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Post by rawshark on Dec 29, 2022 15:02:54 GMT
Thanks again everyone for the kind words. Just been in to see the little guy. He’s doing pretty well - breathing on his own and normal air. Still breathing quite rapidly but they’re not overly worried by that. Prob won’t get to hold him properly until tomorrow but happy with how things have gone so far.
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Post by Zuluhero on Dec 29, 2022 15:46:30 GMT
Aww came here to post my latest problem but now it pales in comparison to that. Good news about breathing on his own, that's a good sign. You got this little man!
I've just hit the next teenage milestone, my 15 year old daughter (a young 15) is a budding artist. Partner found her tic tok account, and it's full of weird cartoons shes drawn, but worst of all the characters are swearing at each other, mostly "fuck this or fuck that".
Partner is fuming, she really hates swearing, and wants to rip her a new one. I've checked the tags she posted on it and found out it's mostly referencing a cartoon called Helluva Boss, watched a few episodes and it is a bit full on, a lot of sex stuff, including how the characters talk to each other (lots of swearing).
I've told my partner to go easy on her, it's obviously just a bit of expression, she's obviously just into this show, alot of mimicry, and she's not actually talking like that to people (I know what I was like at 15). She really got mad when I showed her a few clips though! I think she still thinks of her as quite innocent, so to learn about this side to her she is quite shocked. I think she's also a bit hurt that out daughter felt like she had to hide it from us as well.
She's got a friend staying tonight, so my partner didn't want to kick off today, so she got a stay of execution, but theres going to be a nuke going off tomorrow...
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Post by Bongo Heracles on Dec 29, 2022 16:06:40 GMT
I mean, she hid it from you because she knew this would be the reaction, right? Probably best your other half doesn’t watch any 15 rated movies, either.
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Post by Zuluhero on Dec 29, 2022 16:13:26 GMT
Tbh even I was quite surprised it was rated 15.
I can't really comment, I like stuff like South Park, Family Guy, Rick and Morty and other adult cartoons, but even so, this was a bit eye watering compared to the stuff in those, so that's saying something.
Thing we're pretty easy going with her, not strict at all, she talks to her mum about boys and relationships, stuff I never did with my parents.
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Post by simple on Dec 29, 2022 16:55:26 GMT
Thing we're pretty easy going with her, not strict at all, she talks to her mum about boys and relationships, stuff I never did with my parents. I wouldn’t be surprised if telling my folks I was going to be a dad was the first big relationship talk I’d had with them
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Post by Vortex on Dec 29, 2022 17:13:31 GMT
Man, our lad was shouting swears down the mic before 15 years old.
I think you kinda have to let that slide. Playground chat is fine, and it's not in front of mum, so seems like she knows when and where the boundary is.
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Post by Dougs on Dec 29, 2022 17:22:21 GMT
Swears at 15 seems entirely normal to me. As you say, it's about who it's in front of and context.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Dec 29, 2022 19:04:40 GMT
Our 13 yr old swears like a trooper and directly to his parents, I'd be be absolutely chuffed if he only swore online. I would hate to be a teenage growing up in 2022.
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Post by Zuluhero on Dec 29, 2022 19:10:23 GMT
Yeah totally. My only advice to her to this point has been "mean your swears", as in don't just throw it in every other word so it loses all meaning like a lot of kids do
Plus if you don't usually swear then tell someone to fuck off it has more impact 😅
Tbh it's not really the swearing for me, it's more the content of the show that is slightly disturbing.
For instance, it starts with a teacher teacher kids who's forgotten to give her husband an anniversary present, so she zoom calls with her class to surprise him and he's fucking some woman. She then runs around her house, murders them both and then kills herself, all while the kids are still watching from the zoom call.
Later on there was some quite fruity dialogue where some gay demon wanted to fuck another devil and was saying how he couldn't wait to get his slimy cock up his ass and feel his jelly. I know South Park did something similar, but it didn't seem to be quite as explicit.
I presume this is just the stuff most kids are watching, mostly for shock value, but like I said, Rick and Morty and co seem quite tame by comparison.
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Post by Zuluhero on Dec 29, 2022 19:13:14 GMT
Thing we're pretty easy going with her, not strict at all, she talks to her mum about boys and relationships, stuff I never did with my parents. I wouldn’t be surprised if telling my folks I was going to be a dad was the first big relationship talk I’d had with them Ha same! And even that was difficult for me to broach! 😅
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Post by eleven63 on Dec 29, 2022 19:16:37 GMT
It's odd, I can count on the fingers of one hand the amount of times I've heard my children swear in front of me - 35, 22, 17 - I swear all the time!
Because, you know, fuck it.
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Post by simple on Dec 29, 2022 19:32:32 GMT
I wouldn’t be surprised if telling my folks I was going to be a dad was the first big relationship talk I’d had with them Ha same! And even that was difficult for me to broach! 😅 “Oh shit, they’re going to know I’ve done it” (mid-30s in third long term relationship)
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Post by LockeTribal on Dec 29, 2022 20:06:48 GMT
It's odd, I can count on the fingers of one hand the amount of times I've heard my children swear in front of me - 35, 22, 17 - I swear all the time! Because, you know, fuck it. You've 35 fingers on one hand?!?!
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Post by clemfandango on Dec 29, 2022 20:49:49 GMT
Thanks again everyone for the kind words. Just been in to see the little guy. He’s doing pretty well - breathing on his own and normal air. Still breathing quite rapidly but they’re not overly worried by that. Prob won’t get to hold him properly until tomorrow but happy with how things have gone so far. Just seen this, sounds very positive and hope things get better 👍❤️
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Dec 29, 2022 22:18:15 GMT
Did somebody mention fingers?
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Post by rawshark on Jan 3, 2023 21:49:45 GMT
Bit of an update from me. Went in today after seeing the little chap getting the tube taken out of his nose yesterday. They warned me if they saw his stats dropping it would have to go back in so was prepared for that possibility. Came in today and not only had it not been put back in, they moved him out of the incubator. All he has to do now is put on some weight and we can bring him home. We were so happy we cried.
Then some dickhead came in and fucked it all up by shouting at the nurses and drumming on his kids incubator like it was a set of bongos. The guy even burst into the expressing room while my partner was pumping because his wife was also in there. (I found out this after we left - if I’d have known I’d have dragged the cunt out by his eyelids.)
I’m feeling a bit down now, actually, because the experience has left me thinking my son might not be safe there. It’s not true obviously, he’s under 24 hour supervision, but I just want him somewhere I can make sure he’s safe. Really hope we can get him out soon.
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Post by Dougs on Jan 3, 2023 22:00:06 GMT
That's great news! Those little markers are so important and you will remember them. The picture we took of the same moment (i.e. a pic of the door to the room with the cots that my son moved into as opposed to incubators) popped up on our Google photos the other day.
Take each day as it comes, give him time to gain weight etc. And the one benefit is that they invariably come home in a set routine already!
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Post by rawshark on Jan 24, 2023 22:40:42 GMT
Think the kid is a gammon. Starts screaming every time I try to watch Ms Marvel.
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Post by Dougs on Jan 25, 2023 6:45:05 GMT
How's he doing? Home now I assume?
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Post by Bill in the rain on Jan 25, 2023 13:56:54 GMT
Think the kid is a gammon. Starts screaming every time I try to watch Ms Marvel. Try 24 or The Punisher. Or reruns of Top Gear.
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Post by Dougs on Jan 25, 2023 14:27:11 GMT
Friday Night Lights is what got me through those early weeks with the youngest. With the eldest, the World Cup in South Africa had just started, best month off ever.
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Post by rawshark on Jan 25, 2023 14:45:49 GMT
He’s doing well thanks. He’s been home for about two weeks now. Took as a while to get the shift work down between us but I’m looking after him from 8pm and midnight to allow Mrs Shark to get a few quality hours of sleep, while she takes the morning shift so I can get a few extra hours on the other side. It’s just hard to get any downtime - think I got 20 minutes free the other day so was able to play a cutscenes worth of God of War before having to abandon it to observe the kid trying (and failing) to latch on in a breastfeeding attempt.
The chap had his tongue tie snipped today so hopefully will feed a bit better. Busy day tomorrow as we’re off to the registry office to make everything official. Then a few visits from various people to check him over (he’s still a bit jaundiced) and then back in the kitchen for me.
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Post by harrypalmer on Jan 25, 2023 14:54:28 GMT
Small consolation, but it does get easier.
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Post by Vortex on Jan 25, 2023 15:16:47 GMT
Friday Night Lights is what got me through those early weeks with the youngest. With the eldest, the World Cup in South Africa had just started, best month off ever. Shit, I never thought of that, parental leave with a WC! That'd take a lot of planning though...
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Post by Dougs on Jan 25, 2023 15:20:45 GMT
It was fortuitous but glorious. Don't think I missed a game.
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Post by Vortex on Jan 25, 2023 15:29:25 GMT
Still remember watching the south korea v italy match from that tournament (with the dodgy ref decision putting italy out) while lying in bed fairly comatose at a ridiculous time in the morning after a night out on the lash.
I'm so glad most World cup games are broadcast at a more reasonable hour of day!
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Post by dam on Jan 25, 2023 17:14:48 GMT
Missed all the drama rawshark, great that he's home! Our youngest spend a few weeks in ICU shortly after birth with RSV, still gives a shiver when I think about it. He's now 14 and the tallest in the family, which is pissing off his 18 yr old brother.
As for the swearing, I don't like it, it has a time and place. My problem is that my wife swears like a trooper, so I can't complain when they do it.
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Post by Dougs on Jan 25, 2023 18:00:19 GMT
The boy let out an F bomb in from of us the other day. Have him a hard stare and he apologised. Thankfully my wife didn't hear (I am the main culprit, only ever under my breath but apparently not as quiet as I'd like to think)
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Post by Vortex on Jan 25, 2023 18:06:01 GMT
Dougs rules a tough regime.
We hear plenty of those here when our lad's chatting on xbl.
I do draw the line when he shouts that people are c-units though.
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Post by lordofthedunce on Jan 25, 2023 18:28:18 GMT
Dougs rules a tough regime. We hear plenty of thise here when our lad's chatting on xbl. I do draw the line when he shouts that oeople are c-units though. I deal with this. My lad is 12 and plays online with his mates they all speak Swedish but they all swear in English, it's just not a thing here. I've given up trying to curb it. I've just told him that if he learns when and where to swear then that's ok. No c-word though.
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