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Post by Jambowayoh on Mar 26, 2022 23:00:23 GMT
Hold fast Danno, I'm going to be proper cheesey but things can definitely feel bad moreso when we snowball issues and I'm not even going to pretend I understand the issues you're going through. I do know that if you want it to, even as much as it hurts in the here and now, things can and do pass and things can better, how long I don't know, sometimes days can be good and sometimes it can be crushing, that I understand. But for now we do count as long you want us to man. Much love.
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Post by Danno on Mar 31, 2022 22:57:24 GMT
Thanks Jambo.
I'm having a properly horrible night, I'm in that super lonely wtf am I bothering for rut, came looking for the thread, and that helped loads.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Mar 31, 2022 23:08:15 GMT
No thanks required man it's what we do.
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Post by Danno on Mar 31, 2022 23:09:50 GMT
I should shitpost less and help peeps more
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Post by Lionheart on Mar 31, 2022 23:11:42 GMT
Sorry to hear that Danno, sounds like you’re having a rough time. I’d echo what Jambo said, this is how you’re feeling right at this moment but it will pass. I’m glad his post has helped. Sad to hear you’re in a rut, you are a valued person and you won’t always be in this rut, there’s always hope and you deserve to be happy, as difficult as it might be to think that at the moment. There’s a lot of supportive people here in your corner so you’re not alone. If you feel comfortable and it’ll help feel free to vent or put your thoughts here or PM. Stay strong man.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Mar 31, 2022 23:12:02 GMT
DannoHmmm, I disagree. You should help because you want to and you feel have something to give. Give yourself a break.
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Post by Danno on Mar 31, 2022 23:21:41 GMT
I'll be fine in the morning. It's always so fucking bleak before bed atm though.
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Post by Blue_Mike on Apr 1, 2022 16:41:44 GMT
At some point I'll be ready to talk about my experience with depression, historic and current. I'm not there right now, certain mental blocks preventing me from going into detail. But having a read of this thread has assured me that any reponses I get if/when I do will be encouraging and supportive.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2022 16:55:51 GMT
100 days without drink round about now. May be a few days either side but who is counting!
£1050 on shrinks so far, definitely working. The £150ph anxiety specialist is a different level to the NHS guy who tried bless him, but had no clue. I find my life is a lot back to normal, at least "outside". I can go to the pub, meet friends, jump on the motorbike with nary a twinge of a panic attack. Haven't tried motorway riding yet, but can see I am getting there fast.
Still massively struggling with the lone anxiety though, it is when I am home alone watching TV or going to bed etc that I really struggle with. Not full blown panic attacks, but non stop breathing difficulties. It is stupid, I can do 2 hours gym and feel good, but when relaxing I can't breathe and feel my asthma is killing me. Go figure.
Making progress anyway, I can't keep the shrink up, not enough savings, will have to drop to fortnightly soon, but what is money trouble worth compared to living in agony and fear?
Not too far off a beer I reckon. My target is 2 weeks without any anxiety at all and I am allowed a beer. It is funny though, despite my noting of the 100 days I don't actually want or miss beer really, just i find everyone is fucking boring after 5 pints when I am sober, how the fuck do people hang around drunk friends all night? I join the start, but wander off after 3 or four non alchohol beers.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2022 16:57:46 GMT
I should shitpost less and help peeps more You really underestimate how important it is for other people to know there are others struggling. I am very open at work about my struggles. I have had at least 3 people approach e privately saying they also suffer, but are ashamed and can't say it out loud. Every time one of us posts it normalises that a little bit and genuinely does encourage others to see help, or at least know others are in the same boat. |
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Post by Danno on Apr 1, 2022 17:47:58 GMT
I should shitpost less and help peeps more You really underestimate how important it is for other people to know there are others struggling. I am very open at work about my struggles. I have had at least 3 people approach e privately saying they also suffer, but are ashamed and can't say it out loud. Every time one of us posts it normalises that a little bit and genuinely does encourage others to see help, or at least know others are in the same boat. Yeah, that's a really good point I hadn't considered. |
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Post by Sarfrin on Apr 1, 2022 18:57:31 GMT
You really underestimate how important it is for other people to know there are others struggling. I am very open at work about my struggles. I have had at least 3 people approach e privately saying they also suffer, but are ashamed and can't say it out loud. Every time one of us posts it normalises that a little bit and genuinely does encourage others to see help, or at least know others are in the same boat. Yeah, that's a really good point I hadn't considered. I also appreciate you liking my posts about Boris Johnson being a cunt. |
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Post by Dougs on Apr 1, 2022 19:16:09 GMT
Well done Ryan, sounds like you're making great progress. Keep it up - sounds like your therapist is really helping, make sure you tell them about when you are struggling (which I assume you are).
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Post by cubby on Apr 1, 2022 19:55:30 GMT
I should shitpost less and help peeps more You really underestimate how important it is for other people to know there are others struggling. I am very open at work about my struggles. I have had at least 3 people approach e privately saying they also suffer, but are ashamed and can't say it out loud. Every time one of us posts it normalises that a little bit and genuinely does encourage others to see help, or at least know others are in the same boat. Just to echo this point I don't really post in this thread much but I definitely relate to a lot of it. Also if you look at how many lurkers there are you're probably helping a few people who you have no idea about, as well as some of us extremely reserved and repressed regs. |
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Post by Danno on Apr 1, 2022 22:45:40 GMT
This being alone thing gets easier right
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Post by Jambowayoh on Apr 1, 2022 22:53:52 GMT
This being alone thing gets easier right No time limit, but like all things it will pass but only if you want it to. That's the difficult part. Holding onto it can be comforting at times but it will hold you back from the healing that you want. It really is a marathon not a sprint. Just one day at a time buddy, one day at a time. |
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Post by Aunt Alison on Apr 1, 2022 23:19:31 GMT
This being alone thing gets easier right It might help you to watch some Let's Plays with commentary or streamers if it's really getting to you and you don't hate that kind of thing |
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Post by Danno on Apr 1, 2022 23:26:48 GMT
I'm always searching for the no commentary stuff. There are few streamers I can stand since James/Kazameieras retired.
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Post by Leolian'sBro on Apr 2, 2022 1:19:45 GMT
This being alone thing gets easier right Eventually it’s something you can’t live without. The space to do whatever you want, explore any rabbit hole, order chinese takeaway in the morning, teach yourself something new. The silence is golden. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 2, 2022 6:57:27 GMT
This being alone thing gets easier right I imagine it must do, but I understand how difficult it must be. Even a week or so myself can start to trigger a bit of a downward spiral that can threaten to get worse if I'm not careful. Me and the Mrs separated for a while years ago and I really did find myself adrift. What it did do was lead me to discover new passions and I ended up making new friends and building my self confidence. I went from walking up on a Saturday morning having a panic attack at the prospect of having the whole weekend alone to looking forward to the weekend and the things I was going to do. Took time though and it wasn't a smooth ride. If it happened again now I would be right back to square one as well. All I can do is wish you well, and I do believe you'll find yourself in a good place over time. |
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Post by quadfather on Apr 2, 2022 12:15:37 GMT
It doesn't get easier. Instead you one day realise that you don't focus on it that way any more. You will start to fill the time with things, ever so slowly at first, until you find that you realise you're doing things you always wanted to do, but never had the time/insert reason here.
The more you question it, the more it'll just stay. The more you do things, the less you'll focus on it. But like all annoying things to sort out, there isn't a button to press or a lever to pull that sorts it. You have to wait. Tough.
And I actually wanted to come in here and vent myself, because a really good friend of 25+ years of mine has just been found dead in his home. I'm having a difficult time with lots of death recently.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Apr 2, 2022 12:28:54 GMT
Oh man, sorry to hear Quaddy.
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Post by Leolian'sBro on Apr 2, 2022 12:35:07 GMT
That’s really awful, sorry to hear that.
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Post by quadfather on Apr 2, 2022 13:25:37 GMT
Not even had a chance to register my friend dying before just finding out my last uncle has just been blue lighted into hospital ffs
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Post by EMarkM on Apr 2, 2022 13:50:51 GMT
quadfather If I can recover, you can. There are some things that are simply not under your control. Use your energy to do something about the things you can actually and meaningfully do. I hope things go as well as they can. You are in my thoughts.
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Post by quadfather on Apr 2, 2022 13:52:50 GMT
Yeah it'll work out. Just can't seem to get away from it at the minute. The deaths, I mean.
Cheers.
My friend used to run a pub I used to work in. And we used to have shots of asbach brandy as toasts over various things. I've just had a shot myself in remembrance. Which has now set me off
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Post by Danno on Apr 2, 2022 14:15:40 GMT
Aw shit Quaddy, sorry. I hope you catch a break ASAP
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Post by Danno on Apr 2, 2022 14:16:52 GMT
Yeah, that's a really good point I hadn't considered. I also appreciate you liking my posts about Boris Johnson being a cunt. Thank you for your service |
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Post by quadfather on Apr 2, 2022 14:36:16 GMT
And, like me, you can't spell rememeebrabnces either, so there's that.
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