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Post by Ulythium on Oct 5, 2022 14:42:43 GMT
Thanks, Spooky - much appreciated.
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Post by retro74 on Oct 5, 2022 15:16:26 GMT
Sorry for your loss Ulythium, cancer is a fucking bitch
My dad was the same, never got checked out until it was too late
What is it with men? I never go to the Doctor no matter how ill I am, not scared or anything, I just don’t want to be a bother to anyone
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Post by Ulythium on Oct 5, 2022 15:32:39 GMT
Thanks for that, Retro.
I know what you mean, not least because I'm the same! It's completely ridiculous.
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Post by dogbot on Oct 5, 2022 16:38:52 GMT
Echoing the above, Ian who just died was the same, too. I've never known a braver man, tbh. Never turned away in the face of some serious shit... But he still dodged the doctor and it killed him. Don't do it, folks. Make the effort. Ulythium condolences, my friend.
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Post by Ulythium on Oct 5, 2022 16:54:54 GMT
Many thanks, dogbot. I hope you and Mrs. D. are doing okay.
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Post by dogbot on Oct 5, 2022 20:05:07 GMT
Many thanks, dogbot. I hope you and Mrs. D. are doing okay. She's doing ok, but I still don't really think it's entirely sunk in yet. It'll take as long as it takes, eh. Me, it's different. Close friend, regiment, company and sometime squad buddy and close in ways that only comes with that stuff, but not a parent or family member nonetheless. And I'm... acquainted with those losses anyway. Just kinda angry with him, still.
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Post by Ulythium on Oct 5, 2022 20:33:50 GMT
Perfectly understandable, mate - it'll take some time.
We're here if you ever want to vent.
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Post by throwingtuba on Dec 13, 2022 9:49:18 GMT
Hi All, I know everyone (understandably) hates this thread, but bear with me.
Back in March I started getting headaches, after a few weeks of back and forth with the doctor I was diagnosed with a brain tumour.
I had an emergency operation followed by four rounds of chemotherapy and a stem cell transplant.
I was a 39 year old, healthy, active father of a three year old and nine months later…. I still am (kind of)!
I had high grade, stage three CNS lymphoma which has responded very well to treatment. They can’t find any trace of the cancer and I won’t need another scan for six months.
The treatment was very intense and I’ve still got a few months of recovery ahead of me, but I’m optimistic about the future.
I was a lurker on EG for years and check in here occasionally. Just wanted to post a positive story and wish you all a happy Christmas.
All the best, Tuba
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Post by Ulythium on Dec 13, 2022 9:56:35 GMT
throwingtubaHoly shit, dude - what a lousy year you've had. I'm so sorry to hear about it; still, you seem to have coped brilliantly, and it's great that your treatment has gone so well. Keep us posted if you feel so inclined, and all the best for the holidays to you and your family. Here's hoping 2023 will be much kinder to you all.
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Post by wunty on Dec 13, 2022 10:06:41 GMT
throwingtuba...fucking hell! Chief that is intense. I am so fucking happy that things are going well for you. That must have been an absolutely terrifying time for you and your family. What a lovely outcome. I sincerely hope you and yours have a lovely Christmas and things continue to look so positive for you. It sounds like you've really been through it this year. Can't even begin to imagine what it would have been like. As Uly says, please keep us updated. You may prefer lurking but if you ever need to share some shit you're enduring, this is the place to do it. All the best man.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 13, 2022 10:06:57 GMT
throwingtubaI was reading that with a lot of trepidation. I hope you have zapped it for good, I really do. My sister is just recovering from a mastectomy due to breast cancer, and the amount of sick and worry it causes is off the fucking charts. Throwing positive vibes your way.
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Post by wunty on Dec 13, 2022 10:08:01 GMT
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Post by Fake_Blood on Dec 13, 2022 10:09:02 GMT
Holy shit indeed! Sounds like they threw everything but the kitchen sink at that thing and it worked! I've seen what chemo does to people, not sure about stem cell therapy, but absolutely amazing that you were strong enough to go through all that. Lurk if you want to, but don't be afraid to type something into the text box from time to time.
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Post by dogbot on Dec 13, 2022 10:10:08 GMT
throwingtuba glad to hear that you have had a positive reaction to the treatment. Take care of yourself and get better.
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Post by Dougs on Dec 13, 2022 10:12:56 GMT
Glad you FCUTA Tuba, well done! Definitely a good, positive message! quadfather, hope your sis is recovering as well as can be expected.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 13, 2022 10:14:13 GMT
So far so good. She's had to attend counselling for it, as it can affect you psychologically - you're constantly thinking about it, or whether its going to come back etc. Some people don't have reconstruction as they like the reminder that they've got through it. Others have reconstruction. She's had some other lumps and things checked out, and has regular visits to go through various tests etc. She's a tough old boot for sure, and is doing everything she's told to do, but it really is a fucking nasty curveball.
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Post by Jambo No.5 on Dec 13, 2022 10:30:44 GMT
FCUTA and happy New Year!
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Post by wunty on Dec 13, 2022 10:32:51 GMT
quadfather That's good she's been attending the counselling, I can imagine it would really go for your head. All the best to her man.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 13, 2022 10:34:56 GMT
Yeah, and ironically, she's a professional counsellor herself. So at least she's familiar with that side of it
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Post by Jambo No.5 on Dec 13, 2022 10:36:25 GMT
The psychological effects are the biggest one that that they don't tell you about, I got some counselling off my own steam after I got lost in the NHS system. No lie that counsellor definitely saved me from doing something stupid.
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Post by JonFE on Dec 13, 2022 10:38:51 GMT
throwingtuba Having this thread bumped up for a positive outcome of a horrible situation like yours is always welcome mate! Really happy you beat this thing; who says Christmas is not a magical time!
quadfather If it's any help whatsoever, my mother always secretly regretted not getting reconstruction (even at her old age) while a friend's sister (who did get it, albeit at a rather young age) swears by it.
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Post by Ulythium on Dec 13, 2022 10:41:15 GMT
quadfatherSorry to hear about your sister's situation, and hope her recovery continues to go well.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 13, 2022 10:55:18 GMT
Cheers all.
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Post by throwingtuba on Dec 13, 2022 21:36:40 GMT
Thanks for your kind words all. Quad is right in that the psychological effect is a major thing, putting your life back together takes time & patience and I’ve got a long way to go.
It does give you a new perspective on things however and the cliches are true. Family, friends and loved ones are the things that matter, not work, money or material stuff.
(Though this is easy for me to say as I had a secure home, a great support network and a supportive employer).
Reading the ramblings on helped me through some tough periods in hospital, I’m a particularly big fan of the ‘End my Neighbours’ thread.
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Post by quadfather on Dec 13, 2022 21:46:57 GMT
There's no rush man. Take it real easy.
And absolutely yes, it brings things home and makes it real doesn't it. That's a great thing though really, because we're supposed to do that but generally take it for advantage because these things dont happen often so we're not very well prepared for them, but bizarrely it does make you look at the perspective and you can easily zoom in on what's important, and that's great.
As for threads, I wouldn't venture too far into the dark souls threads; it's generally me bewailing my lot at falling off cliffs.
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Post by dam on May 24, 2023 7:35:23 GMT
Not a direct contact/relative, but one of my eldest's friends passed away last night, kidney cancer. 18. It's so sad, she was a lovey girl, I've seen them all grow up, leave school, in her first year at Uni, whole life in front of her.
No idea how they are all going to deal with it, I've got no experience of such a close loss so young. She was meant to be going away on holiday with a bunch of them this week.
Misdiagnosed as kidney stones for months, then stage 4 when they realised. Don't know how I'd deal with this as a parent.
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Post by nexus6 on May 24, 2023 8:07:09 GMT
Awful Dam, just awful
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Post by Ulythium on May 24, 2023 8:12:07 GMT
Yeah, that's dreadful. So sorry to hear it.
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Post by wunty on May 24, 2023 8:15:09 GMT
18... Christ. That's shit. Really shit. We all remember that age. The whole fucking world ahead of you. Finally an adult, able to go out, have fun, released from school and onward to the future. That's horrible.
I recall my mate dying, 19, end of the first year at uni. Cardiomypathy. He was on the phone to another of my mates when he died. Just like that. Started coughing and he was gone minutes later. No prior signs. That really fucked us up. I think partly I'm still dealing with the psychological impact even now. I hope your daughter is okay. It's going to be bloody rough and it might not even look like it has affected her as much as you think, but it will. My sincerest condolences to you, your daughter and her friends family.
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Post by JuniorFE on May 24, 2023 8:21:06 GMT
Yeah 18/19 is proper shit. I mean, no age is a "good" age for something like this, really, but you've got so much ahead of you at that point... Condolences dam and belated condolences wunty
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