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Post by Dougs on Oct 14, 2021 16:57:32 GMT
So fucked up, it's a great story though.
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Post by khanivor on Oct 15, 2021 3:17:48 GMT
There is the theory of the Mobius
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Post by marcp on Oct 15, 2021 9:04:19 GMT
So the upshot being that, because my wife has called her out for taking the piss, we now can't have my two youngest unless I am physically present. I'm drained from two and a half years of being fucked with in this manner. My wife is literally the nicest, most pleasant and positive you could wish to meet. My ex is a total fucking psycho. Think I'm going to have to go legal, because I have genuine concerns about my kids being under the same roof as her. Yeah, your mental health might not be great, but your 11 year old son is hardly the correct person to bare your soul to.
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Post by bbvdjc on Oct 15, 2021 9:26:01 GMT
Hi all, been lurking or so in here for the past ten weeks or so trying to hoover up all advice and experience.
On Tuesday next week me and the missus are going for an early gender scan at 16 weeks and I'm very nervous and very excited at the same time, I'm sure it's normal to have a preference but I don't want to seem too disappointed if I don't get the outcome I want.
This will obviously be my first so learning everyday about things to come, and going through mild states of panic and excitement each week.
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Post by MadCaddy on Oct 15, 2021 9:42:29 GMT
We didn’t find out the sex until the little un would pop out. I pretty much convinced myself we were having a girl and I was surprised to find we had a boy! Very weird feeling that I brought on myself. I don’t think I like to admit it but maybe I was really hoping for a boy but tried to tell myself that a girl is just as great, which obviously it would have been! I think if we get to have another, we’ll wait again
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2021 9:47:27 GMT
bbvdjc Best thing to do is once it's been born, if it's the wrong gender you just ask them to put it back in.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2021 9:48:48 GMT
In all seriousness don't get too hung up on the gender. I was convinced that I really wanted a girl, however the scan revealed a willy and it really didn't bother me. You just end up loving the fuck out of them whatever they are.
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Oct 15, 2021 9:49:31 GMT
going through mild states of panic and excitement each week. Don't worry, that general state of mind won't end for about another 20 years.
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Post by Reviewer on Oct 15, 2021 9:52:38 GMT
We were convinced it was going to be a bit bit more we have two girls and completely happy.
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Post by clemfandango on Oct 15, 2021 10:30:41 GMT
I always wanted a boy before I had kids. We have two girls and wouldn't change it for the world. Boys are little twats :-)
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Post by hedben on Oct 15, 2021 10:34:50 GMT
Yeah I really didn't care about kid#1's gender, and then we got the other option when kid#2 came out. I can see how someone with 2 girls already might be hoping for a boy or vice versa, but honestly, you love them no matter what so ultimately it's irrelevant.
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Post by Sarfrin on Oct 15, 2021 11:18:13 GMT
They are an actual whole new person who didn't exist before, who you made yourselves. That's amazing regardless of what gender they turn out to be.
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Post by mrpon on Oct 15, 2021 11:37:10 GMT
They can always change the gender later, no biggy
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Post by Dougs on Oct 15, 2021 11:40:47 GMT
Yeah, I like having one of each, feels nicely balanced. But wouldn't care either way. Boys are twats though, it's true. So 2 of them as challenging as my eldest may have been harder work than I thought I was letting myself in for.
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Post by marcp on Oct 15, 2021 14:13:51 GMT
It never ends. My eldest (17) has now been referred to an eating disorder clinic. It's brilliant that she's recognised it and is getting help, but I feel so bloody helpless.
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Post by Dougs on Oct 15, 2021 15:11:11 GMT
Eeesh. As you say, good that she's recognised there's an issue. Good luck dude, sounds like you have a lot going on!
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Oct 15, 2021 15:30:33 GMT
I would like to reinforce the general consensus that boys are twats.
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Post by Reviewer on Oct 15, 2021 15:36:41 GMT
The only thing I’d currently change about my two girls is that they’re so scared of things that shouldn’t be scary, like a cat that’s 20 meters away or a dog in the distance, or one that’s clearly really well behaved and on a lead. The older one has a really bad fear of being wrong as well, I’m working hard on that one and drilling in that practice is the only way to get better at something.
As far as issues go they’re pretty minor so far, as irritating as it is having a 5 year old scream at the sight of a cat or dog.
None of that’s because they’re girls, just annoying.
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Post by Sarfrin on Oct 15, 2021 16:13:23 GMT
My daughter went through some difficulties with her mental health recently. It's really hard to see it and not know what to do.
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Post by H-alphaFox on Oct 15, 2021 16:21:44 GMT
I dunno, boys are arses for sure but don't think I'd swap mine for girls. Especially little mini Mrs Fox's.
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Post by Bongo Heracles on Oct 15, 2021 16:36:24 GMT
Yeah, I don’t know if this is more common now or what but the girl and her friends are all very ‘love the one you’re with’ so we are always dealing with the general girls falling out with the friends group and them falling dramatically in and out of love with each other.
It feels like she’s going to the gayest school in the country.
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Post by RobEG on Oct 15, 2021 16:42:55 GMT
1 boy and 2 girls here. So I get the best and worst of both worlds. I’m guessing the girls are going to be bloody nightmares in their teens. It’s already giving me anxiety and the oldest girl is only 5!
The boy going to secondary school in a couple of years is also stressing me out but he has a good group of friends at school most of whom will probably go there with him. Plus others from football so sure he’ll be ok.
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Post by RobEG on Oct 16, 2021 18:56:19 GMT
My 2yo changed from calling me daddy to dad today. I don’t like it.
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Post by clemfandango on Oct 16, 2021 19:20:29 GMT
My 2yo changed from calling me daddy to dad today. I don’t like it. Yeah stop that, my 11 year old still calls me daddy and I’m fine with it👍 My 8 year old however just tells me off all the time, she is a little shit 😄
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Oct 17, 2021 1:14:56 GMT
I get called all manner of things by my boys, I'd really be quite happy to settle for dad.
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Post by Bill in the rain on Oct 17, 2021 4:51:13 GMT
Yeah, I don’t know if this is more common now or what but the girl and her friends are all very ‘love the one you’re with’ so we are always dealing with the general girls falling out with the friends group and them falling dramatically in and out of love with each other. It feels like she’s going to the gayest school in the country. It is more common these days. www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210610-why-more-women-identify-as-sexually-fluid-than-menI blame Willow & Tara! -- I'm not really bothered about girls vs boys. It's a bit annoying when I do my best to train my daughter not to be all girly, and then she goes and does it anyway ;-) You do seem to get a bit more drama with girls making friends and then that friend gets another friend and then they're out of the group and then they're friends again, and so on. I imagine having 2 the same is a heck of a lot cheaper, as you can reuse a lot of the first ones's stuff. Buying things like kids bicycles, which you have to up-size about once a week, is really expensive when you have to do it for both of them because one wanted the pink candy bike and the other wants the black ninja one.
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Post by simple on Oct 17, 2021 15:32:13 GMT
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Post by jeepers on Oct 17, 2021 16:31:58 GMT
The only thing I’d currently change about my two girls is that they’re so scared of things that shouldn’t be scary, like a cat that’s 20 meters away or a dog in the distance, or one that’s clearly really well behaved and on a lead. The older one has a really bad fear of being wrong as well, I’m working hard on that one and drilling in that practice is the only way to get better at something. As far as issues go they’re pretty minor so far, as irritating as it is having a 5 year old scream at the sight of a cat or dog. None of that’s because they’re girls, just annoying. My daughter is the same on both counts, especially the fear, dislike of being wrong. She’s a smart child but puts off learning for fear of not being able to do it. We’re taking the same line as you - that you learn fastest from the things you get wrong, not the things you get right. I mean it’s either that or she’s just bone idle.
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Post by simple on Oct 17, 2021 16:57:41 GMT
To be sincere for a moment -
Anyone got experience with telling a pre-schooler that a relative has passed? Baby Maybe is 2 and half and it looks like my grandmother is close
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Post by freddiemercurystwin on Oct 17, 2021 17:48:58 GMT
If there's one thing we've learnt it's that kids are remarkably resilient when it comes to people they know passing away, even toddlers and very close relatives, just gotta explain it in kiddy terms, we've generally added some bullshit about heaven and coming back as bird or whatever and the old every time you see a feather it's grandma thing. Christ I think I sound like a terrible father.
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