who maintained there was no such thing as emotional ptsd...XD
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 17, 2021 9:58:31 GMT
just got back from the meds review...current meds being phased out to introduce one for severe depressive disorders that will help with my insomnia and appetite issues as well., just got to wait a few days for notes to go to docs and be actioned..review in 4-weeks with consultant/nurse...if i havent heard anything about the psychology/psychiatry side of things by next week i'm to give them a ring....another little step taken... |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2021 10:35:35 GMT
Well done dude. Anything can seem daunting in such circumstances, so just keep taking the little steps, and the bigger stuff gets a tiny bit easier to cope with too. Give yourself a pat on the back, we can't reach |
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Post by Sarfrin on Sept 19, 2021 0:33:10 GMT
aye, the thought did occur to me...reminds me of a doctor a few years back when i went back on meds who maintained there was no such thing as emotional ptsd...XD Good god what a messed up doctor. Any one of the things you listed is enough for one person to deal with. No one's dealing with all of them alone without help. I'm glad your sister pushed you in that direction, you should have all the support you're being offered and more. |
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Post by Matt A on Sept 19, 2021 12:00:28 GMT
Fingers crossed it helps.
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 19, 2021 12:08:46 GMT
cheers, chaps
the big worry with the early retirement is financial, obviously, but then i'm already fairly fucked in terms of money so almost being 'forced' into selling up and downsizing or even bankruptcy doesn't faze me anymore...i just need to do what needs to be done
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Post by mrharvest on Sept 19, 2021 12:44:36 GMT
Yeah, try not to worry about what might happen in the future. The first goal is to get there. You might find 5 years from now that you're happy to have a part time job consulting or training or whatever, maybe you'll pick up carpentry or start a Twitch channel.
I'm younger than you at just 42 but when the depression hit me I honestly thought that was the end. I couldn't work, I couldn't even move much. But it's now been 4 years and I'm holding a job (albeit a super chill one), got a new relationship and even went on holiday for fun. Like, that was unimaginable before.
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 19, 2021 12:51:04 GMT
absolutely - if i get the enhanced pension, it would only prohibit me from teaching/the education sector...i'd be ok working in the future, but i think my days of excessive multitasking are done
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2021 9:44:43 GMT
Hiya. Just letting people know I am emerging from a lesser version of drhcnip's week. I've had a succession of stress related migraines which severely affected my mood to the point where I was suicidal. "Thankfully" I have endured this before, but this one was quite difficult to get through and to keep telling myself that I'll get better and that my thoughts are not mine right now.
I've kept away from the board during that time as I was a mess (as my last post showed). I'm still under a lot of stress (covering 5 people's jobs at the moment and other things outside of work) and have a migraine at the moment, but I'm feeling better as this migraine is just pain.
I've not read anything on the boards, but have just come back to a message from someone I don't know who took the time to say they hoped I was doing okay. That was a nice thing on what has otherwise been a pretty shitty day. So thanks mystery person, you made a difference.
Drhcinp, I'm glad you're getting the help you need and that you're sounding more positive and have a plan. Take care of yourself as you're all you've got.
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Post by grizzly on Sept 20, 2021 12:11:03 GMT
I've lived inside a mental health clinic for the past three years AMA
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Post by Matt A on Sept 20, 2021 12:47:17 GMT
I was diagnosed schizophrenic when I was 22, I'm 43 now and can honestly say the periods of low mood and depression have been worse than some of the psychotic episodes I have experienced. Beliefs are external, mood and depression is intrinsic. Thankfully the periods of depression I have suffered haven't been the usual state for me, there have been probably three or so bad depressive periods in the last twenty years and they stand out as being the worst parts of my life. I have the greatest sympathy for people with clinical depression because it always strikes me as a greater hardship than telepathy or whatever the fuck.
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Post by drhcnip on Sept 20, 2021 13:55:41 GMT
Hiya. Just letting people know I am emerging from a lesser version of drhcnip's week. I've had a succession of stress related migraines which severely affected my mood to the point where I was suicidal. "Thankfully" I have endured this before, but this one was quite difficult to get through and to keep telling myself that I'll get better and that my thoughts are not mine right now. I've kept away from the board during that time as I was a mess (as my last post showed). I'm still under a lot of stress (covering 5 people's jobs at the moment and other things outside of work) and have a migraine at the moment, but I'm feeling better as this migraine is just pain. I've not read anything on the boards, but have just come back to a message from someone I don't know who took the time to say they hoped I was doing okay. That was a nice thing on what has otherwise been a pretty shitty day. So thanks mystery person, you made a difference. Drhcinp, I'm glad you're getting the help you need and that you're sounding more positive and have a plan. Take care of yourself as you're all you've got. cheers, mate - and you, wishing you all the best and i've had a message too, which was incredibly kind...things like that, and you bunch, make me glad i'm opening up a bit more |
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