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Post by cubby on Oct 18, 2022 21:35:05 GMT
This is for all those little moments of self loathing you've just had, prompting you to mutter "you stupid twat" at yourself.
My one today was when I was letting a car pass, as they had right of way, I gave them a little courtesy wave because I thought he'd waved at me, but in fact the bastard was ignoring me and was just taking his hat off. That had me reeling for the rest of the journey.
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Post by elstoof on Oct 18, 2022 21:46:11 GMT
You’ve had enough of these lately to fill the first few pages
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Post by Zuluhero on Oct 18, 2022 21:47:59 GMT
I always wave, even if I've stopped for them, and they don't wave at all.
Then I feel smug for the rest of the journey.
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Post by Lizard on Oct 18, 2022 21:57:59 GMT
Buying Motorsport Manager 3 for the Switch when I already have it on tablet and to which it is obviously far more suited.
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Post by drhickman1983 on Oct 18, 2022 22:00:56 GMT
I woke up and...
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Post by robthehermit on Oct 18, 2022 22:18:50 GMT
Paying an extra £10 for the Elden Ring guide after I had the bright idea of cancelling my preorder. Vol 2 is costing an extra £3.
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Post by Nanocrystal on Oct 19, 2022 4:48:51 GMT
Errr... No thanks. This is what my brain does in the middle of the night when I can't sleep. About things I did literally decades ago. It's not very constructive. Suggest mods delete the thread.
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Post by Dougs on Oct 19, 2022 5:47:09 GMT
I bang on about it a bit, but can thoroughly recommend the Adrift podcast which is full of stories of these exact moments. The things that wake you up years later in a cold sweat etc. play.acast.com/s/adrift
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Post by wunty on Oct 19, 2022 7:07:34 GMT
This accidental waving lark is the exact reason I ignore everyone these days. Even if they wave at me, I presume they are waving at someone else. Better to appear rude than a stupid twat.
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Post by minimatt on Oct 19, 2022 7:14:38 GMT
if someone fails to give me a little wave after I gift some minor driving courtesy then all my other plans are put on hold. I will dedicate my life to hunting down the transgressor, making them rue the day they crossed me. There can be no forgiveness.
I have a very particular set of skills and.... frankly none of them are of any in use in this task. It's all very frustrating.
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Post by drhickman1983 on Oct 19, 2022 7:33:13 GMT
Look at this guy with actual skills!
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Post by EMarkM on Oct 19, 2022 8:37:09 GMT
Look at this guy with actual skills! Who claims to have actual skills… Big difference.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2022 8:42:57 GMT
if someone fails to give me a little wave after I gift some minor driving courtesy then all my other plans are put on hold. I will dedicate my life to hunting down the transgressor, making them rue the day they crossed me. There can be no forgiveness. I have a very particular set of skills and.... frankly none of them are of any in use in this task. It's all very frustrating. Or people who don't acknowledge you held the door open for them. Worse than Hitler.
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Post by Nanocrystal on Oct 19, 2022 8:48:43 GMT
if someone fails to give me a little wave after I gift some minor driving courtesy then all my other plans are put on hold. I will dedicate my life to hunting down the transgressor, making them rue the day they crossed me. There can be no forgiveness. I have a very particular set of skills and.... frankly none of them are of any in use in this task. It's all very frustrating. Or people who don't acknowledge you held the door open for them. Worse than Hitler. A very loud "You're welcome!" puts those people in their place.
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Post by Ulythium on Oct 19, 2022 8:52:19 GMT
Too many to mention, I'm afraid - in fact, if I haven't muttered, "You stupid twat" to myself three times before breakfast, it means I'm still in bed.
The really dumb thing is that most of the incidents that haunt me, in addition to being banal beyond description, happened forever ago.
On a logical basis, I know there's every chance I'm literally the only person on the planet who even remembers them, but the memories are still enough to affect my mood all this time later.
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Post by JuniorFE on Oct 19, 2022 9:00:06 GMT
Too many to mention, I'm afraid - in fact, if I haven't muttered, "You stupid twat" to myself three times before breakfast, it means I'm still in bed. The really dumb thing is that most of the incidents that haunt me, in addition to being banal beyond description, happened forever ago. On a logical basis, I know there's every chance I'm literally the only person on the planet who even remembers them, but the memories are still enough to affect my mood all this time later. Every damn time...
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Post by Ulythium on Oct 19, 2022 9:10:46 GMT
Thanks, quitsking. I actually do mindfulness most days... or at least, I try to. In the early stages, I was pretty regimented about doing a session each day, and really tried to give it my full attention; now, though, it's one of the first things to drop off my agenda if I'm too busy to fit everything in, and even when I get around to trying I'm often half-assing it. Really ought to change that.
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Post by cubby on Oct 19, 2022 9:44:11 GMT
Errr... No thanks. This is what my brain does in the middle of the night when I can't sleep. About things I did literally decades ago. It's not very constructive. Suggest mods delete the thread. As part of the MBSR course I've been doing, I had to keep a diary of Unpleasant Events each day this week and look at how my body felt and my emotions. Then I had to look at how revisting the moment for my diary made me feel and it was exactly the same. The lesson being (I'm assuming) that we shouldn't dwell on the past, especially not the negative as it just reinforces the crap feelings you have. Besides, I'd never be out of this thread... This was part of my thinking for this thread. If we can write these awful thoughts down hopefully it'll get it out of us somewhat, a bit of a collective cbt effort.
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Post by Ulythium on Oct 19, 2022 10:02:41 GMT
This was part of my thinking for this thread. If we can write these awful thoughts down hopefully it'll get it out of us somewhat, a bit of a collective cbt effort.
According to the Urban Dictionary:
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Post by RumMonkey on Oct 19, 2022 10:06:42 GMT
This is the emo version of the unsmooth moments thread.
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Post by Psiloc on Oct 19, 2022 10:16:39 GMT
Glad it's not just me who does the cringe memories thing. It's always late at night too. In the cold light of day the very next morning I can think on the exact same memory and just shrug it off. Whereas at night it's like "I hope all the people who saw and remember this have since left the country or died".
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Post by cubby on Oct 19, 2022 11:15:34 GMT
This was part of my thinking for this thread. If we can write these awful thoughts down hopefully it'll get it out of us somewhat, a bit of a collective cbt effort.
According to the Urban Dictionary: I've been going to the wrong cbt sessions!
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Post by Blue_Mike on Oct 19, 2022 13:48:23 GMT
I worked for an electronics retailer while the UK was switching from anaolgue to digital TV signal. We must have sold several hundred Freeview boxes over a period of a few weeks, and a sizable number of them had been to the elderly who needed things explained to them in the clearest, most simplistic language possible in order to get across that, no, there was no way that they could just keep on receiving old analogue TV if they preferred.
After a while, you would get into that habit of just repeating the same things word for word to everyone who came in as it had become almost a sort of verbal muscle memory at that point, to the point where we were all basically going on autopilot with every customer.
Cut to me dealing with a couple in their forties, Sour-Faced-Scot-Woman and Miserable-Husband, and after I'd gone through the now well ingrained "just-smile-and-get-on-with-it-for-the-thousandth-time" explanation of the digital switchover, the wife must have thought my simplistic language and tone to be condescending, because she suddenly had a face like I'd curled one out on her doorstep, and with a level of sarcasm that only Scotch women of a certain age can muster, said "Oh, well excuse my ignorance!"
To which I, in "Just keep smiling, be empathetic and politely de-escalate" mode, without even a seconds' pause to consider what I was actually saying, in an altogether too cheerful tone, said;
"Oh, that's alright!"
The second the words left my mouth, the husband, standing behind her, near enough put his entire fist in his mouth to keep from laughing as she walked away in silence.
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Post by drhickman1983 on Oct 19, 2022 14:10:40 GMT
I know the feeling of being on auto pilot all too well.
Used to work in an outbound call centre, ringing people to conduct surveys about the level of service they recieved in a bank.
It was an awful job, and people would frequently, understandably, not want to talk to us. Anyway, it became repetitive, and I'd usually only half listen to people's objections to completing the survey. Much of the time I'd say something like "no worries, it'll only take 5 minutes" or something similar.
And that's what I said to somebody who had objected to completing the survey one day. "No worries!"
However, his objection, that I'd only been half-listening to, was that his wife had recently died.
He did not complete the survey.
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Post by baihu1983 on Oct 20, 2022 12:41:08 GMT
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Post by rawshark on Oct 20, 2022 13:14:22 GMT
Re: Waving. I realised in university that I'm slightly face blind (it runs in a spectrum from having difficulty picking out identifying features to everyone having monkey-esque faces). I would see someone walking up the road towards me, sure it was someone I vaguely knew from my halls, and I'd greet them with a cheery hello only to get a really confused look back from someone I'd never seen before in my life.
So since then I've learned to never wave or say hello to anyone unless I've got DNA proof that it's who I think it is.
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Post by Dougs on Oct 20, 2022 13:47:09 GMT
I used to work with someone with complete face-blindness. She literally wouldn't have a clue who you were until you spoke. Then she was fine. Took me ages to work out what was going on.
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Post by razz on Oct 20, 2022 16:34:02 GMT
Errr... No thanks. This is what my brain does in the middle of the night when I can't sleep. About things I did literally decades ago. It's not very constructive. Suggest mods delete the thread. I found a way to combat this that works for me, instead of blaming myself I blame my anxiety for it, literally tell it off, "well why didn't you tell me to say that at the time? Why tell me now? There's fuck all I can do about it now, you need to do better by me you cunt" and go back to sleep.
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Post by Lizard on Oct 21, 2022 22:15:58 GMT
I worked for an electronics retailer while the UK was switching from anaolgue to digital TV signal. We must have sold several hundred Freeview boxes over a period of a few weeks, and a sizable number of them had been to the elderly who needed things explained to them in the clearest, most simplistic language possible in order to get across that, no, there was no way that they could just keep on receiving old analogue TV if they preferred.
After a while, you would get into that habit of just repeating the same things word for word to everyone who came in as it had become almost a sort of verbal muscle memory at that point, to the point where we were all basically going on autopilot with every customer.
Cut to me dealing with a couple in their forties, Sour-Faced-Scot-Woman and Miserable-Husband, and after I'd gone through the now well ingrained "just-smile-and-get-on-with-it-for-the-thousandth-time" explanation of the digital switchover, the wife must have thought my simplistic language and tone to be condescending, because she suddenly had a face like I'd curled one out on her doorstep, and with a level of sarcasm that only Scotch women of a certain age can muster, said "Oh, well excuse my ignorance!"
To which I, in "Just keep smiling, be empathetic and politely de-escalate" mode, without even a seconds' pause to consider what I was actually saying, in an altogether too cheerful tone, said;
"Oh, that's alright!"
The second the words left my mouth, the husband, standing behind her, near enough put his entire fist in his mouth to keep from laughing as she walked away in silence.
You should be proud of this, she sounds like a bit of a prick, as evidenced by her husband laughing. Was it Maplin? I worked there for a while.
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Post by deebs on May 2, 2023 22:51:23 GMT
I have allowed my marriage to fail. Bit lost now, stunned. Heartbroken etc.
It's more on her, but I can't help but feel I could have done things differently.
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