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Post by Sarfrin on Jul 15, 2022 20:36:01 GMT
Nursery schools are a scam, I get that most people these days work and need full time child care but fuck don't they take advantage of that. Far better to fob them off on the grand parents if you can which again is not always possible. You say that but the average nursery (in the UK at least) isn't making big profits. A fair few are barely surviving.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Jul 15, 2022 21:38:53 GMT
Yes I'm inclined to agree, staff I know working for preschool groups etc aren't getting much more than minimum wage.
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Post by clemfandango on Jul 15, 2022 21:50:43 GMT
4th day of being on the verge of going to hospital. Either hypo or hyper, I consider myself a pretty even and happy guy but I’m sat up again now wondering if life ever be normal. When I dwell I think it could be a lot worse I could be my daughter.
Sorry just needed to let off some steam..
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Post by Dougs on Jul 15, 2022 21:56:16 GMT
Can't be easy fella. How's the relationship with the diabetic nurse etc? Lean on them, not just for the immediate stuff, but also for you guys. It's hard for you too and it's ok to acknowledge that.
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Post by clemfandango on Jul 15, 2022 22:02:32 GMT
Can't be easy fella. How's the relationship with the diabetic nurse etc? Lean on them, not just for the immediate stuff, but also for you guys. It's hard for you too and it's ok to acknowledge that. Cheers Doug’s, I’m just feeling shit, wife is upstairs in tears, I’m drinking wine but I’m feeling even worse because I’m not responsible. Nurse is great but she has her own life too which isn’t easy (we all speak a lot). Matilda is only 8 and she goes through this shit ever day of her life mostly with a smile on her face. Don’t worry I’ll man up tomorrow and be slagging off Maguire 👍
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Post by Dougs on Jul 15, 2022 22:19:55 GMT
8 is hard...it'll get easier once she learns what she can and can't do etc. It's tough as you can't control everything. Think there are some other T1 dads and parents who can help more, I have nothing to add other than moral support!
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Post by Sarfrin on Jul 15, 2022 22:24:18 GMT
Yes I'm inclined to agree, staff I know working for preschool groups etc aren't getting much more than minimum wage. It seems like a lot to parents (and it is when you have to pay it!) but the required staff to child ratios are high, rightly so. And the government's free hours that they have to accept are paid at a low rate. Should be subsidised more if we want those parents of young children in the workplace.
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Post by Sarfrin on Jul 15, 2022 22:42:11 GMT
Can't be easy fella. How's the relationship with the diabetic nurse etc? Lean on them, not just for the immediate stuff, but also for you guys. It's hard for you too and it's ok to acknowledge that. Cheers Doug’s, I’m just feeling shit, wife is upstairs in tears, I’m drinking wine but I’m feeling even worse because I’m not responsible. Nurse is great but she has her own life too which isn’t easy (we all speak a lot). Matilda is only 8 and she goes through this shit ever day of her life mostly with a smile on her face. Don’t worry I’ll man up tomorrow and be slagging off Maguire 👍 Dealing with this every day is already manning up. I can't imagine what it's like for you but I know the smile on her face is because she knows that you're there to look after her. I don't know what to say except that you're amazing parents.
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Post by H-alphaFox on Jul 16, 2022 10:28:54 GMT
Nursery schools are a scam, I get that most people these days work and need full time child care but fuck don't they take advantage of that. Far better to fob them off on the grand parents if you can which again is not always possible. You say that but the average nursery (in the UK at least) isn't making big profits. A fair few are barely surviving. Well I don't know about the UK but when they charge more than you get paid daily if you are on a low income bracket I can't see how that is fair. In Australia it's 70-185 dollars a day. Simply not doable for many.
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Post by hedben on Jul 18, 2022 7:12:39 GMT
In entirely predictable news, kid 1 (14yo) is raging at me because I won’t let her go to her mates house when her school closes early due to the heatwave today. Context: they’re closing early so the pupils don’t have to walk home in the hottest part of the day, and if she goes to her mates after school, she will then be… walking home in the hottest part of the day.
An argument I can handle, but it sucks that she waited until this morning to drop this on me (with her mum at work already), after we’d agreed something different with her mum present yesterday. It’s like she thinks I’ll let her get away with it when her mum wouldn’t- and it’s not the first time this has happened.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 18, 2022 7:27:21 GMT
I hate being mum/dad-ed. I'm always the baddie so if I say no, they'll go running to their mum. Who mostly agrees but sometimes thinks I am being too harsh. Fuck that.
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Post by nexus6 on Jul 18, 2022 8:36:16 GMT
In entirely predictable news, kid 1 (14yo) is raging at me because I won’t let her go to her mates house when her school closes early due to the heatwave today. Context: they’re closing early so the pupils don’t have to walk home in the hottest part of the day, and if she goes to her mates after school, she will then be… walking home in the hottest part of the day. An argument I can handle, but it sucks that she waited until this morning to drop this on me (with her mum at work already), after we’d agreed something different with her mum present yesterday. It’s like she thinks I’ll let her get away with it when her mum wouldn’t- and it’s not the first time this has happened. She can go to her friends after the school closes, but you’ll have to collect her to make sure she is ok. Of course, in this heat, you’ll have to be careful and be wearing only pants and a large straw sun hat.
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Post by Bongo Heracles on Jul 18, 2022 8:52:36 GMT
I hate being mum/dad-ed. I'm always the baddie so if I say no, they'll go running to their mum. Who mostly agrees but sometimes thinks I am being too harsh. Fuck that. Im a fairly consistent mediocre presence, a straight line of 'you can do what you want if you do what youre asked' parenting but the mrs is all over the fucking map. Depending on the issue she is either weaker than a sheet of wet toilet paper or harder than a diamond about something, so when she asks me to back her up, I never do because its usally at some ridiculous extreme. Conversely, that means the mrs undermines me about basically everything because the middle is never a valid opinion.
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Post by dam on Jul 18, 2022 12:10:41 GMT
4th day of being on the verge of going to hospital. Either hypo or hyper, I consider myself a pretty even and happy guy but I’m sat up again now wondering if life ever be normal. When I dwell I think it could be a lot worse I could be my daughter. Sorry just needed to let off some steam.. It goes like that sometimes, can be a number of things. I'm sure you probably know all this! The heat makes me go higher...sometimes. Could be an underlying infection - there might just be a mild sniffle, but if can play havoc behind the scenes. Could be wonky insulin/insulin delivery. Don't know your set up, but if I'm having a few days like that, I'll change my insulins, then up my basal, just a unit or so. Try to give corrections time to act, and don't rage bolus, or over-correct with food. Very easy to swing both ways quicky. I still do it after 37 years.... Anyone who lives with it knows you'll have bad days/weeks. You just have to learn to roll with it. And don't believe everything DSNs tell you, they talk a lot of bollocks. I think it will get a bit easier with proper closed loop pump/CGMs. I think the NHS is beginning to roll them out, so press for one.
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Post by mrpon on Jul 18, 2022 12:22:44 GMT
I hate being mum/dad-ed. I'm always the baddie so if I say no, they'll go running to their mum. Who mostly agrees but sometimes thinks I am being too harsh. Fuck that. Im a fairly consistent mediocre presence, a straight line of 'you can do what you want if you do what youre asked' parenting I love this, but isn't it an oxymoron? Laced with multiple get out clauses.
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Post by clemfandango on Jul 18, 2022 12:28:50 GMT
4th day of being on the verge of going to hospital. Either hypo or hyper, I consider myself a pretty even and happy guy but I’m sat up again now wondering if life ever be normal. When I dwell I think it could be a lot worse I could be my daughter. Sorry just needed to let off some steam.. It goes like that sometimes, can be a number of things. I'm sure you probably know all this! The heat makes me go higher...sometimes. Could be an underlying infection - there might just be a mild sniffle, but if can play havoc behind the scenes. Could be wonky insulin/insulin delivery. Don't know your set up, but if I'm having a few days like that, I'll change my insulins, then up my basal, just a unit or so. Try to give corrections time to act, and don't rage bolus, or over-correct with food. Very easy to swing both ways quicky. I still do it after 37 years.... Anyone who lives with it knows you'll have bad days/weeks. You just have to learn to roll with it. And don't believe everything DSNs tell you, they talk a lot of bollocks. I think it will get a bit easier with proper closed loop pump/CGMs. I think the NHS is beginning to roll them out, so press for one. Thanks for that, she is on a pump but not closed loop. She's levelled out again now but we have had a few evenings where her blood sugar has been over 20 and its been really hard to bring her down to below 14, so you stay up worrying and monitoring all night (plus checking keytones). But much worse is when she has dropped unexpectedly from like 7 to 2 and still heading down (this has happened a few times recently), she actually got down into the 1's and we were plying her with haribo and dextrose tablets to bring her back up, it seemed to take forever at the time. Its really knocked our confidence, my wife is an anxious wreck at the moment and I'm trying to put a brave face on it but I'm having trouble sleeping and not coping that well either.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Jul 23, 2022 14:36:44 GMT
Is it actually possible to remove a device from Family Link? Because I can't work it out?
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Post by hedben on Jul 23, 2022 15:01:36 GMT
freddiemercurystwin can you uninstall the Family Link app from the device? I don’t find the app very easy to use. Yesterday mine gave me a notification that said “(kid 2) has turned off search history on YouTube”. It vanished before I could select it and I couldn’t see any way of getting back to the notification in the app, or of turning search history back on again remotely. When I asked him why he turned it off, he said it was “too busy” with it on…
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Jul 23, 2022 15:13:02 GMT
It's not the most intuitive but not bad generally, it's certainly less clunky than it was a few years back, I set my two kids up with phones seemlessly in about 10 mins this morning.
Anyway there are 3 (out of 4) devices showing on my eldest's account which I'd like to remove but I can't find a way to remove them via the app nor can I delete family link from them because those devices are no longer working. I'll try and login to family link on the PC, if that's even possible. It doesn't really matter just annoying there's old devices from years ago clogging up the app.
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Post by hedben on Jul 23, 2022 15:38:16 GMT
Ah see what you mean. Looking at mine, I have a similar issue where it’s installed on a Kindle Fire and there’s just a message saying “Certain management settings and tools only apply to Android devices”. With no option to change anything. Setting aside the fact that it *is* an Android device, and I got the Family Link app on there just fine because I side-loaded the Play store ages ago.
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Post by Rich on Jul 23, 2022 20:53:58 GMT
Camping with the boy tonight. Unfortunately, it's in hospital. 🙁
He's had a fever all week, just going up and calpol becoming less effective. Decided to call 111 last night, and 6 hours later* a doctor called back to say he should go to hospital to get checked out.
They're not sure what it could be but think it's probably a virus. They don't seem overly concerned but he's staying in overnight for monitoring.
Misses has gone home to get a good night's sleep and I'm here alone with him, hospital machinery bleeping and a chorus of crying children across the ward. Thankfully, he's sleeping at the moment.
This part of the parenting thing is hard. 🙁
*Misses was pretty fucking pissed off at that a she was told someone would be calling back in an hour so she stated up waiting. Only to be told this morning when they did eventually call that it would never have been before 6am. I always try and stick up for the NHS but they do make it hard sometimes.
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Post by harrypalmer on Jul 23, 2022 20:59:26 GMT
The NHS is at breaking point. But it’s hard to have sympathy when you’re worried about your kids.
my son had a similar sounding virus a couple of years ago, fever, short of breath. Had to stay in over night too, but they do it just as a precaution. He’ll be fine. Fucking scary though, a normal cough or puking bug is bad enough.
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Post by Sarfrin on Jul 23, 2022 21:20:13 GMT
Nothing harder than your child being ill in hospital. Hope he turns a corner soon.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 23, 2022 21:36:46 GMT
Yup, it's bloody hard but once they are in hospital, I've always found the doctors and nurses to amazing. Hope he feels better soon Rich.
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Post by LockeTribal on Jul 23, 2022 22:52:27 GMT
Hope you have a quiet night and the boy feels better soon Rich.
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Post by Bongo Heracles on Jul 24, 2022 8:14:44 GMT
Im a fairly consistent mediocre presence, a straight line of 'you can do what you want if you do what youre asked' parenting I love this, but isn't it an oxymoron? Laced with multiple get out clauses. It’s not like I’ve painted it live, laugh, love style on the wall but I’ve always pretty much given autonomy and freedom of self expression as long as she accepts when I say something, I mean it and it’s for a good reason. Like I’ve never said ‘because I said so’ to her so she knows I never ask for the sake of it and equally if she says she doesn’t want to go somewhere because she’s tired or doesn’t want to give her Nan a hug, she doesn’t have to. The caveat to that is I don’t know whether it’s the chicken or the egg. She’s always been like village of the damned intelligent, so I don’t know whether my parenting has been wonderful or whether I’ve been able to adopt a laissez faire attitude because she just got it from the word go.
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Post by Bongo Heracles on Jul 24, 2022 8:15:53 GMT
It’s definitely the latter now I write it out
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Post by Rich on Jul 24, 2022 10:56:45 GMT
Thanks guys. It was a long night but he's back home now, and we're told there's nothing to be concerned about. I need a beer.
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Post by khanivor on Jul 24, 2022 21:49:50 GMT
Three or so sound in order
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Post by razz on Aug 3, 2022 7:18:30 GMT
Any advice for a first time Dad (and mum)?
Baby is due in 8 weeks and I'm not sure how long to book off for Paternity leave, I've saved most my annual leave for it as I don't qualify for Statutory Paternity (started this job in Feb). I was thinking 6-8 weeks, is that too long? I've seen most men take 2-3 weeks.
I've been told that the first few weeks I won't be needed as much for direct childcare, mostly just supporting mum. Which is fine, I want to be there as much as I'm needed but I also don't want to get in the way...
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