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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2022 22:13:10 GMT
He could scare her off and end the relationship prematurely when, given more time to breathe, it could lead that way naturally. Err. My choice of wording is poor (quelle fucking surprise) but I hope it's clear that's not what I meant. What I was trying to say was that the relationship could arrive at the marriage point more definitively than this.
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Post by Danno on May 23, 2022 22:18:31 GMT
Do you mean what's the chances of her being more or less mental than you? Or just generally? Just based on previous in general g'waan Quaddy
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Post by Jambowayoh on May 23, 2022 22:22:33 GMT
My choice of wording is poor (quelle fucking surprise) but I hope it's clear that's not what I meant. What I was trying to say was that the relationship could arrive at the marriage point more definitively than this. Don't worry we all understand what you meant and I agreed with it. We can only watch on the sidelines and see how this unfurls.
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2022 22:23:56 GMT
I'll have to diffuse it before everyone starts foaming It was just a woman at the gig we played last Saturday. The old sultry dancing, gaze into your eyes type bollocks while I'm twiddling my bass strings. And she got me a pint afterwards and swapped numbers. But this is probably just someone having a good time at a gig. I mean, what's the chances of her being mental, yeah? You're in a band quad. You've just increased your bangability by 200%. If you were doing well before, you'll have to fight them off soon.
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Post by retro74 on May 23, 2022 22:30:51 GMT
I think you’re doing the right thing goat. Don’t listen to the naysayers, you go get your girl
I’m sure many other posters of thought this already but you remind me of a modern day Crocodile Dundee and it worked out good for him at the end of the movie
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Post by retro74 on May 23, 2022 22:31:23 GMT
Crocodile Goatee
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Post by Aunt Alison on May 23, 2022 22:32:07 GMT
AA says it's only an engagement. It's not really. It's an engagement. It's a commitment to get married. He could scare her off and end the relationship prematurely when, given more time to breathe, it could lead that way naturally. I'm curious as to the sudden need to do it now. This is it. I assume the decision was made after the wedding so they don't have to do that anymore. If it's a case of let's get engaged so we can be open about our relationship and just chill out without being judged by everyone, I don't think it is a big deal to get engaged. Converting to Islam would be a pretty big deal, but it seemed to be a practical thing. I would assume the same for this
In that sense, I think getting engaged would take stress away from the relationship given the situation. Depends how he's looking at it and how he sells it when he proposes
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Post by Ulythium on May 23, 2022 22:44:52 GMT
In common with several fellow forumites, I wish Goat all the health and happiness this crazy, fucked-up world has to offer; however (also like several other posters) I think this has red flags all over it, and I'd be inclined to step back and take a beat before doing anything irreversible.
Just my $0.02. Probably not worth even that much, but I like that this community looks out for its own amid all the shitposting, and I figured I may as well chip in too.
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Post by Jambowayoh on May 23, 2022 22:45:50 GMT
I'm guessing the next step is setting up a Gofundme for 3.5k...just in case.
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Post by Tomo on May 23, 2022 23:16:15 GMT
Can we wade through to the real news here. Look past the 3.5k ring of haste.
_quaddy is back_
It's like Grant Mitchell coming back to Eastenders. The OG returns. Can't wait for the filth to begin.
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Post by Danno on May 23, 2022 23:39:27 GMT
Can we wade through to the real news here. Look past the 3.5k ring of haste. _quaddy is back_ It's like Grant Mitchell coming back to Eastenders. The OG returns. Can't wait for the filth to begin. Hey don't, please, I want Quadster to smash it and pass the baton on, Lord knows he's earned it. Where's Rodimus?
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Post by Danno on May 23, 2022 23:47:21 GMT
Fucking shame the original thread got deaded. This is your fault craigy!
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Post by puddleduck on May 23, 2022 23:48:15 GMT
There's a lot of very well formed opinions on very little information in here.
Goat, you can only do what you think is right and if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person and you think she feels the same way then good luck to you.
I guess you've already thought this through a lot so if you want to share please feel free to answer any of these questions.
What is it about her that makes you want to commit to building a life together? Have you got people outside the forum you've talked to about this who see you both together? What were some of their thoughts?
You said you had kids? How is she with them, what are her thoughts towards being a step mum and how do you think your kids will be with it?
You mentioned a divorce still going through. I know they can take a long time but how come you got divorced? What has been the hold up? Do you think you have mentally processed that enough to make another commitment at this stage?
If she says no, are you prepared for that? Not to say that's not a reason to ask but more a case of if this isn't the right time for her are you OK to keep dating as it is or do you need to know she's at the same place in the relationship at the same time you are?
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Post by Danno on May 23, 2022 23:59:35 GMT
There's a lot of very well formed opinions on very little information in here. Goat, you can only do what you think is right and if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person and you think she feels the same way then good luck to you. I guess you've already thought this through a lot so if you want to share please feel free to answer any of these questions. What is it about her that makes you want to commit to building a life together? Have you got people outside the forum you've talked to about this who see you both together? What were some of their thoughts? You said you had kids? How is she with them, what are her thoughts towards being a step mum and how do you think your kids will be with it? You mentioned a divorce still going through. I know they can take a long time but how come you got divorced? What has been the hold up? Do you think you have mentally processed that enough to make another commitment at this stage? If she says no, are you prepared for that? Not to say that's not a reason to ask but more a case of if this isn't the right time for her are you OK to keep dating as it is or do you need to know she's at the same place in the relationship at the same time you are? To be fair I feel most of us did a bit of this: If you're sure - are you sure? We're not, but alright then, we're with you dude, hope it's good, real good.
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Post by cubby on May 24, 2022 5:51:17 GMT
There's a lot of very well formed opinions on very little information in here. Goat, you can only do what you think is right and if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person and you think she feels the same way then good luck to you. I guess you've already thought this through a lot so if you want to share please feel free to answer any of these questions. What is it about her that makes you want to commit to building a life together? Have you got people outside the forum you've talked to about this who see you both together? What were some of their thoughts? You said you had kids? How is she with them, what are her thoughts towards being a step mum and how do you think your kids will be with it? You mentioned a divorce still going through. I know they can take a long time but how come you got divorced? What has been the hold up? Do you think you have mentally processed that enough to make another commitment at this stage? If she says no, are you prepared for that? Not to say that's not a reason to ask but more a case of if this isn't the right time for her are you OK to keep dating as it is or do you need to know she's at the same place in the relationship at the same time you are? TLDR - FHUTA
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Post by MolarAm🔵 on May 24, 2022 6:22:31 GMT
Goat, you do whatever you think is right.
Just please, please, whatever you do, have a care for us and our entertainment. It would be very selfish of you to go off making decisions without thinking about the lols.
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Post by MolarAm🔵 on May 24, 2022 6:23:13 GMT
Seriously though, good luck!
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Post by Aunt Alison on May 24, 2022 6:26:12 GMT
I'm surprised it's the engagement that's got people riled up. Having your vasectomy reversed seems like the a much more serious commitment and potentially a lot more expensive than a 3.5k ring
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Post by nazo on May 24, 2022 6:52:35 GMT
If things don’t work out you can always consider selling the film rights. I bet Richard Curtis would pay handsomely.
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Post by Sarfrin on May 24, 2022 7:03:27 GMT
There's a lot of very well formed opinions on very little information in here. This. What goat has posted here is only small slices of what makes up a relationship, and mainly only the tricky parts.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2022 7:40:15 GMT
There's a lot of very well formed opinions on very little information in here. This. What goat has posted here is only small slices of what makes up a relationship, and mainly only the tricky parts. If no one here gave their opinion on anything regardless of the amount of information each of us had, it would be a pretty quiet place. Seems odd to chastise people for posting responses to other posts on a forum.
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Post by Aunt Alison on May 24, 2022 7:45:36 GMT
To be honest, I don't think all the well intentioned advice and amateur therapy is going to make a blind bit of difference. He's going to continue running into this head first and it will all fall on deaf ears because those ears are in love
Best anyone can really do is wish him well and be there if it doesn't work out
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Post by dmukgr on May 24, 2022 7:46:38 GMT
Goatsie is thinking with his dick - we all are guilty of that. The fact that he does it whilst keeping his humour, and us entertained is great and yeah, what Wuntyate says, we also all post facts without knowing anything about what we are talking about (we all use this forum to waste time as well as being social). Do I think he is making a mistake?, yeah, do I think in the long run he will regret it? That's up to him, I tend to regret things I haven't done rather than those that I do, so if Goatsie is like me, then he will be happy whatever.
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Post by 😎 on May 24, 2022 7:52:05 GMT
The armchair psychology is all well and good but I think the “potentially fuck up your life because it’ll entertain us for a few days” position isn’t exactly healthy or constructive either.
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Post by Dougs on May 24, 2022 8:01:04 GMT
That's all said in jest though.
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Post by 😎 on May 24, 2022 8:02:37 GMT
For the most part, sure, but there is an element of schadenfreude running through it expecting/hoping for a car crash situation. I say that fully aware I’m probably doing it myself.
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Post by puddleduck on May 24, 2022 8:02:49 GMT
This. What goat has posted here is only small slices of what makes up a relationship, and mainly only the tricky parts. If no one here gave their opinion on anything regardless of the amount of information each of us had, it would be a pretty quiet place. Seems odd to chastise people for posting responses to other posts on a forum. No chastising, just an opinion. I fully appreciate that this forum is almost entirely middle aged men and one of the things we've been taught over the years of our lives is that our opinions are really valuable 😂 But I do accept my post began by being deliberately provocative. I really just felt the speed at which a few people gave a judgement on either the wedding or the proposal, with such a tiny piece of information, is more a reflection of their own experiences than a desire to understand Goats situation. And I should recognise that really because I do it all the time and my wife rightly calls me out on it 😂
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Post by retro74 on May 24, 2022 8:06:08 GMT
I’m not looking for entertainment, I genuinely think he’s doing the right thing (other than spending £3.5k on the ring but I’m cheap and I think spending that much on a piece of jewellery is stupid)
He loves this girl, if they are married most of his issues of hiding in the background go away
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Post by Honk If You're Horny? on May 24, 2022 8:09:51 GMT
Yeah that sounds super healthy!
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Post by dmukgr on May 24, 2022 8:14:55 GMT
£3.5k for the ring is the bit that I don't agree with the most too.
(also cheap, and think what else it could be spent on).
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