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Post by LockeTribal on Jul 1, 2024 19:24:59 GMT
Congratulations!!! Second one or more? My oldest is teething again at 18 months and boy is she agitated. Very temperamental. Which results in her scratching or pinching us and more worrisome her younger sibling as a response. I think we are definitely not doing enough to discourage the behaviour. Cheers folks! Number 2 for us, our wee girl is 5 years old and thankfully delighted to be a big sister.
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Post by simple on Jul 2, 2024 18:20:20 GMT
Do all kids end up with their uniform looking like utter shite in the last few weeks of term?
My boy’s school has a white polo shirt as uniform and every single one we own is stained with pen, paint or food in a way that multiple washes and Vanish just can’t shift. Slightly reluctant to buy more that’ll just get stained or outgrown before they’ve had more than two wears
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Post by knighty on Jul 2, 2024 18:23:37 GMT
Yeah I don’t give a toss at this point. Missing buttons, slightly too tight…it’s all fair game now.
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Post by nexus6 on Jul 2, 2024 18:32:25 GMT
Do all kids end up with their uniform looking like utter shite in the last few weeks of term? My boy’s school has a white polo shirt as uniform and every single one we own is stained with pen, paint or food in a way that multiple washes and Vanish just can’t shift. Slightly reluctant to buy more that’ll just get stained or outgrown before they’ve had more than two wears Yes. The school will have a lot of spares most likely. We did a set of 4 tables worth on the last days where people could take what they wanted. So much stuff.
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Post by motti82 on Jul 2, 2024 19:48:34 GMT
Exactly, take what you can from lost property, you can even get away with black trainers if "the shoes don't fit".
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Post by Dougs on Jul 2, 2024 20:23:22 GMT
My daughter is in her last few weeks of primary and is pushing it all the way. Purple and pink trainers as the shoes definitely don't fit? No probs. Chocolate in her packed lunch? You betcha. Post SATs they do sod all.
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Post by otto on Jul 2, 2024 20:39:39 GMT
u go gurl
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Post by Dougs on Jul 2, 2024 20:42:59 GMT
She hasn't quite managed to convince us to have her hair tips dyed though. That's a summer hols treat.
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Post by Reviewer on Jul 4, 2024 21:35:02 GMT
There are some new ‘minisodes’ up on Disney+
They’re all great.
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Post by Vortex on Jul 10, 2024 12:45:54 GMT
Omfg- our lad has slept in and missed today's driving lesson. The bellend. He can pay us back for that one. And buy the next one himself.
He apparently had set an alarm, but must have switched it off without rousing.
If only he hadn't been up until 4am last night keeping me awake thundering about the house when he went to bed i might have had a smidgen of sympathy.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 10, 2024 13:15:50 GMT
You have more patience than me! Definitely would be raging at both the clattering around the house at that time and then missing a driving lesson. As they always say, the challenges just change...
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Post by Vortex on Jul 10, 2024 13:44:59 GMT
You have more patience than me! Definitely would be raging at both the clattering around the house at that time and then missing a driving lesson. As they always say, the challenges just change... Patient? I'm nearly at my wits end! I read the riot act at 11pm and told him to go downstairs to chat on the phone. Which *obviously* was utterly unreasonable in his book, despite us going on about it all the fucking time. I then got told to 'go away' when shutting the other doors from the kitchen/family room so his noise didn't echo upstairs, then STILL got fucking woken at 3 by the selfish eejit shouting & bawling away. This is just the start of the holidays ffs, so it'll likely get worse as he goes nocturnal. Keep on at him to apply for jobs, so he at least has to get up, but he apparently 'can't be arsed'. Rargh.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 10, 2024 15:47:16 GMT
That's more like it! 😂
We are firmly in the selfish early teenager phase. Does fuck all, grumbles at any suggestion of helping, strops about the place and is entitled beyond belief. Oh, and just fucking eats. Anything and everything. Despite trying to instill some good eating habits, I fished out 9 chocolate wrappers from one pair of trousers and 7 from another. Gah!
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Post by Vortex on Jul 10, 2024 15:54:52 GMT
Biscuits evaporate into thin air in our house- just wait until you encounter study leave! Oddly enough any chocolatey ones go first, then the plainer ones in lessening sugar/fat content fashion! It cost us a fortune in biscuits to power the brain. To be fair, I was pretty much the same too. The amount of toast and cereal he goes through is amazing.
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Post by paulyboy81 on Jul 10, 2024 16:05:25 GMT
What's incredible is my 8 (soon to be 9) and 7 year olds are already exhibiting most of this behaviour in one form or another, it's obviously just at lower and less obnoxious levels currently.
Fun times incoming!
My daughter pulled a pretty incredible fast one last week actually. We have an old spare Android smart phone in the living room that's used by the kids as a spare Just Dance controller for the Xbox, it's setup with my Google account but there's no passcode on it or anything, like I said it's just used as a controller and never leaves the house.
Noticed whilst using the YouTube app on my own phone one night that my profile name had changed to my daughter's and that I suddenly had a YouTube channel full of my daughter doing TikTok style dance video Shorts from her bedroom.
In the space of a couple of nights she'd basically snuck the phone upstairs into her bedroom and curated a fucking YouTube Channel on the sly with my credentials.
She's 7.
Words were had naturally, but if I'm being honest I almost admire the ingenuity and brass balls on her.
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Post by technoish on Jul 10, 2024 16:19:44 GMT
Ive joined the no smartphone for kids movement. They won't be getting that or any social media (inc YouTube) until teenagers at earliest!
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Post by drakesmoke on Jul 10, 2024 17:13:59 GMT
They’re horrid creatures. Having a hard time with ours at the moment and she is coasting off memories of being cute (checks watch) about four years ago now.
The latest is what looks like a ‘bogey and snot spot’ she’s made on the wall.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 10, 2024 18:03:52 GMT
Biscuits evaporate into thin air in our house- just wait until you encounter study leave! Oddly enough any chocolatey ones go first, then the plainer ones in lessening sugar/fat content fashion! It cost us a fortune in biscuits to power the brain. To be fair, I was pretty much the same too. The amount of toast and cereal he goes through is amazing. Yep, walked into the kitchen the other day and he literally had half a box of chocolate Weetabix minis in the bowl. Ridiculous.
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Post by jeepers on Jul 10, 2024 18:27:56 GMT
This is a sobering insight into my future life.
Kids are nearly nine and nearly six and still cute.
Short shelf life there I think.
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Post by Zuluhero on Jul 10, 2024 18:51:14 GMT
They’re horrid creatures. Having a hard time with ours at the moment and she is coasting off memories of being cute (checks watch) about four years ago now. The latest is what looks like a ‘bogey and snot spot’ she’s made on the wall. Haha I had one on the wall by my bed too! 😂 In my defence the wall paper pattern was so horrendous (thanks 80s) I genuinely thought no one would notice 😅
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Post by drakesmoke on Jul 10, 2024 19:09:11 GMT
This is a sobering insight into my future life. Kids are nearly nine and nearly six and still cute. Short shelf life there I think. It really is. I’m in total despair at the moment because I think this is my lot in life for the next three or four years. My only hope is that they then become your mate when they grow up - but they don’t booze now so I can’t see ours coming to the pub with us like I ended up doing!
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Jul 10, 2024 19:24:34 GMT
My 10yr old is doing pretty good apart from being a mouthy bugger, about to start secondary school. My eldest is completely off the rails and suffers from such chronic anxiety it's got to the point where we've lived on a knife edge with respect to being able to get him into school/on the verge of getting fines/being criminalised by the school. I say we, it's been me 99% of the mornings to get them out of bed/into school, it's been bad since Covid and progressively getting worse. We have six weeks or so of anxiety free summer hols coming up and they have now said he must attend all lessons come September (whilst he's 'going to school' now (finally) he's not actually attending any lessons) the anxiety will be incredible all round come September. I was actively suicidal a few weeks ago, looking around for ways out, turns out there isn't an easy one.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 10, 2024 20:02:56 GMT
Sorry dude. I might have mentioned it before but my wife works with kids like yours who can't go to school. It's private provision (company called SENse Learning) but through the local authority. Lots of different kids, for different reasons who can't/won't go to school. You have to keep pushing the local authority for support, EHCP, assessments up the ying Yang. But not easy, as you say.
And seek help yourself, please. Go to the docs and talk to someone.
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Post by otto on Jul 11, 2024 7:04:37 GMT
Yeah I've been in and out of therapy for years because of one or more of my kids at any given time. It doesn't fix the kids but it helps to fix you.
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Post by otto on Jul 11, 2024 7:08:30 GMT
Went for a business lunch on Tuesday. Just entering the restaurant when my 23yo called, incoherent and bawling as usual, saying she was going to set fire to something. I tried reaching her mum (my ex) but no answer. Then my 16yo calls in total panic saying the fire alarm has gone off. I tell her to get out of the house and call 999, she's like WTF WHY WOULD I DO THAT I'M NOT DRESSED. I hang up and call my wife in the UK and tell her to call 999 (I can't, I'm in Belgium). Then my 23yo calls again, says she's sat with the paramedics and fire brigade and her mum, so I text my wife and tell her to stand the 999 call down as they're already there. Then sit down and do my actual job of pretending to enjoy lunch and be a diplomat. FML.
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Post by drakesmoke on Jul 11, 2024 7:08:46 GMT
Please do get help, and it may be that work gets in the way but a practical start might be working within the home to alter that 99%. I’m fairly guilty of that myself to be honest but I’m the one per cent.
But always remember the thing about a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If he’s already into school, he will leave it in a few years and who knows he may thrive in a work place. Sorry if that sounds brutal.
Edit - for Freddie
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Post by Dougs on Jul 11, 2024 7:20:39 GMT
This is it - he's probably only got 2 years left. Going to school/getting good grades isn't the be all and end all, no matter how much schools and politicians push it. It's not ideal but wellbeing (for all of you) is more important.
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Post by Dougs on Jul 11, 2024 7:21:28 GMT
Went for a business lunch on Tuesday. Just entering the restaurant when my 23yo called, incoherent and bawling as usual, saying she was going to set fire to something. I tried reaching her mum (my ex) but no answer. Then my 16yo calls in total panic saying the fire alarm has gone off. I tell her to get out of the house and call 999, she's like WTF WHY WOULD I DO THAT I'M NOT DRESSED. I hang up and call my wife in the UK and tell her to call 999 (I can't, I'm in Belgium). Then my 23yo calls again, says she's sat with the paramedics and fire brigade and her mum, so I text my wife and tell her to stand the 999 call down as they're already there. Then sit down and do my actual job of pretending to enjoy lunch and be a diplomat. FML. Jesus. That's rough mate. Hope she's getting help where possible.
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Post by otto on Jul 11, 2024 7:28:52 GMT
As to be expected, Bromley Council are a complete fail. She has had so many referrals to adult social services from the GP, from college, from the police, from the NHS. Nothing ever happens. We're building a case to take them to judicial review. ££££.
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Post by Binky on Jul 11, 2024 14:19:32 GMT
Oh shit, Otto that sounds horrendous.
I came here to post that I was feeling powerless for being in a waiting room as my 14 year old takes his grade 1 piano. I don’t think I will now.
Dammmnnn.
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