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Post by Danno on May 25, 2022 21:01:07 GMT
I can't recommend therapy (talking therapy, rather than CBT) enough. Oh it’s brilliant. I still do 1 hour a week and always enjoy it it got me through a really rough period in my life where it felt like everything was going wrong and I had a spiralling out of control drug habit. I never thought therapy would work on/with me but I wouldn’t be where I am today without it Wish I could still afford it, Gordon (my former therapist) is a saint |
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Post by Danno on May 25, 2022 21:02:05 GMT
I'm meant to be going with her but if it goes tits up, I've still got the hotel reservation and I can't cancel it so yeah man absolutely. You better mean this dude! |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2022 21:03:19 GMT
Maybe we can spoon
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2022 21:04:12 GMT
Also I'm less on edge so cheers for letting me vent.
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Post by Buu on May 25, 2022 21:06:58 GMT
My guy is called Paul and he’s helped me through so much. But if it wasn’t for work I wouldn’t be able to afford it
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Post by Danno on May 25, 2022 21:10:19 GMT
You better mean this dude! |
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Post by Danno on May 25, 2022 21:10:52 GMT
Also I'm less on edge so cheers for letting me vent. Happy that it helped, genuinely |
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Post by quadfather on May 25, 2022 21:11:07 GMT
And sorry to hear about your struggles with eating and sleeping. When I was on antidepressants I swore by Huel. Made my farts fucking stink but at least I knew I was getting what I needed... I occasionally get prescribed zopiclone for sleeping but I do the morning school runs a few times a week and the thought of trying to do that with a zopiclone hangover is... not pleasant. I've been trying plank exercises - about 5 minutes a day, low impact, but they're compound exercises so you get a lot of bang for your buck. Not helping with sleep yet but I feel I've got a little more energy. I know you're going to propose soon, and i get that. Because that's how you feel about this woman. And I know how that feels. But what you've been saying in this thread paints a different picture. I need to ask this, - is this really what *you* really want? |
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Post by 😎 on May 25, 2022 21:22:51 GMT
The guy asked for categorically no advice, let’s honor that request and let him vent what he needs to.
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2022 21:23:27 GMT
That's another conversation for another time but while I'd intended to propose for a while, I've seen another side to her over the past month that I really don't like and I really don't know what to do. One of my many failings is that I'm a big soppy romantic and I love people and things with my whole heart; it really hurts when people don't return that. The regular, short-notice cancellations and mixed signals have done my head in, I was meant to see her tonight but she cancelled this morning and then gave me shit this afternoon about the divorce not being sorted (I've just agreed to write off £80k I'd otherwise stand to get from the marital home just to get it over with faster, for fucks sake).
But really can't be fucked with that now, sorry mate.
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2022 21:24:15 GMT
The guy asked for categorically no advice, let’s honor that request. It's a relevant question and let's be honest, you're all thinking it! I'm just too tired and upset to get into it tonight. |
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Post by minimatt on May 25, 2022 21:29:28 GMT
Can I just say: 20 pages of ...ummm... men of a certain age who stereotypically struggle to talk about this shit, supporting and encouraging eachother in an entirely healthy, non-judgmental way is fucking awesome and heart-warming
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Post by Jambowayoh on May 25, 2022 21:32:09 GMT
As it should be.
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Post by Danno on May 25, 2022 21:37:01 GMT
The guy asked for categorically no advice, let’s honor that request. It's a relevant question and let's be honest, you're all thinking it! I'm just too tired and upset to get into it tonight. Not me. Seen enough in the other thread and so I'm more interested in you having a non meltdown night. |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2022 22:17:16 GMT
Non-meltdown sort of achieved. Cheers lads.
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Post by Danno on May 25, 2022 22:25:06 GMT
Non-meltdown sort of achieved. Cheers lads. Get in |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2022 22:26:14 GMT
My cock will be firmly staying in my pants though. Why even make the trip them? |
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Post by puddleduck on May 25, 2022 22:36:13 GMT
Spooky is saying what we're all thinking. Right? Right?
Well done Goat, you did amazingly tonight to vent and not have a meltdown!
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Post by Jambowayoh on May 25, 2022 23:31:17 GMT
My cock will be firmly staying in my pants though. Why even make the trip them? You gotta make him work for it. |
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Post by Danno on May 25, 2022 23:41:44 GMT
Fuckin hell I'm empty. Lol.
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Post by puddleduck on May 25, 2022 23:51:22 GMT
Fuckin hell I'm empty. Lol. In what way? |
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Post by Danno on May 26, 2022 0:00:47 GMT
Fuckin hell I'm empty. Lol. In what way? Nothing good going on. Need to look after my cat but my sister will happily take her. I'm just paying rent for some reason. |
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Post by puddleduck on May 26, 2022 0:04:06 GMT
If your sister took your cat what does that mean for you?
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Post by puddleduck on May 26, 2022 0:09:46 GMT
If you, or anyone, needs to talk to someone at any time you can call Samaritans on 116 123.
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Post by Danno on May 26, 2022 0:16:41 GMT
If you, or anyone, needs to talk to someone at any time you can call Samaritans on 116 123. I'm fine, just having a bleak night/week/etc. Breakup and no friends nearby. Appreciate it though. |
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Post by drhickman1983 on May 26, 2022 3:36:18 GMT
Ended up writing a very long post last night when I was hammered. Decided against posting it (though I did save it a word file. Maybe I'll dredge it up in the future) as it perhaps overshared, but I'm definitely feeling a bit down recently.
There's a quote from Luke Rhineheart's The Dice Man that's stuck with me since my early twenties and it's never rang untrue. If anything it seems more correct every year. And I guess it succinctly says what my aborted post said. Some of the same concerns and doubts expressed by others recently.
I'll stop there before I start rambling and end up deleting the post again.
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Post by damagedinc on May 26, 2022 5:40:32 GMT
Ended up writing a very long post last night when I was hammered. Decided against posting it (though I did save it a word file. Maybe I'll dredge it up in the future) as it perhaps overshared, but I'm definitely feeling a bit down recently. There's a quote from Luke Rhineheart's The Dice Man that's stuck with me since my early twenties and it's never rang untrue. If anything it seems more correct every year. And I guess it succinctly says what my aborted post said. Some of the same concerns and doubts expressed by others recently. I'll stop there before I start rambling and end up deleting the post again. Must be something in the air..I'm having a bad week. Nothing in particular just feel crap. Great quote! Feel free to share any ramblings here. That's what the thread is for. If it gets your head straight and helps, who are any of we to judge. None of us are experts in any of this and I'm not sure even the "experts" are. So whatever works for you. |
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2022 8:18:48 GMT
@goatapocalypse Glad your venting last night helped man and hope you have a more positive day today. You've got a lot going on and I can see you feel overwhelmed. Sounds like you're the one now who needs a bit of space, get some breathing room.
I hope everyone has a more positive day today.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2022 8:26:35 GMT
By the way, from my personal standpoint. Yesterday really helped me. So thank you to those who replied and took the time to read all my shite. I'm always in here to do the same. It's important. Talking about this shit isn't easy sometimes, but it helps.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2022 8:28:32 GMT
Danno Keep looking after the cat man, whatever you do. You might not feel like it, but your reward is a little hairy face that'll always listen to you and be a companion. It will also give you purpose and a distraction.
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