Depression

Oh god damnit, why is every post I make on a new page.

I got recommended a kumuso shift the other day. It sounds fancy but it's essentially a straw necklace. Looks quite nice. I struggle to remember just to breathe sometimes and it acts as a "reminder" to do it.

Just wondered if anyone has used something similar before for anxiety?

I did find a 30% off code which makes it more reasonable. The knock off versions look a bit crap.

Re relationships I completly agree with the notion you have to be in a good place yourself. Especially if the other person has thier own issues. Carrying yourself and someone else can always be too much in my experience.

@jambo

I can relate a bit to this. I also agree with wunty and the others regarding age.

I'm 50 in March and have been single for around 3-4 years so that side of things is very similar to me too. But the thing to realise is that growing older and feeling like this is all normal. There's nothing actually wrong going on. It's just the way things are at the moment.

Yeah, you'll see people with kids and doing their family thing, for sure. Because that's the way things are in their lives at the minute.

Everything changes over time and with more time living, you gain more experience about the way life is like.

It's easy to get knocked back when some stuff hasn't turned out like you expected, but so what? Who actually bothers? In the grand scheme of things, it's nowt.

The dark thoughts sometimes crop up because of this and thats normal too. Sometimes I think about just jacking everything in and saying fuck it all. And then when you've processed that, you move on yet again.

Tip is to recognise when you're going through these emotions and situations. Take note of what you've learnt and move on.

Take a step back and take some time out to relax and enjoy yourself.

I'm sorry for your loss, quaddy.

Cheers guys, let's just hope it goes straightforward

Indeed, all the best Quaddy.

That's me too, shutting off emotionally. Had a girlfriend when I was 18. Lasted about a year. Then nothing serious. Thought I would die alone, then at 34 where I had two relationships and the last one I've been with ever since. I'm 41 now, married in 2018.

It can happen when you least expect it.

If you ever feel low, feel free to message me if you want to chat.

You'll be in my thoughts man. Much love.

All the best Quaddy.

Well, it went pretty straightforward, including the organist doing the odd bit of les Dawson playing, bless her. Lifted the mood a bit though.

And the next day, I woke up and my head was completely clear. Massive relief. Sisters both said the same too.

Finally feels like there's nothing more to do.

Glad the funeral seems to have brought closure for you and that you’re feeling better as I know its been a weight for some time for you. Well done getting through the day.

Danno It's easy to feel overwhelmed looking at the week ahead man, break it down, one day at a time. Work is always shit. Don't know why we do it to ourselves. We boast about being the most advanced species on the planet then become slaves to something we fucking hate for most of our waking hours. If that's advancement, I'll settle for being a cat in my next life thanks. Those fuckers do what they want.

Fuck's sake. I wrote a long reply and then the browser told me to fuck off. Bastard thing.

TLDR: You're doing well all things considered. Don't worry about the things you can't change. Let work know you've got so much going on in your life. Consider some leave. Consider helping your ex pack the stuff into boxes. She might appreciate the help. Can't be easy for her either. Next time you're pissed at work, take a breath, hold it and then let it out slow. If you're still tempted to bad mouth management, then take another breath. I hope the doctor's tomorrow goes well.

Right, one of "those fuckers" has just stunk up the downstairs, so I best deal with that. Little gits.

Fanks all. Feeling a little better now that I'm in the thick of things and not just staring down the barrel. Good old Sunday night doom spirals, they never fail. A friend sent me a kings ransom in 40k minis as well, which cheered me right up.

@quaddy I'm off for a week around the Elden Ring release, so just need to manage another 15 days or so. I had sick time in Jan with a back injury and I can't really afford to get signed off atm.