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Post by rawshark on Mar 8, 2024 23:41:30 GMT
Yeah I can see how that’s hurtful. Sorry mate.
I did something similar when I was a teen in that I would want a lift to see my girlfriend but I’d say I was seeing another friend down the road so that I could walk up the road (decent ten minute walk) so they wouldn’t know I was, you know, going a-fingering. Mum figured it out quite quickly and was very hurt.
In my defence my Dad was a dick back then and had a sick, nasty sense of humour, and I was scared I’d be ritually humiliated as he had a tendency to do. I’m sure that’s not the case with you.
She’ll snap out of it, eventually. Once she’s realised her mates don’t give a shit if she’s out with her parents.
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Post by Reviewer on Mar 9, 2024 8:10:20 GMT
I go the opposite approach of if they think I’m embarrassing then I lean into it more, in a nice way. I might not be able to do that when they’re teens but maybe it’ll build some tolerance early.
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Post by pierrepressure on Mar 9, 2024 8:45:55 GMT
5 year old has been struck with a bug and has been sick several times the poor little guy.
He's never been sick before so he's been quite fortunate but the look of terror on his face was quite something. He had no idea what was going on.
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Post by grandpaulrira on Mar 9, 2024 9:35:33 GMT
Five years old and never been sick?! Ours is 14 months and seems to have something new from nursery every week!
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Post by pierrepressure on Mar 10, 2024 6:52:56 GMT
Yeah he's been very lucky.
He does some to get a cold every week though!
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Post by motti82 on Mar 10, 2024 8:01:12 GMT
I go the opposite approach of if they think I’m embarrassing then I lean into it more, in a nice way. I might not be able to do that when they’re teens but maybe it’ll build some tolerance early. I love taking the piss, as it keeps things light. I do remind the teenager that he can have either Silly Dad or Serious Dad, and the option chosen is always Silly.
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Post by hedben on Mar 10, 2024 8:10:16 GMT
Happy Mother’s Day to those who celebrate. Mrs hedben is getting a croissant breakfast, followed by very standard presents (candle, jigsaw, mini gins). Although no “Best Mum” mug this year surprisingly.
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Post by motti82 on Mar 10, 2024 8:35:17 GMT
Literally just got the boys to "deliver" a cup of tea, with cards, Dairy Box and some flowers.
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Post by simple on Mar 10, 2024 9:12:51 GMT
Flowers and chocolates bought by me. Absolutely maximalist card as crafted by son. Tea and toast that he insisted she eat in bed with him climbed in beside her asking for bites the whole time.
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Post by Zuluhero on Mar 10, 2024 11:28:27 GMT
Happy Mother’s Day to those who celebrate. Mrs hedben is getting a croissant breakfast, followed by very standard presents (candle, jigsaw, mini gins). Although no “Best Mum” mug this year surprisingly. Oof, I wonder who won it this year then...
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Post by paulyboy81 on Mar 10, 2024 11:52:50 GMT
Mother's Day always reminds me of the first year we had kids. I received a genuinely serious phone call from the mother-in-law threatening me with extinction if I didn't do something special for my wife from our 8 month old.
I don't mean that in a jokey way at all either. It was a deadly serious, non joke, no sense of irony, genuinely quite rude, threat.
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Post by Zuluhero on Mar 10, 2024 13:04:48 GMT
Well, babies don't really know anything, so you could have literally gotten anything. I hear babies love PS5. When you incur the mother-in-law wrath just shrug and say "well, I tried, but they picked it"...
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Post by elstoof on Mar 11, 2024 20:24:05 GMT
My daughter got a WhatsApp from someone not recognised asking “hi is this xxxxx? From violet class?” Did some digging and turns out it’s one of her classmates mums. Is that not a a bit fucking weird? A parent texting a child?
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Post by Dougs on Mar 11, 2024 20:29:54 GMT
Very.
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Post by hedben on Mar 11, 2024 20:43:01 GMT
Yeah that’s quite odd. Even assuming the best possible intentions like, say, a concern she has about her own daughter that she’s trying to find out more about from her daughter’s friends… you’d go through the parents first.
We’ve had a whisper network between the mums of our eldest and her friends, to keep an eye on their eating habits for example- because some of them had suspected disordered eating. So it could be a clumsy reach-out for an honourable reason. But still… odd.
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Post by elstoof on Mar 11, 2024 20:54:22 GMT
Phew glad it wasn’t just me
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Post by RumMonkey on Mar 11, 2024 21:00:02 GMT
Very odd, anything concerning your daughter should be going through the parents first. I'd be finding out why she went directly to you daughter.
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Post by Zuluhero on Mar 11, 2024 22:32:24 GMT
Yes.
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Post by mrpon on Mar 11, 2024 22:43:03 GMT
Not stating who it is in the opening sentence is creepy af as well.
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Post by simple on Mar 11, 2024 23:09:24 GMT
Very odd. Even if we give them the benefit of the doubt, like everyone says, even if meant well go through the parents first.
What was the outcome? Message ignored or a “this is xxxxx’s parent, what do you want?” reply?
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Post by drakesmoke on Mar 11, 2024 23:46:04 GMT
Block the number from your child’s phone immediately and then put what Simple said. Maybe in case the parents are thugs put ‘can I help you’ rather than ‘what do you want’ but either way I’d be finding a way to politely point out that it’s not right. As a dad you’d be getting accusations off that behaviour if you’d done the same.
My worry would be that it’s some sort of social media/messaging drama or that my kid was being dragged into a bullying accusation or similar tbh. This has happened to us, although thankfully as a witness or less thankfully as a victim rather than a perp. My experience of kids learning social media (and I’m including WhatsApp in that) is that they are influenced by the Tik Tok/YT ‘beefs’ they see and try to act them out.
I’d be getting to the bottom of it ASAP or I wouldn’t sleep. But yes please block that number from daughter’s phone.
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Post by Bill in the rain on Mar 12, 2024 6:21:58 GMT
(Wasn't sure if I should post this in the films thread, but didn't want to annoy gremmi by talking too much about kids again!)
Decided my eldest (13) was probably old enough to start watching a few classic Cert (15) movies like T2 and Aliens, so I picked up the Alien Quadrilogy dirt cheap. Then got a bit worried by all the big scary red (18) icons all over it.
I was always under the impression that T1 was 18, T2 was 15, Alien was 18(X) and Aliens was 15. But it seems like Aliens was 18 until recently, and now T1 and Aliens have been revised down to 15.
Now I'm torn. I feel like T2, Alien and Aliens are more like 15s and aren't in the same ballpark as things like Robocop though. But I feel like I'm gonna be a bad parent for showing them an 18. (even if it's technically a 15 now, it says 18 right there!)
I also just think it's really weird how what was once considered very adult and shocking is now probably pretty tame. T1 was considered incredibly violent at the time, with a huge bodycount. Now it's apparently a 15.
/vent
carry on...
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Post by hedben on Mar 12, 2024 7:11:47 GMT
I’d be fine with my 13yo seeing the violence in Terminator and Aliens, but the mirror scene in T1 would give me pause.
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Post by Bill in the rain on Mar 12, 2024 7:20:19 GMT
Yeah, T1 is almost definitely out.
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Post by Dougs on Mar 12, 2024 7:26:16 GMT
Different strokes innit. We've done the same with my 13 year old and he didn't flinch at Alien, T1 etc. We're basically at the stage where anything goes other than things with more mature themes that he'd find it difficult to wrap his hear around.
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Post by drakesmoke on Mar 12, 2024 7:58:48 GMT
They will just laugh at the mirror scene in T1, as it’s very obviously a rubber puppet. Kids that have grown up with hyper real CGI in Marvel etc simply don’t get as drawn in by OG SFX.
The issue I had with ours getting into older films is that the pace even in action films is so much slower. Because they’ve grown up having access to phones and brain rot like Tik Tok they can just lack the attention span. Hell, sometimes I do for the same reasons!
Mine’s growing out of that and is now a fan of Gladiator, would have had no chance a year ago. She also liked Dunkirk.
It’s always been the sex that bothered me more than the violence. I get that this is untrendy but the violence is generally cartoony and I didn’t want her exposed to the other stuff. As she enters her teens I’ll naturally have to be looser on that plus Christ knows what she’s watching now anyway. The days of her coming and asking if she can watch something are over now I think!
Common Sense Media and IMDB Parent’s Guide are good resources for checking film content if you don’t know. The former has a bit of a US Christian bent to it and can go over the top (I’ve seen sex ratings for people sharing a bed or for women taking off their tops to reveal a bra) but tends to be more detailed as a result - however it reduces your access to a couple a day without a sub, so I tend/tended to use the latter more.
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Post by hedben on Mar 12, 2024 8:09:30 GMT
I get that it’s unrealistic and you’re probably right, but it’s the unrealism that freaked me out when I first saw it- uncanny valley type thing.
The other thing that really gets me is people realising they’re about to die or, worse, begging for their lives. The opening scenes of Dark Knight where the bank robbers are taking each other out one by one- that really stayed with me, and I was a full grown adult.
So yeah like Dougs said - different strokes.
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Post by Bill in the rain on Mar 12, 2024 8:09:51 GMT
Yeah, I use CSM quite a bit, though I ignore the bits about taking the Lord's name in vain.
It's weird to see 18 movies rated as 12+ though.
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Post by technoish on Mar 12, 2024 10:05:41 GMT
My almost 6 year old is terrified by the Paddington movie. I think we will watch aliens when is he 25.
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Post by Bill in the rain on Mar 12, 2024 10:23:57 GMT
Yeah, different strokes is true, and in the end it's all up to me and how I feel they'll handle it. By the time your 6 year old is 10, Terminator and Alien will have been downgraded to PG movies anyway. In my experience there's a very sudden shift between about age 11 and 13. Up to 11 she couldn't really handle anything remotely scary or violent, and by 13 she claims almost nothing is scary. (Though I'm not entirely sure this is true) drakesmoke I also have more trouble handling the sexy stuff, even the non-explicit stuff. It often feels like the stuff that's aged more, given the way thinking about gender roles and consent has changed in the past decade-ish. Plus it seems more likely to actually influence her, as I doubt she's going to be in a situation of shooting up a police station, but unfortunately boys do exist around here. It's probably not that hard to explain that in real life people don't just immediately fall in love and jump into the sack and a happy-ever-after relationship after knowing each other for 20 minutes. But it's kinda awkward.
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