drakesmoke
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Post by drakesmoke on Mar 12, 2024 10:43:34 GMT
@bill in the Rain
Yep extremely salient points there I think, much more detailed than I did but fully agree.
As an example of the ageing thing, she wanted to watch Breakfast Club and I had to have the talk about consent and that stuff could actually be sexual assault etc.
In the event she got bored AF before seeing anything.
In the days when she used to actually sit and watch stuff with us even a screen kiss would put her head in her hands. I didn’t like that the other way tbh, as although I didn’t want her exposed to explicit sexualisation I also didn’t want her growing up with hang ups over any romantic affection.
That was a massive issue to me growing up - anything I expressed as a kid towards anything concerned with thinking somebody was pretty or whatever would be met with the whole room turning round and going ‘OOOOOOO!’ And it proper fucked me up! I was terrified of women and ended up with minus levels of confidence. Bit of Philip Larkin for you there.
They are weird little fuckers kids and it’s a complicated job 😂
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Post by Zuluhero on Mar 13, 2024 0:35:05 GMT
As an aside I remember watching starship troopers as a 15 in the cinema and when it came out on VHS it was an 18 and I was too young to buy it! 😅
T2 and aliens might have had similar deals.
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Post by DJCopa on Mar 13, 2024 11:57:07 GMT
When my Dad was in the Navy, we got a draft to Hong Kong - I was 10.
The cinemas there had 3 ratings - 1 (open to all), 2 (need an adult with you) and 3 (18 only).
The only 3 ratings were Horror (Phantasm 2), I think.
My dad took me to see Lethal Weapon 2 + Rambo 3, which I remember, and as a family A Fish Called Wanda which my mum nearly walked out of (John Cleese doing sexy talk) and gave my dad a bollocking - she wasn't aware of the content in the other films we'd seen.
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Post by Vortex on Mar 13, 2024 15:58:01 GMT
My boy is off with his mates to his first away football match tonight. I'm just hoping he doesn't get in a fight/get lost/end up getting lifted and put in the back of a mariah. Letting go of the apron strings isn't easy...
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Post by Vortex on Mar 14, 2024 7:47:38 GMT
Well he made it home a bit after midnight absolutely buzzing. Except for the result, but we've all had away days like that! 😀
On the plus side he doesn't seem to have been in any fights and wasn't arrested. Not this time at least! 😂
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Post by simple on Mar 16, 2024 20:56:00 GMT
Turns out while my brother is working abroad for a few months the (very) fragile relationship between his ex and current fiancee has completely fallen apart. As in current has cancelled the standing order that was part of him paying toward his kids.
And my parents have vocally taken the ex’s side.
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Post by rawshark on Mar 17, 2024 1:48:39 GMT
Turns out while my brother is working abroad for a few months the (very) fragile relationship between his ex and current fiancee has completely fallen apart. As in current has cancelled the standing order that was part of him paying toward his kids. And my parents have vocally taken the ex’s side. Oy
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Post by hedben on Mar 18, 2024 9:43:34 GMT
The 16 year old, who has been flying under the radar recently with good revision for mock GCSEs and general pleasant behavior, had quite the weekend.
First there was the party she went to on Saturday night (and honestly, I know it was a birthday but who has a party right in the middle of mock exams?), where we’d refused to let her take neat vodka but she apparently got hold of some anyway, and ended up being sick all over her expensive suede boots. We didn’t need to collect her early but she was obviously proper ropey on Sunday.
Then she has an exam this morning- an actual GCSE practical exam for photography, not even a mock - and she forgot her portfolio. We had to rush it there before the invigilators arrived, so she had it to refer to.
The 2 things may have been connected- I’d like to think lessons have been learned about partying before important events, but they probably haven’t…
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Post by Dougs on Mar 18, 2024 9:53:02 GMT
I'm 50 and still haven't learned that lesson!
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Post by mrpon on Mar 18, 2024 11:23:06 GMT
Yep, mine was the night before a wedding (not mine!) - with terrible consequences. Suffice to say I gave up alcohol for a few years.
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Post by nexus6 on Mar 18, 2024 12:25:51 GMT
Well you can’t leave it at that! Details, man!
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Post by dmukgr on Mar 18, 2024 13:19:57 GMT
I have a huge 3 hour presentation with Q&A thing to do this Thursday morning, which is the very first one of a monthly event. To prepare, I have arranged an all mighty gathering in a pub the day before.
It's bound to go well.
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Post by mrpon on Mar 18, 2024 13:27:26 GMT
Thought I'd mentioned it before. My GF at the time was a bridesmaid to her BFF at a wedding in Hawaii. I got absolutely paralytic with the guys (and groom) the night before. Completely blacked out. Woke up mid afternoon in my room (beach ceremony was in the morning), fully clothed, covered in vomit. Lost my wallet, my phone and one flip-flop. Had no idea where the wedding was so had to beg, borrow, steal my way there. Eventually got there to faces of thunder.
Then to rub it in, the meal was "cuisines around the world" - 12 courses of death warmed up in a seashell.
So yeah, a few years off the sauce.
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Post by RumMonkey on Mar 18, 2024 13:35:07 GMT
The dread waking up to that must have been horrible.
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Post by mrpon on Mar 18, 2024 13:41:03 GMT
I know, I loved those havaianas.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Mar 18, 2024 13:41:49 GMT
It's the flip flop I feel sorry for.
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Post by nexus6 on Mar 18, 2024 14:15:50 GMT
Thought I'd mentioned it before. My GF at the time was a bridesmaid to her BFF at a wedding in Hawaii. I got absolutely paralytic with the guys (and groom) the night before. Completely blacked out. Woke up mid afternoon in my room (beach ceremony was in the morning), fully clothed, covered in vomit. Lost my wallet, my phone and one flip-flop. Had no idea where the wedding was so had to beg, borrow, steal my way there. Eventually got there to faces of thunder. Then to rub it in, the meal was "cuisines around the world" - 12 courses of death warmed up in a seashell. So yeah, a few years off the sauce. Im getting the fear thinking about it
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Post by A46Matt on Mar 18, 2024 14:47:08 GMT
The horrors after that. Great story to tell though!
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Post by Dougs on Mar 18, 2024 14:55:33 GMT
Thought I'd mentioned it before. My GF at the time was a bridesmaid to her BFF at a wedding in Hawaii. I got absolutely paralytic with the guys (and groom) the night before. Completely blacked out. Woke up mid afternoon in my room (beach ceremony was in the morning), fully clothed, covered in vomit. Lost my wallet, my phone and one flip-flop. Had no idea where the wedding was so had to beg, borrow, steal my way there. Eventually got there to faces of thunder. Then to rub it in, the meal was "cuisines around the world" - 12 courses of death warmed up in a seashell. So yeah, a few years off the sauce. That is tremendous. How long did you last with the gf afterwards?!
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Vortex
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Post by Vortex on Mar 18, 2024 14:58:35 GMT
The flight home max. Sorry mrpon, we shouldn't be laughing...
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Post by mrpon on Mar 18, 2024 15:02:37 GMT
no laugh away, it's cathartic! She obviously saw the good in me because we got married a few years later!! That didn't last though, the classic 7 year itch. Oh well, two beautiful kids out of it so mustn't grumble.
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Post by Ulythium on Mar 18, 2024 15:02:42 GMT
Gotta say, I laughed out loud at, "... and one flip-flop." Stellar work!
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Post by mrpon on Mar 18, 2024 15:07:02 GMT
I later found out that I'd arranged a lift to the wedding with another couple I'd met the night before. They apparently were knocking on my hotel room door for ages. Thank fuck they didn't call the manager!
Now there's a photo op that brings me out in cold sweats!
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Post by Bongo Heracles on Mar 18, 2024 15:22:24 GMT
I had stopped drinking at weddings quite a bit before I stopped drinking full stop. It was just miserable in the end. I either got a minging hangover or said something offensive to a great aunt or something.
Literally *everyone* on my wife's side has been married and divorced at least once and at her step-sisters wedding I just completely lost track of who was related to who and how and asked her maternal aunt and uncle, who are brother and sister, when they got married then joked 'well, this is Gloucestershire' after they corrected me.
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drakesmoke
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Post by drakesmoke on Mar 18, 2024 18:00:36 GMT
I had stopped drinking at weddings quite a bit before I stopped drinking full stop. It was just miserable in the end. I either got a minging hangover or said something offensive to a great aunt or something. Literally *everyone* on my wife's side has been married and divorced at least once and at her step-sisters wedding I just completely lost track of who was related to who and how and asked her maternal aunt and uncle, who are brother and sister, when they got married then joked 'well, this is Gloucestershire' after they corrected me. I hope you are at peace with that last bit enough for me to say I really enjoyed the anecdote.
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Post by ned on Mar 18, 2024 18:09:23 GMT
I gave up drinking at weddings after I snogged a bridesmaid about 2 feet from where my parents were standing. Still cringe over it.
(I wasn’t the groom.)
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Post by Tomo on Mar 18, 2024 18:32:25 GMT
Weddings, more than any other event, really turn some people into absolute tits lol
A wedding photographer friend who I worked with for a bit told me one of his clients missed his own wedding because one of his groomsmen spiked his drink the morning of the wedding 'for a laugh'.
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Post by Bill in the rain on Mar 19, 2024 4:18:03 GMT
I gave up drinking at weddings after I snogged a bridesmaid about 2 feet from where my parents were standing. Still cringe over it. (I wasn’t the groom.) That sounds like a pretty good traditional wedding. My fave wedding memories are getting stoned out the back of the church hall with my usually very straight laced cousins, and playing frisbee on a racetrack while everyone was absolutely pissed. That's what weddings are all about!
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Post by hedben on Mar 22, 2024 9:25:40 GMT
Drama in my household this morning…
My 8yo daughter came downstairs just before we had to leave for school and said her mum had suggested walking the dog on the school run. We haven’t done this before because our dog isn’t great in crowds (in an over-friendly, jumpy way), but apparently Mrs hedben had suggested I walk as far as the last road to cross, and let the 8yo walk the last crowded bit by herself/with her mates. It’s a paved walk between houses, not even next to a road, so I figured fair enough.
Cut to 10 minutes later when Mrs hedben rings me and goes “you did watch her go through the school gates, didn’t you?”
Apparently she’d intended for me to leave the 8yo at a different, slightly closer place, and then stay there and watch her go in. Now she’s having a bit of a freakout and saying the other mums and dads will think we’re terrible, neglectful parents.
I’m sure she’ll get over it, it seems a bit OTT but maybe I’ve grown less risk averse with each of our 3 kids and she hasn’t. It’s true that I wouldn’t have dared do this with Kid#1 when she was 8, but 3rd children are usually left to their own devices and trusted a bit more I think…
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Post by Dougs on Mar 22, 2024 9:30:28 GMT
Plus chuck in that we were all going to school on our own from at least that age! At my daughter's primary school, they encourage them to come to school by themselves from year 4. Not that she does, clinging on to us walking her to school till the end!
Speaking of which, we had her "first last" yesterday. Last parents evening at that school before secondary school in September. Wah!
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