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Post by RobEG on Jan 16, 2024 20:24:54 GMT
Can’t really add to what has already been said, other than wishing you the best and hope tomorrow goes ok. I can empathise with what you are experiencing.
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Post by Dougs on Jan 16, 2024 20:26:21 GMT
+1. Hope all goes as well as it can. As Fred says, once over, it does get better. Slowly, but it does get there.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Jan 16, 2024 20:43:44 GMT
You're doing OK, my brother did the eulogy at my mum's funeral and I have to say it was bloody brilliant, IME eulogy's read out by the children are pretty good, it's good there is some support for you.
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Post by Ulythium on Jan 16, 2024 20:43:49 GMT
All the best for tomorrow, Kal - I hope it goes as well as it possibly can.
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Post by TheSaint on Jan 16, 2024 20:46:18 GMT
Good luck. Hope it goes as well as can be expected.
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Post by JuniorFE on Jan 16, 2024 20:48:05 GMT
Stay strong kal. Good luck with everything tomorrow
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Post by Jambowayoh on Jan 16, 2024 20:55:46 GMT
kal I'll echo what's been said especially taking time for yourself and not speaking to people if you don't want to. All the best for tomorrow mate.
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Post by FlexibleFeline on Jan 16, 2024 21:07:37 GMT
Hi Kal, I'm wishing you all the best for tomorrow. I sincerely and personally know how tough it can be to do a eulogy. I think it's a wonderful thing that you and your brothers are sharing it.
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Post by Fake_Blood on Jan 16, 2024 21:59:14 GMT
I was also dreading it, but it’ll be alright kal. Everything will be taken care of, and you’ll see in the moment if you can say something or not.
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Post by LegendaryApe on Jan 16, 2024 22:12:16 GMT
So sorry Kal
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Post by mikeck on Jan 16, 2024 23:59:39 GMT
Stay strong kal, loads of forum love is with you as you can see. Hope tomorrow goes as well as it can.
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Post by anthonyuk on Jan 17, 2024 1:23:11 GMT
I hope it goes as well as it can tomorrow Kal, so very sorry for your loss.
I lost my mother and family in similar circumstances. You'll have an incredibly difficult day ahead, so do whatever you need to do to get though the day, even if that is focusing on other family members through it to give your mind a focus. Once the service itself is complete, in some small way it can feel like a release from the anxiety and you and your family can begin the gradual process of healing. You never forget and it will take time, but you will come through the other side.
Extended friends and family won't always have the presence of mind to stop calling or asking the same obvious questions, either tomorrow or via phone. As you say they mean well, most importantly they will understand you not wishing to reply or turning your phone off completely.
Take care
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Post by drhcnip on Jan 17, 2024 2:27:44 GMT
Hope it goes as well as it can, kal, we’re all with you
Toughest thing I ever did was my wife’s eulogy but I managed it and I’m sure you’ll all be fine tomorrow and at least you’ve got each other to lean on during it
All the best, matey x
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Post by drhcnip on Jan 17, 2024 2:31:59 GMT
I’m doing a eulogy with my brothers. There’s four of us so if anyone can’t do it there’s others to take over. Very grateful for siblings right now. Must be very tough to lose parents as an only child. Yeah I’ve stopped answering my phone and then just text back after. Yeah, it’s been rough for my daughter, who struggles a lot but what it has done is pull her and me incredibly close together…she lost her best mate and her mum in the same year, poor kid…she’s also lucky, though, to have an incredible boyfriend who’s been there through it all…
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Post by harrypalmer on Jan 17, 2024 9:46:25 GMT
Good luck kal.
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Post by quadfather on Jan 17, 2024 14:49:43 GMT
Hope goes/went as well as possible Kal. It's totally normal to lose it if you want. I did, and I'm glad I did.
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Post by quadfather on Jan 17, 2024 14:57:02 GMT
I'm glad you've got siblings too. There's a very high chance that you will all come together now, going forward, even if you were or weren't close before.
That's one thing I took from it, and it does really make a difference. More support and people to talk to about it if you want to, who understand how you feel.
I still have a WhatsApp group on my phone with my two sisters in it and we regularly speak.
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Post by mikeck on Jan 30, 2024 18:25:18 GMT
My dad went through radiotherapy in December as the hormone treatment stopped being effective for his prostate cancer, his prior PSA level was 19 so they had him in for more tests, today he found out it has increased to 99.
They are putting him on chemo ASAP, and then it'll be 10 rounds (once every three weeks). But the prognosis is now 18-24 months, which is very different to the first prognosis of this will be a manageable cancer and he could live with it.
Just had the wind taken out of my sails with this news and needed to write it down somewhere to help process. FCUTA.
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Post by minimatt on Jan 30, 2024 18:29:05 GMT
oh christ i'm sorry mike
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Jan 30, 2024 18:30:04 GMT
Fuck that's awful, sorry Mike.
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Post by Ulythium on Jan 30, 2024 18:32:34 GMT
Shit, Mike - that's awful news. So sorry.
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Post by mikeck on Jan 30, 2024 18:36:24 GMT
Thanks chaps, obviously not the news we were hoping for, but appreciate the thoughts.
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Post by Frog on Jan 30, 2024 18:50:12 GMT
Can they not do a removal at all Mike?
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Post by mikeck on Jan 30, 2024 19:00:26 GMT
It was an option at the beginning but it's spread past his prostate now into his bones unfortunately hence the new prognosis.
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Post by JuniorFE on Jan 30, 2024 19:03:15 GMT
Grim news, and the gut punch of it being non-survivable makes them so much worse, no doubt. I'm so sorry mikeck.
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Post by Frog on Jan 30, 2024 19:19:33 GMT
Ahh fuck, I'm so sorry to hear that mate.
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Post by mikeck on Jan 30, 2024 19:24:16 GMT
Thanks man. To be honest, he was never keen on that as an option from the beginning, but the hormone treatment was meant to be the best option. Then it bloody spread.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Jan 30, 2024 21:18:16 GMT
God I hate this thread being bumped. My thoughts are with you Mike. FCUTA as always and forever.
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Post by Dougs on Jan 30, 2024 22:52:10 GMT
Ah shit. Sorry Mike.
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Post by Lizard on Jan 30, 2024 22:54:05 GMT
Sorry to hear Mike
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