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Post by Danno on May 3, 2023 21:30:13 GMT
Give me a chance :/
It's dumb.
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Post by wunty on May 3, 2023 21:30:45 GMT
Bet it’s not
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Post by Danno on May 3, 2023 21:46:38 GMT
Goddammit wunty now I basically have to tell you about it.
(If that's ok - and it will take a day or 2)
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Post by wunty on May 3, 2023 22:22:37 GMT
Tell away
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Post by wunty on May 4, 2023 10:04:10 GMT
DannoAny better this morning?
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Post by drhcnip on May 4, 2023 12:15:04 GMT
And it's a really dumb story when you look at it objectively. if it's affecting you, it's not dumb here via pms if you need to unload to someone, i always seem to miss you on thread |
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Post by Danno on May 4, 2023 17:31:08 GMT
DannoAny better this morning? Really not. I'm gonna have to vent about this to one of youse it's just a ballache to know where to start. And I'm drinking too much again >.< |
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Post by damagedinc on May 4, 2023 17:40:39 GMT
I would but there's so much to spill and I don't know if I can even start That's what this place is for, no judgement here and the whole point is for us to share stuff as it may help. You got the PMs for individuals or all us fruit loops if you need to vent/share/unload in a more social way. |
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Post by wunty on May 4, 2023 17:52:44 GMT
Danno Any better this morning? Really not. I'm gonna have to vent about this to one of youse it's just a ballache to know where to start. And I'm drinking too much again >.< At the beginning or mid way through, it makes no odds. It might feel better if you just splurge it all out in whatever order it falls out. |
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Post by Danno on May 4, 2023 22:01:34 GMT
This is overdramatic today was properly horrible
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2023 0:43:46 GMT
Hangin around for a bit if you want to chat. I'll probably respond with exactly the wrong thing, but one thing I can do is listen.
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Post by Dougs on May 5, 2023 5:38:17 GMT
This is overdramatic but getting into the path of a tube train was terribly attractive today. Dude, you need to go back to the docs. Hang on in there. |
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Post by wunty on May 5, 2023 6:14:19 GMT
This is overdramatic but getting into the path of a tube train was terribly attractive today. Dude, you need to go back to the docs. Hang on in there. Yeah this. Don't let those kind of those take root in your mind. Speak to someone professional man. I know how hard it is, but do it. |
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Post by drhcnip on May 5, 2023 12:51:24 GMT
This is overdramatic but getting into the path of a tube train was terribly attractive today. as already said, time for the docs, mate - you need support and help... ideation is difficult enough when you're receiving it as i'm living with it almost daily alternatively, google ' your area mental health service' and you should find the numbers to self-refer for help directly and your local area's crisis line...111 is another option, my sister took this route when she found me and scraped me up off the floor in 2021 - they arranged everything with the local trust here for you if you need someone |
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Post by Danno on May 5, 2023 12:59:11 GMT
Yeah cheers chaps. I've made an appointment and I spoke to my caseworker about my drinking earlier - going to the clinic for tests in a couple weeks and drinking group talk thingy on Tuesday nights.
Feeling better just having done those things.
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Post by wunty on May 5, 2023 13:11:36 GMT
Brilliant. Good on you man.
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Post by drhcnip on May 5, 2023 13:21:25 GMT
well done, fella
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Post by Dougs on May 5, 2023 13:32:01 GMT
Well done. Important, but not easy, step to take.
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Post by 😎 on May 5, 2023 15:21:13 GMT
Get the help you need but to be the tough love guy for a moment do not post things like that on the forum please. Use this thread for general venting and advice all you like but I have to draw a hard line at expressing suicidal ideation. If you’re genuinely feeling that way then it’s a mental health crisis and you should immediately seek help. If you’re not really feeling that way and you’re just venting generally then it’s a total dick move.
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Post by Danno on May 5, 2023 15:37:47 GMT
Yeah fair enough shall edit
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Post by EMarkM on May 29, 2023 12:18:05 GMT
I don't think I've ever really posted in here, but I'm struggling a bit today, and sometimes a kind word from a friend, even just knowing someone has read your words, can help a bit.
A couple of you from "the old place" may remember that I went through a somewhat extreme period of bereavement back in 2015.
In four months, I lost five of the people closest to me (wife, mum, dad, and two of my closest friends).
It's coming up to the anniversary of losing three of those five right now, and, this weekend, we lost our only remaining pet – our little leopard tortoise.
I don't experience fear, or even worry, as I go through life, as a general rule, but 2015 has left with me death and the concern of losing those close to me almost constantly on my mind.
I'm doing my best to support the ("new", obviously) Mrs. and our eleven-year-old through what has happened this weekend, but I'm the one who looked after the little fellow day-to-day, and it's hit me pretty hard.
Just having a bit of a day. Thanks for reading, those who did.
Be well, everyone.
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Post by wunty on May 29, 2023 12:34:27 GMT
Ah that's tough. Nothing I can possibly say to that that would even begin to help. Take care of yourself man.
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Post by EMarkM on May 29, 2023 12:40:02 GMT
That does help, believe it or not. Thanks.
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Post by quadfather on May 29, 2023 13:15:05 GMT
Grief waves sometimes hit really hard. Hang in there man, it's a temporary feeling, even if it doesn't feel like that at the minute.
It's difficult with anniversaries or simply when it decides to hit you anyway as it's not easy to ignore, it being on the forefront of your mind.
What about a walk in the sun for a nice distraction.
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Post by EMarkM on May 29, 2023 13:17:58 GMT
Thanks, Quaddy. We went out for a lovely walk at Lyme Park yesterday, which took our minds off things a bit. Just waiting for the Mrs. to get home from work now, and then it's a quick dinner before the little 'un's dance class. We'll apply ourselves to the garden or something!
It does help, getting outside: you're right!
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Post by quadfather on May 29, 2023 13:31:46 GMT
It's a great simple way to make your mind automatically focus on what's in front of you - the mind has to focus on that - even just putting one foot in front of the other is enough to keep your mind free of shit as it just needs to make sure you're walking properly. That and the fact the sun recharges your drives, which when low, always make it harder to process stuff. And don't forget that this is all *normal*, it's not like there's anything wrong, it's more a case of accepting what's happened. Enjoy the rest of the day  |
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Post by EMarkM on May 29, 2023 13:32:14 GMT
You too, and thanks!
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Post by Blue_Mike on Jun 2, 2023 2:50:06 GMT
I think one of the worst things about the current wave I'm under seems to be food having no taste. I have no real interest in eating if I can't enjoy it, nothing looks appetising to me at all, the texture of anything at all feels wrong, and I feel I might as well just eat only when my stomach starts to properly rumble and I could just as well be eating gruel from a blender rather than a proper meal, for all the difference it would make to me in terms of satisfaction.
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Post by Zomoniac on Jun 26, 2023 22:07:48 GMT
I went to my first Andy’s Man Club session tonight. For those who don’t know, it’s basically a bunch of guys in a room who take turns talking about what they’re mentally struggling with, no judgement. It was weird, but on the whole I think it was a positive and I’ll go again next week. It’s worth checking out if you’re struggling and don’t have the support you need.
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Post by Dougs on Jun 27, 2023 7:30:54 GMT
I was unaware of that until I saw a twitter thread about it. Absolutely amazing initiative.
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