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Post by hedben on Jan 25, 2023 18:28:58 GMT
My youngest is 7 so none of us swear around her. I’m sure the 12yo and the 15yo swear with their mates but we haven’t crossed that boundary with them yet, even though I wouldn’t mind as long as it was warranted.
The 15yo did say something was “totally eff’d up” recently- as in she actually said “eff’d” like she was Jesse from Breaking Bad. The look I gave her, I think I’d have preferred the actual swear
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Post by rawshark on Jan 25, 2023 21:13:22 GMT
I just really hope the boy isn’t absorbing any of my language yet. It gets a bit sailory when he’s turning down all of my attempts to quell his mystery tantrums.
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Post by Dougs on Jan 25, 2023 21:40:50 GMT
Dougs rules a tough regime. We hear plenty of those here when our lad's chatting on xbl. I do draw the line when he shouts that people are c-units though. He's nearly 13, so I know he'll be swearing away with his mates but just about getting him to understand when it's appropriate. The little fucker.
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Post by dam on Jan 25, 2023 21:41:15 GMT
I expect it when they are online, but I keep telling them, it's just a matter of time before they let out an f-bomb in front of my father in law, who would not be impressed. I was impressed when a teacher told me my eldest had been taught to swear in Urdu by another pupil
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Post by Bill in the rain on Jan 26, 2023 9:14:13 GMT
Daughter just gave a very professional powerpoint presentation on why she should be allowed to have her own youtube channel! Kids these days... The boy let out an F bomb in from of us the other day. Have him a hard stare and he apologised. Thankfully my wife didn't hear (I am the main culprit, only ever under my breath but apparently not as quiet as I'd like to think) Mine too. Though he has no idea what it means or even that it's a bad word, so I can't decide if calling him out on it is a good idea, or if it's just going to highlight it as something interesting/fun. rawshark If you're on PC, I found Kings Bounty to be a good game to play while holding the baby in one arm. Turn-based low-stress comfortable grinding. I imagine some of the more recent card-battlers would fill a similar role.
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Post by rawshark on Jan 26, 2023 11:00:56 GMT
rawshark If you're on PC, I found Kings Bounty to be a good game to play while holding the baby in one arm. Turn-based low-stress comfortable grinding. I imagine some of the more recent card-battlers would fill a similar role. Yeah I’ve been playing a lot of Marvel Snap…
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Post by razz on Jan 26, 2023 11:27:26 GMT
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Post by harrypalmer on Jan 26, 2023 11:52:31 GMT
My 5 year old son absolutely destroys me for the slightest indiscretion. It's hilarious. Out of cashew nuts? Prepare to get an earful.
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Post by simple on Jan 26, 2023 13:00:01 GMT
With me my 3yr old’s rages are usually kitchen based like using the “wrong” knife to butter his toast or not letting him have a turn of putting something in the fridge.
With my wife he’ll go off for almost any reason and she can’t help but let it get to her in the moment. The big one is that he can’t sit still and it really pisses her off so its not uncommon to get home from work to find them having a row about nothing.
My main tactic when he goes at me is just to ride it out and comfort him when he needs it even if I still don’t give him what he wants half the time. I don’t read parenting books though so I might br raising a psycho by doing it. I just think he’ll probably grow out of it and a lot of battles aren’t really worth fighting.
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Post by Vortex on Jan 26, 2023 13:15:05 GMT
My 5 year old son absolutely destroys me for the slightest indiscretion. It's hilarious. Out of cashew nuts? Prepare to get an earful. "Daddy, there's no humus anymore and this quinoa is out of date. What kind of sink-estate hell are we living in?" Quoth user harrypalmers son Tarquin.
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Post by harrypalmer on Jan 26, 2023 13:44:24 GMT
They really are little psychos. But yeah I used to get quite angry but soon realised that was not the solution, quiet comforting and generally agreeing with everything he says seems to be the best option for a slightly less painful life.
The best one is when he clearly needs the toilet but if I so much as mention that as an option he'll completely lose it. Usually resulting him curled up in a ball accusing me of being mean and saying he'll punch me in the face. Soon followed by him rushing to the toilet and pissing all over the floor.
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Post by Vortex on Jan 26, 2023 13:51:34 GMT
Oh I remember that well. The lad tapping out a riverdance cause he needs to pee so badly. 'Why don't you go to the toilet?' "I. DON'T. NEED." Then laughing while they rush to bog at the last minute. That phase lasted too long. He never threatened to punch me though!
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Post by Vortex on Jan 26, 2023 13:53:06 GMT
Just as well, or I'd have battered the little shite.
(i do, of course, jest)
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Post by simple on Jan 26, 2023 14:06:35 GMT
We’re in a pissing phase like that at the moment. He’ll hang on to the very last second and its so obvious whats happening but try and tell him and its screaming time
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Post by Dougs on Jan 26, 2023 14:09:04 GMT
Ha, the boy still does that. We've just left the house and he announces he needs the loo. You're nearly 13 FFS, I shouldn't have to check if you need the bog!
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Post by razz on Jan 26, 2023 14:45:16 GMT
To be fair, I'm 42 and do the same thing. I think it just that knowing I can no longer go to toilet at my convenience triggers a piss.
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Post by wunty on Jan 26, 2023 14:52:30 GMT
My boy has been doing weights and shit midweek to help him with his rowing that he does at weekends. He was so sore yesterday, but I dragged him out for a walk with me and the wife and the dog as I knew it would do him good. Mid way through the walk he says "mum can you brush the hair out of my eyes please", I turn in disbelief to find her bloody doing it as well! What the hell? "My arms are too sore to do it myself". Well gosh if he didn't get an ear bashing from me. Thing is, she then complains later that he has her doing everything for him. No wonder!
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Post by Dougs on Jan 26, 2023 14:55:16 GMT
Ha, very familiar. Usually it's "where's my phone/headphones/switch". I don't know, your stuff, not mine. I then get grief for not helping him!
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Post by khanivor on Jan 26, 2023 20:39:00 GMT
Oh aye.
Dad, where’s that thing I was using a few minutes ago? You know, the one you’ve never used in your life?
I dunno. Have you tried looking where you were when you got finished with it and let it just fall out of your hands?
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Post by pierrepressure on Jan 29, 2023 13:32:43 GMT
Think I've mentioned before about our teenager and how tough it has been, happy to report that it seems to have been a phase.
A tough, utterly unbearable, phase.
He's been hitting the gym and over the last nine months the work he's put in has been incredible. The other half is now concerned about what the long term effects could be but I'm just now at the point where I will pick and choose my battles. He's starting to knuckle down at school again and letters/calls from the school are pretty much non existent.
He is prone to the odd outburst but generally he's been much more respectful.
Hormones must have been proper fucking him up.
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Post by Vortex on Jan 29, 2023 13:40:27 GMT
Our lad (15 1/2) has been coming to the gym with me for the last few months.
It cramps my 'me time', but has definitely helped his confidence & mood swings. Also helped his football too, so certainly seems that bit of gym/exercise really helps them.
Don't get me wrong, he can still be an annoying, moody little shite like we all were, but it's certainly feeling a bit less.
Hopefully, some of that is also a bit of emerging sentience/maturity!
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Post by hedben on Feb 3, 2023 17:02:43 GMT
Just came downstairs to discover one of the kitchen cupboard doors not quite shutting properly, one of the hinges has partly ripped out of the backing. Turns out kid#2 (12 year old) got rough with it in a bit of a rage after playing Forza. He’s always has a bit of a tendency to rage when a game’s frustrating him, but it feels like it’s getting steadily worse. I worry he’ll lash out and do some real damage to himself or whatever’s around him.
Previously we’ve talked about a few basic techniques, count backwards from 10, try to recognise the situation and step back from it before it happens, that sort of thing. Not sure what else to try but I’ll have to be more proactive if it keeps happening
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Post by rawshark on Feb 4, 2023 0:52:02 GMT
My boy wasn’t supposed turn up for another week but he’s a month old now. Just checking this is correct - when he kicks off you…
1) Shove a bottle in his face to see if he’s hungry. 2) Slap him on the back repeatedly to see if he’s got trapped wind 3) Change his nappy because he will definitely have shat himself 4) attempt to humour and comfort him with that thing you humans call love. 5) Avoid the temptation to rugby kick him next door and instead wake up Mrs Shark as it’s her problem now.
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Post by rawshark on Feb 4, 2023 0:57:27 GMT
Just came downstairs to discover one of the kitchen cupboard doors not quite shutting properly, one of the hinges has partly ripped out of the backing. Turns out kid#2 (12 year old) got rough with it in a bit of a rage after playing Forza. He’s always has a bit of a tendency to rage when a game’s frustrating him, but it feels like it’s getting steadily worse. I worry he’ll lash out and do some real damage to himself or whatever’s around him. Previously we’ve talked about a few basic techniques, count backwards from 10, try to recognise the situation and step back from it before it happens, that sort of thing. Not sure what else to try but I’ll have to be more proactive if it keeps happening To be fair I regularly spazzed out playing the, now that I think about it, shit Saturn version of Daytona Circuit Edition. I never damaged anything but I did piss off neighbours. My Dad caught me once and told me to “stop being a fucking dickhead”. And fair play that worked. But my Dad was pretty fearsome. Nothing like a guy with a temper problem to keep your temper problem in check.
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Post by Dougs on Feb 4, 2023 1:21:07 GMT
Yeah, my 12 year old is prone to a temper tantrum. Last big one he had that was game related, she smashed his switch on the screen and it BSOD after a Splatoon 3 session. He was distraught. Luckily it came back after a while but he's not done it since. Daily flip outs, but nothing quite like that.
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Post by Vortex on Feb 6, 2023 10:23:16 GMT
Dads club hive mind, a quick query for you.
Half tempted to let my lad see john wick after he's been banging on about it. There's nothing too gruesome that I remember at any rate, suitable for a nearly 16 year old urchin?
I reckon it probably is. I'd seen terminator and aliens by about then.
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Post by nexus6 on Feb 6, 2023 10:30:20 GMT
It's fairly comic book stuff, and as you say we had all seen The Terminator and stuff like it when we were about 12 so I wouldn't have a particular issue with it.
I can think of one person in my household that would though, so that needs to be taken into consideration if you are acting unilaterally....
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Post by Bongo Heracles on Feb 6, 2023 10:41:47 GMT
If he has seen the other three, I cant imagine this will be any worse. If he hasnt, I cant really see what the point is.
EDIT: Oh, you meant the first one. The first one is probably the most gruesome one. They are all quite cartoonish and the rest of them are like video games but this one is probably the most actual violence.
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Post by Reviewer on Feb 6, 2023 10:46:27 GMT
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Post by pierrepressure on Feb 6, 2023 11:54:25 GMT
You really have to take it on a case by case basis don't you? My eldest just turned 15 and if he asked I'd know he'd be fine with it. He's watched plenty without turning into a complete Patrick Bateman. Unless he's hiding it well...
My 4 year old is completely different, he gets scared when Peter Rabbit is on Cbeebies, he's so sensitive. We were going to take him to see Mario in April but I reckon it'll be too scary for him.
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