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Post by Honk If You're Horny? on Jun 6, 2022 11:47:52 GMT
Lol fuck that noise.
Unless she's got an exhibition at the Tate or the Wollongong Mick Dundee Exhibit Hall she needs to pull her head in.
You simply showed an interest in her interests. Clearly you weren't boasting about your talent or trying to ridicule the artistic world.
Hang that shit on the Fridge.
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Post by Honk If You're Horny? on Jun 6, 2022 11:48:33 GMT
Also I've yet to see if that ring hand is attached to a body.
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Post by Honk If You're Horny? on Jun 6, 2022 11:48:44 GMT
A living body.
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Post by Dougs on Jun 6, 2022 11:49:52 GMT
Yeah, she needs to get over herself.
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Post by MolarAm🔵 on Jun 6, 2022 11:50:49 GMT
Honestly I'm a bit shaken by it, like this came out of completely fucking nowhere. She's been pretty stressed at work, maybe she's just venting or something.
But her issue didn't feel like venting, it felt oddly specific.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Jun 6, 2022 11:55:39 GMT
For real, if we're going to talk about respect and thinking of a possible future with someone there are some major red flags. One is the obvious need to tell you how objectively good she is at art to get all these awards and whatnot without being prompted, as if she had thinking about this seriously and needed to make you aware. The second is the cruelty to put your efforts down, clearly you sent it as a "look what I made" joke, if you're with someone who respects you and has any kinds of feelings for you they would cheer it on while mocking it with love where you're both in on the joke. That isn't the case here. Thirdly there's the self importance of her own ability and in addition the most likely possiblity that you have picked at something regarding her own feelings towards her own ability as if someone may belittled her ability or her desire to be an artist in the past so her taking it very seriously and feeling insulted about you sending the picture may have triggered something. The comment about you insulting art in general definitely feels like more is going on there.
Honestly it's that case of when someone shows who you are believe them, when someone feels they have the right to belittle you and essentially gaslights you into making it appear as though you are the one doing the insulting then I would begin to see that person very differently. I don't have any idea if it's happened before but these things often reveal themselves when the person doing the gaslighting feels secure enough to do it. I guess something to think about.
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Post by rockavitch on Jun 6, 2022 11:56:14 GMT
Draw and send her a picture of you telling her to piss off and cut your losses as if she's saying shit and putting you down like that already then expect more, "red flag" is usually what people say right?
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Post by mrpon on Jun 6, 2022 11:58:48 GMT
Dodged bullet etc..
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Post by MolarAm🔵 on Jun 6, 2022 12:00:19 GMT
I'll see how it goes tomorrow, after she's had a good rest and is hopefully thinking more clearly.
But thanks gents, it is good to know that I'm not actually insane here. Well, at least not for this specific reason.
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Post by H-alphaFox on Jun 6, 2022 12:01:03 GMT
Congrats Goat!
Molar, She is bang out of order. Artists can be weird though so she honestly may not see anything wrong with her behaviour. Still I'd poke back. I bet she doesn't even NFT, probably got sand in her foo foo because of that.
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Post by mrpon on Jun 6, 2022 12:02:29 GMT
Out of interest, what message/emoji did you send with the pic?
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Post by MolarAm🔵 on Jun 6, 2022 12:05:03 GMT
Congrats Goat! Molar, She is bang out of order. Artists can be weird though so she honestly may not see anything wrong with her behaviour. Still I'd poke back. I bet she doesn't even NFT, probably got sand in her foo foo because of that. Nah, she's an accountant, she's not hard up for cash at all. It genuinely feels sometimes like she doesn't understand how human emotions work. There's been a few conversations like that, where I just put it off as her being a bit weird sometimes. But never anything like this, to just straight-up insult me for no good reason.
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Post by Honk If You're Horny? on Jun 6, 2022 12:06:12 GMT
🍆 😍 👌👈 💦💦
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Post by MolarAm🔵 on Jun 6, 2022 12:06:25 GMT
Out of interest, what message/emoji did you send with the pic? Just "this is what I drew tonight, it's not very good haha", something like that.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Jun 6, 2022 12:06:49 GMT
I'd be willing to have a hard think about the importance of those situations where she's been weird.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Jun 6, 2022 12:07:14 GMT
Out of interest, what message/emoji did you send with the pic? Just "this is what I drew tonight, it's not very good haha", something like that. What a cunt you are.
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Post by DJCopa on Jun 6, 2022 12:08:24 GMT
Congrats Goat - lovely stuff.
Molar - My opinion is if you feel the need to explain yourself once for something so innocuous, fair do's. Ongoing, over a showing an interest in her hobby - no.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2022 12:09:20 GMT
Honestly I'm a bit shaken by it, like this came out of completely fucking nowhere. She's been pretty stressed at work, maybe she's just venting or something. But her issue didn't feel like venting, it felt oddly specific. Yeah, fuck that. That's not you at all. It's coming from a place where she feels very insecure about her art, and by you showing her some of yours, she feels as though it's almost diminishing hers. Art is "her" thing, and she's holding on to it, and projecting that outwards towards you. She wants your admiration for her talent, and by you producing anything, her subconscious is feeling threatened. Other parts of her life aren't making her feel valued.
I don't think she's a dick for it manifesting, as I don't believe it's intentional due to where it's coming from. I can actually almost understand her reaction, but that doesn't justify it. It's still a hurtful and lousy thing to thing to say, but by diminishing you, she's elevating herself, which then makes her feel a bit better about it.
Something like that.
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Post by MolarAm🔵 on Jun 6, 2022 12:09:58 GMT
I'd be willing to have a hard think about the importance of those situations where she's been weird. Yeah, this is kind of putting it into perspective now. It's not a deal-breaker yet, but it's getting close. I'll see if she has the self-awareness to apologise.
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Post by Kay on Jun 6, 2022 12:12:21 GMT
More than anything else, it just sounds like a massive sense of humour failure on her part. If you can't joke about silly shit like this with someone, then what even is the point?
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Post by cubby on Jun 6, 2022 12:12:49 GMT
Molar, you accidentally entered "her lane" and she's telling you to get the fuck out of it. She wants it all to herself. You can't share it, you can only admire.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2022 12:14:47 GMT
You might be holding out a while for an apology. I think the issues behind that kind of reaction go too deep for that. That's a response that's coming from years of her aspirations not being met and her work not being valued enough by other people (in her opinion). The fact she throws up about awards in the past. Well, that's not now is it. She's only got the past to bring up, hence why she still needs praise.
/lights pipe, pushes glasses up nose and sits back
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Post by mrpon on Jun 6, 2022 12:19:07 GMT
You know what it's time for? AN ART OFF!! Get posting!!
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Post by MolarAm🔵 on Jun 6, 2022 12:19:19 GMT
You might be holding out a while for an apology. I think the issues behind that kind of reaction go too deep for that. That's a response that's coming from years of her aspirations not being met and her work not being valued enough by other people (in her opinion). The fact she throws up about awards in the past. Well, that's not now is it. She's only got the past to bring up, hence why she still needs praise. /lights pipe, pushes glasses up nose and sits back Well if that's the case, then fuck that. It's made me fearful about sharing more things with her, like what random, utterly inconsequential thing I do will she be offended by next.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Jun 6, 2022 12:19:22 GMT
Yeah, as I've posted earlier bringing up awards that she got as a kid without prompting is a bit of a tell.
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Post by Lukus on Jun 6, 2022 12:19:24 GMT
Draw a super realistic turd with her face being rubbed in it.
'You're Dumped'
12" by 12" oil on canvas.
SOLD
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Post by H-alphaFox on Jun 6, 2022 12:26:14 GMT
Congrats Goat! Molar, She is bang out of order. Artists can be weird though so she honestly may not see anything wrong with her behaviour. Still I'd poke back. I bet she doesn't even NFT, probably got sand in her foo foo because of that. Nah, she's an accountant, she's not hard up for cash at all. It genuinely feels sometimes like she doesn't understand how human emotions work. There's been a few conversations like that, where I just put it off as her being a bit weird sometimes. But never anything like this, to just straight-up insult me for no good reason. Not so much about the cash side but does her art sell? I mean as wunty says it sounds like a validation thing.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2022 12:30:51 GMT
You might be holding out a while for an apology. I think the issues behind that kind of reaction go too deep for that. That's a response that's coming from years of her aspirations not being met and her work not being valued enough by other people (in her opinion). The fact she throws up about awards in the past. Well, that's not now is it. She's only got the past to bring up, hence why she still needs praise. /lights pipe, pushes glasses up nose and sits back Well if that's the case, then fuck that. It's made me fearful about sharing more things with her, like what random, utterly inconsequential thing I do will she be offended by next. Yeah man, it sounds like it's a bit of a deep seated issue.
That's not to say she WON'T get a handle on it. Just that it could well flare up again, and it will always be coming from the same place. If she understands that it's out of order and she needs to relax a little with it, and that by showing her your art you are not competing or diminishing her own, then it'll be fine. But it's up to her to put that work in and get to a place where she's a bit more content with what she is doing with her art. Feelings of unfulfilled ambition take root and fester. We will all have it to some extent, but she's got it in a big way.
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Post by Jambowayoh on Jun 6, 2022 12:33:09 GMT
I still can't get past the belittling of your own work tbh.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2022 12:37:57 GMT
Aye but in her head she'll be like "this guy is saying he can do what we can do my precious, and if he wants it too, it's not ours. it must be ours precious, OURS! show the fat hobbit he cants be doing what we cans do precious, show him, tell him!"
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