18 days and 3 weekends down now and finding it gets much easier. Haven't ventured to a pub yet mind you, which I'm sure will be the real test.
I think one of witchking's old posts is partially responsible for this effort, which will probably be the first time in my adult life I've gone a month without drinking. Just the mention of alcohol as a poison (if I'm even remembering correctly) stuck with me. I'm still only a short way into reading 'this naked mind', but can definitely relate to that comment a lot more now, and have started really believing that rather than taking the information on and shoving it to the back of my mind somewhere.
Well done man. I'm up to three months now (I stopped at Easter but had a relapse on my hols at the start of June) and yes, it very much gets easier. There are still dips that happen and there are a few times I've very nearly drank (finally giving on on the aforementioned hols - and it wasn't a good experience), but all in all yes, you can get there. The important thing is if you do have a relapse, just accept it, and then carry on from there. It can and quite often does happen, particularly if - like me (and you from the sounds of things) - booze has been a near constant feature of every weekend in your adult life.
The funny thing is that I thought I'd feel better mentally and physically for it and in all honesty I don't think I do, but I must do. Mind you, not having those horrible floaty dirgy next days after a night drinking is a fucking boost for a start.
Me and the wife have a Halloween party in a town 16 miles away in a few weeks. I'm quite excited at the prospect of going, having a nice time, leaving at a sensible hour and driving back. The alternative would be to get the train, spend a fortune on booze, feel like shit, either try and catch the last train home or spend the night at someone's house and not get back til the next day, feeling shit.
I mean. How amazing is that. Sure, typing it out makes me feel old and boring but by god I'll take it.
Sleeping has definitely been better for me. Before I'd drink at the weekends and have poor quality drunken sleep, then sleep like shit for the first few sober days of the week, before starting to sleep OK by Wed/Thu just in time to repeat the cycle all over again...
Health-wise I had an immediate change in acid reflux/heartburn and mental health has definitely improved. I'd been having anxiety attacks before which seem to have disappeared now.
And yeah, not starting the week or wasting weekends with a nasty hangover is bloody great!
Post by drhickman1983 on Oct 11, 2022 13:16:56 GMT
I'm definitely liking the lack of hangovers at work.
Still not sure I'm going to quit entirely but I'm looking to limit drinking to social occasions that fall on non-work nights, that take place outside the house. Given how empty my life is that will take care of 85% of my drinking
It's a bit weird, in some ways, back in my twenties and early thirties I was living with and hanging out with some heavy drinking types, but I'd drink only occasionally. But over the years but intake slowly increased and and semblance of control went out the window during lockdown.
Now many of those previous heavy drinkers, judging by Facebook (which is the only contact I really have with most people from my past) are pretty sober, but I have been drinking most days. Just strange how we ended up on opposite paths.
Thye've probably had to go sober if they caned it pretty hard. Those guys are always (well, not always but you get the idea) first to give it up. It's the likes of you, and I, that end up struggling as it has been a gradual build up over the years and we've integrated it into our lifestyle.
Like when I gave up smoking years ago. Folk I knew that hit it harder than me gave up way before I did, but because mine was a lesser habit it took me longer as I didn't really feel like was taking a massive toll on me.
...that end up struggling as it has been a gradual build up over the years and we've integrated it into our lifestyle
zoe can't remember surname at the Guardian did a piece a year or so back about how it's basically all our* generation's fault - that gen X & Xennials spent the 90s and early noughties smashed out of our tiny little trees and we kinda just made it "respectable" as we got older, drinking at home doesn't feel as hedonistic as bopping to techno in a german nightclub
* "our" meaning I'm assuming everyone else is just like me,minimatt the egotistical twat
I’ve not troubled this thread before, either here or at the old place, IIRC, but, go on…
I’ve never been a heavy drinker in the way some are. I never liked the “going out to get drunk” thing, even as a motorbiking teenager in a rock band. I do seem to have a natural switch in my head that says, “that’s enough now.”
But, honestly, I think it’s crept up on me a bit. I’m gluten-free now, so beer’s really off-limits in any meaningful way, but my downfall has become wine, whisky, rum, etc., especially while cooking.
Like many, I think it escalated during lockdown.
I have a “days since gluten” counter on my phone (114 today, fact fans), and have added a “days since alcohol” one just before typing this. It displays “12” at the time of writing: I’m fairly sure my last bottle of wine was finished on Sunday 2 October.
I need to mention it to Mrs. M. It’s not quite as often these days that it’s me that buys the bottle: she’ll get me one when she picks up her cigarettes now and then. Perhaps partly to make herself feel less guilty!
My drinking didn’t feel “out of control”, but I’ve had a couple of accidents while cooking, which may have been caused by drink, and I know it slightly changes my temperament in a way I’m not sure I like.
One earlier post here really struck home: I KNOW I’ve topped up a whisky bottle with water once or twice, to make it look like I’ve had less.
The main thing is, I suppose, I tell myself I’ll lay off it for a bit, and I can – hence the twelve days – but, as soon as it’s in the house, I’m more tempted than I want to be. Shoving the wine to the back of the cupboard inevitably results in it being retrieved, usually within hours.
It’s not like me to be quite so open about things as this.
It's hard to take that first step and admit you might have a problem. If you even have to ask I'd say you're definitely doing the right thing... Just aim for the rest of the month and re-evaluate. Might be worth grabbing a copy of this naked mind, as I've found that helped me massively come to terms with the part alcohol played in my life.
dfunked Cheers my friend – I was definitely expecting the "if you're asking the question, you already know the answer" matter to come up, as it's a phrase that's been buzzing around my head for months.
I'll look into that book. I appreciate it. Again: thanks.
quitsking There’s wisdom in your words there. It’s easy to believe there’s not a problem if you’re not as “bad” as someone else, I suppose, but, yes: if I’ve been tempted to restrict it or even hide it, as discussed, then I guess I know it’s something I’d be better off without.
The family one sticks out a bit, but the rest are taking the rough with the smooth imo
Also, reading this thread makes it difficult not to compare oneselfs intake to everyone else. That's why I see if there's an actual problem first or if it's a lifestyle that works regardless of intake(s)
Last Edit: Oct 15, 2022 14:55:04 GMT by quadfather
The family one, just to be clear: I’m usually the driver, wherever we’re going, and NEVER drink and drive, so for drinking to increase further, if that’s what’s gradually happening, would become restrictive.
Also, if I can burn myself or drop something while cooking, how long before it unfortunately affects someone else, if you see what I mean?
I know I'm the newbie in the thread, and therefore, no doubt, the twatty evangelist, but how's everyone doing?
Just over three weeks without any alcohol at all here, and I honestly feel good about it.
There have been a few evenings where I KNOW drinking would have made things worse all 'round – for example, some ongoing sensitive topics concerning the extended family – so I'm definitely happy to have had a clear head.
Between being AF and GF, I already feel ten times fitter and more energetic, so, hooray!
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