The Parenting Thread

I had to come back to this. This is the second time this username point has been made lol. For the record, it’s not scatological, and both this and the original username were daft piss takes by an IRL mate that amused me, and both are/were portmanteaus if you like. This one was supposed to sound soft and cutesy I think, some sort of gentle attempt at emasculation anyway!

I watched Pulp Fiction with the boy last night. Couple of beers each, crisps & a bit of chat. It was nice. Going to suggest Trainspotting for later in the week while we're off.

Today is back to more mono-syllabic stuff, but the brief connection was worth it.

Considering Trainspotting with my eldest but I think he's just that bit young. Might do Total Recall instead. Or maybe something like Prey, as he loved Predator.

My eldest could handle most of Trainspotting but the scene with SIDS (and the withdrawal hallucination afterwards) would probably be a bit much.

Not that it’s an option anyway, we haven’t watched a film together in ages, and she’s not that interested in my recommendations any more. She mainly watches teen horror movies I’ve never heard of, F1, or Outer Banks.

I won’t even tell you what I’ve watched with mine lol.

The two things I’ve been wary of are mainly sex and sexual violence in particular. Garden variety film violence is generally cartoony and they get that and will become very quickly desensitized. I also found it was mainly like a phase thing she viewed as a rite of passage or something and now she tends to watch bitchy teen comedies and has lost interest in anything considered taboo.

Partner’s nephew has divorced parents and his dad has watched Peaky Blinders and Game of Thrones. Those are a bridge too far IMO and his mother seems to have no idea why he is so interested in GoT lol. He’s only 11 or 12 too I think.

Once they reach high school age, get TVs and devices in their rooms and go to mates etc you are screwed unless you have IT skills to lock stuff down.

One thing I have noticed is that films that would have been an 18 or 15 in our day are very often a grade down now. I actually think anything that isn’t actual torture porn is more likely to get an 18 for swearing now - that’s a thing in America I’m sure I’ve read with their R ratings.

Anyway I got a card (it had ‘dad’ on the envelope, my first name inside, ‘love’ but no x’s lol), a Guinness bottle opener/sock set, some hot Pringles, and a dark chocolate orange (which she will be trying to pilfer). So I may have been projecting a bit there. She’s off school with the shits too, joy 😂

Username still checks out.

Happy birthday dude.

I assume you've done The Terminator and T2?
My son loved those a while back.
Last couple we watched together were Life of Brian, which he liked, and Holy Grail which I think he was less bothered about.

Inbetweeners anyone? 14yro daughter? Thinking it's perhaps more a boy thing but dunno. I think the school aspect will relate though.

The boy watched that (and both series) last year. We watched a few with him, squirmed and told him it was a bit much and he went ahead anyway! It's still very silly. And funny.

Same boat with my 14yo son - diagnosed autism/ADHD start of year (been a battle for years to get it, as we always knew but c'est la vie).

Before medication for ADHD, just getting to school was a battle we were slowly losing - since meds, been night and day. 

Still, an uphill struggle but nothing to what it was and he now has ownership and manages school so much better (we're lucky, in that his school have been VERY supportive, which fully ware is not always the case).

The meds can impact weight, and he is very slight as it is - doesn't do breakfast anymore (he is VERY defiant, which is one of the ADHD/Autistic traits) and dinner is not usually with us (surprises us sometimes though with an appearance) - I am forever cooking noodles on the stove at 1030pm when he gets hungry...and to be honest, just happy he eats and not bothered where! Weight seems to be steady now at least.

Life is a struggle, as others have said in here, but little wins and hugs every now bring it all into perspective that he is still a child.


edit: Really should refresh the page

Outer banks is alright - it's a cross between the goonies and the OC, in the style of The 100.

That sounds really similar! (The 1030pm noodle run) However our 12yo flat refuses even to countenance medication so we are where we are. We've heard from others too that the meds can really make a massive difference. At the same time, medication does seem a big step. As things stand, we're coping, so I guess we keep going as is.

100% Everyone is different - refusing to go to school was the breaker for us, everything went downhill rapidly (he was Number 1 in Yr8 for detentions, etc. Now, all the teachers say what a huge improvement he's made just through now engaging in class - just the odd DT now, and nothing serious). 

One positive we got out of all this, is that he now has an ACCESS card that works at all theme parks, so he doesn't have to queue (and neither do we) - EuroDisney was great just jumping in the fast pass queue for every ride - got to take what you can to make up for the headaches in between! 

FND is a good shout! I've watched (and loved) them all. Stick with it Dougs, it's piss funny.

Hello Jackie!